cheat .

umm are you freaking retarded? are you serious?

i think you are awsome for saveing it that long
no you sould not cheat or feel that you are missing out on anything because you KNOW that you have a serious bond with this girl that no one can ever destroy
pure people are hard to come by theses days and i sure wish i would have saved it for the boy im with now. it would have meant alot more to me knowing he was the only one

kudos to you!!!!

calm down;
are you the girlfriend or what?

this is an open discussion and we all have the right to express an opinion.

to the original poster: dude, if you don't do it now and, god forbid, you end up getting married, it's gonna be a lot more complicated to do it later (not impossible though).

Don't listen to him, he is certainly entitled to his opinion and can do that with his own life if he wishes, but he hasn't given you a valid reason as to why you should do something so vulgar as cheating other then that "its harder to do when your married". From what I observed in your statement, you never really had a big reason for holding your virginity, and sex now that you have experienced it seems to be quite a big deal to you, so then you are going to ask yourself if she is more important then sex. I don't think she would prefer you having multiple partners would she (are you concerned that you are not good enough due to your experience compared to hers?) But I would say its pretty understandable and common (however common it may be for men of this era to hold their virginity past 1 for you to ponder such things. That is a moral conflict you must consider, nobody else here can really say because we are all biased as a gender. Pretty much a significant portion of the guys you ask this question to will tell you, go mess around and practice(at least thats what they tell me). The ladies however would approve that you continue to be with her after giving your virginity away to somebody who was important to you. GL sir, I too remain a virgin for the moment with my own moral conflicts.

there is a saying about quality over quantity...Men in general have a disadvantage when it comes to sex because women are the final say...I thought the same thing, that being with 10 - 12 women total at one point wasn't enough diversity...Well I got on a dating site for like a year and a 1/2 and had sex with somewhere around 40 - 45 other women...After all was said and done, I still felt the same except I got herpes for my efforts...After that I worked on quality(foreplay, oral, stamina) and I feel a lot better about sex after that...