Regret Not Having More Sex

cheat .

calm down;
are you the girlfriend or what?

this is an open discussion and we all have the right to express an opinion.

to the original poster: dude, if you don't do it now and, god forbid, you end up getting married, it's gonna be a lot more complicated to do it later (not impossible though).

Don't listen to him, he is certainly entitled to his opinion and can do that with his own life if he wishes, but he hasn't given you a valid reason as to why you should do something so vulgar as cheating other then that "its harder to do when your married". From what I observed in your statement, you never really had a big reason for holding your virginity, and sex now that you have experienced it seems to be quite a big deal to you, so then you are going to ask yourself if she is more important then sex. I don't think she would prefer you having multiple partners would she (are you concerned that you are not good enough due to your experience compared to hers?) But I would say its pretty understandable and common (however common it may be for men of this era to hold their virginity past 1 for you to ponder such things. That is a moral conflict you must consider, nobody else here can really say because we are all biased as a gender. Pretty much a significant portion of the guys you ask this question to will tell you, go mess around and practice(at least thats what they tell me). The ladies however would approve that you continue to be with her after giving your virginity away to somebody who was important to you. GL sir, I too remain a virgin for the moment with my own moral conflicts.

there is a saying about quality over quantity...Men in general have a disadvantage when it comes to sex because women are the final say...I thought the same thing, that being with 10 - 12 women total at one point wasn't enough diversity...Well I got on a dating site for like a year and a 1/2 and had sex with somewhere around 40 - 45 other women...After all was said and done, I still felt the same except I got herpes for my efforts...After that I worked on quality(foreplay, oral, stamina) and I feel a lot better about sex after that...

How about just talking to your girlfriend and letting her now how you feel? Some people are very open minded about the idea of having an open relationship or even getting a prostitute etc for a one night stand..and you might be suprised by her reaction. Some can see sex for what it is, especially men, a physical act of pleasure. As long as their is no emotional connections involved, some girls are fine with that idea. BUT WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT CHEAT ON HER! If she says NO, this relationship is exclusive, then honour that! or leave. Cheating on her will be disastrous for the both of you, especially if she discovers it a few years down the line when you might have a kid or two!

This post is nearing it's 3 year mark. Odds are if he was really so concerned about his sexual experience he has either cheated or discoverred that the girl you fall in love with at 20 is sometimes not the last girl you fall in love with.

For what it's worth I can't think of anything that we do in marriage that people seem to suggest you should never learn to be better at or explore how you feel about, except the one thing you're not allowed to do outside of your marraige. I think advising someone to go into a lifelong commitment to monogamy with zero sexual experience is tantamount to encouraging the failure of a marriage. Given what I've learned from different lovers in my life about sex and my feelings towards it, I would take sexual advice from a virgin before I would listen to someone who's had only one lover and discourages others from exploring their sexuality.