Regret Not Having More Sex Posted: 09-13-07 16:15pm
i was a virgin until my late 20s, losing
it to my current girlfriend who is amazing
and who i love very much. she had previous
sexual partners unlike me and i find it
hard to deal with the fact that i never
just had sex. for some reason i waited and
now i feel like i missed outthe sex we
have is great but i feel ill never really
know how good the sex im having now is
because i never had sex with anyone else
to compare it to, unlike her. im not
saying im gonna leave her or cheat on her,
i just want to know what the concensus is
here. should i be feeling like this? did i
really miss out? what do i do?
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inTango
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2007 Posts: 38
Posted: 09-21-07 21:44pm
cheat .
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young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 09-21-07 21:50pm
inTango
wrote:
cheat
.
umm are you freaking retarded? are you
serious?
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young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Re: Regret Not Having More Sex Posted: 09-21-07 21:52pm
awkwarddepressed
wrote:
i was a virgin until my late
20s, losing it to my current girlfriend
who is amazing and who i love very much.
she had previous sexual partners unlike me
and i find it hard to deal with the fact
that i never just had sex. for some reason
i waited and now i feel like i missed
outthe sex we have is great but i feel ill
never really know how good the sex im
having now is because i never had sex with
anyone else to compare it to, unlike her.
im not saying im gonna leave her or cheat
on her, i just want to know what the
concensus is here. should i be feeling
like this? did i really miss out? what do
i do?
i think you are awsome for saveing it that
long
no you sould not cheat or feel that you
are missing out on anything because you
KNOW that you have a serious bond with
this girl that no one can ever destroy
pure people are hard to come by theses
days and i sure wish i would have saved it
for the boy im with now. it would have
meant alot more to me knowing he was the
only one
kudos to you!!!!
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inTango
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2007 Posts: 38
Posted: 09-21-07 21:53pm
calm down;
are you the girlfriend or what?
this is an open discussion and we all have
the right to express an opinion.
to the original poster: dude, if you don't
do it now and, god forbid, you end up
getting married, it's gonna be a lot more
complicated to do it later (not impossible
though).
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Mikolas
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Posted: 09-22-07 03:07am
Don't listen to him, he is certainly
entitled to his opinion and can do that
with his own life if he wishes, but he
hasn't given you a valid reason as to why
you should do something so vulgar as
cheating other then that "its harder to do
when your married". From what I observed
in your statement, you never really had a
big reason for holding your virginity, and
sex now that you have experienced it seems
to be quite a big deal to you, so then you
are going to ask yourself if she is more
important then sex. I don't think she
would prefer you having multiple partners
would she (are you concerned that you are
not good enough due to your experience
compared to hers?) But I would say its
pretty understandable and common (however
common it may be for men of this era to
hold their virginity past 1 for you to ponder
such things. That is a moral conflict you
must consider, nobody else here can really
say because we are all biased as a gender.
Pretty much a significant portion of the
guys you ask this question to will tell
you, go mess around and practice(at least
thats what they tell me). The ladies
however would approve that you continue to
be with her after giving your virginity
away to somebody who was important to you.
GL sir, I too remain a virgin for the
moment with my own moral conflicts.
there is a saying about quality over
quantity...Men in general have a
disadvantage when it comes to sex because
women are the final say...I thought the
same thing, that being with 10 - 12 women
total at one point wasn't enough
diversity...Well I got on a dating site
for like a year and a 1/2 and had sex with
somewhere around 40 - 45 other
women...After all was said and done, I
still felt the same except I got herpes
for my efforts...After that I worked on
quality(foreplay, oral, stamina) and I
feel a lot better about sex after that...
for you to ponder
such things. That is a moral conflict you
must consider, nobody else here can really
say because we are all biased as a gender.
Pretty much a significant portion of the
guys you ask this question to will tell
you, go mess around and practice(at least
thats what they tell me). The ladies
however would approve that you continue to
be with her after giving your virginity
away to somebody who was important to you.
GL sir, I too remain a virgin for the
moment with my own moral conflicts.
