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Laptop Is His Life! Posted: 09-12-07 21:28pm


I'm with someone who has an addiction. He's on his laptop all the time. And what's worse...he's communicating with a women from work and they've had suggestive conversations. Before I go on...is anyone interested?

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Posted: 09-12-07 21:36pm


Not really. This post belongs on another forum. Abortion debate seems like the wrong place for this. I'm not answering until this is on the right forum

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Laptop Is His Life! Posted: 09-12-07 21:38pm


First time user...sorry...this topic wasn't meant to be in this forum.

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Posted: 09-12-07 21:40pm


That's alright. I'll report it and get it moved!

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Laptop Is His Life! Posted: 09-12-07 21:41pm


Thank you.

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Laptop Is His Life! Posted: 09-13-07 14:06pm


There are twenty-four hours in a day and my guy spends approximately sixteen of those hours on his laptop. Doing what? His job, reading articles, talking on line with others about sports etc. The etc. part is my problem. Not too long ago I found emails on his laptop to a girl he works with. He had terms of endearment for her that were, "Good Morning Angel, i'm on my way into the office." Other conversations went like this, he would tell her about private stuff that goes on in our home. By-the-way, he's my second husband. Other conversations went like this, he asks her, "What's the weirdest thing you ever did with a guy?" to which she responded, she used to date a stripper. Another question from him was "What's the stupidest thing you ever did?" Which she responds, dated a guy in the office. He says he loves me but this talk is flirtatious and suggestive. i've confronted him about this and he swears he's stop. Thing is, he talks very very little with me and is on his computer all the time and locks it every time he steps away from it. So, now here I am asking for your opinion...I'm having trouble getting over this act of dishonesty and disrespect. To me this is a form of cheating.

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Re: Laptop Is His Life!
Posted: 09-13-07 14:13pm

msx wrote:

There are twenty-four hours in a day and my guy spends approximately sixteen of those hours on his laptop. Doing what? His job, reading articles, talking on line with others about sports etc. The etc. part is my problem. Not too long ago I found emails on his laptop to a girl he works with. He had terms of endearment for her that were, "Good Morning
Angel, i'm on my way into the office." Other conversations went like this, he would tell her about private stuff that goes on in our home. By-the-way, he's my second husband. Other conversations went like this, he asks her, "What's the weirdest thing you ever did with a guy?" to which she responded, she used to date a stripper. Another question from him was
"What's the stupidest thing you ever did?" Which she responds, dated a guy in the office. He says he loves me but this talk is flirtatious and suggestive. i've confronted him about this and he swears he's stop. Thing is, he talks very very little with me and is on his computer all the time and locks it every time he steps away from it. So, now here I am asking for your opinion...I'm having trouble getting over this act of dishonesty and disrespect. To me this is a form of cheating. Mad

I've had problems with my fiance using the computer too much. He used to stay on here ALLLLLLLL the time. Like until 3am. I would go to bed by myself a lot. It took a lot of nagging for him to cut down on computer time and realize that spending time with me and his daughter are more important than shooting people online LOL

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Laptop Is His Life! Posted: 09-13-07 14:22pm


What really has me troubled is the communication he's had with this women at the office. I love him and he says he loves me but you know how actions speak louder then words? Why would he ask her such suggestive questions? She's even sent him an email after work hours saying she's bored..just doing her nails, asking him if he likes chocolate chip cookies and then brings them into the office the next day. What do they want from eachother?

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Re: Laptop Is His Life!
Posted: 09-13-07 14:39pm

msx wrote:

What really has me troubled is the communication he's had with this women at the office. I love him and he says he loves me but you know how actions speak louder then words? Why would he ask her such suggestive questions? She's even sent him an email after work hours saying she's bored..just doing her nails, asking him if he likes chocolate chip cookies and then brings them into the office the next day. What do they want from eachother?

I'd probably be suspicious of that behavior as well. I would be super pissed if some girl form work made my hubby cookies. You better believe I would eat ALL of them myself too Twisted Evil

Send her some cookies made of salt haha

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Posted: 09-13-07 14:50pm


They may want sex from each other. Print out these e-mails and confront him!! Don't just sit by and let it happen. They may just want to be friends too, so that's why you need to ask.

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Laptop Is His Life! Posted: 09-13-07 14:56pm


This women is in a relationship herself. Second husband. Sounds like she's enjoying the attention she's getting from my guy and he's enjoying the attention from her and the jealousy he's seeing from me. The night she called him after work, my husband was out walking the dog and she asked him if I was with him. Now there's this whole lack of trust in our relationship. I hope she's worth it...cause I can see breaking up over this.

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Re: Laptop Is His Life!
Posted: 09-13-07 15:04pm

msx wrote:

This women is in a relationship herself. Second husband. Sounds like she's enjoying the attention she's getting from my guy and he's enjoying the attention from her and the jealousy he's seeing from me. The night she called him after work, my husband was out walking the dog and she asked him if I was with him. Mad

Now there's this whole lack of trust in our relationship. I hope she's worth it...cause I can see breaking up over this.

Well just because both he and she are married doesn't mean they can't cheat on their spouses...

The bottom line is that the three of you - and her husband so make that 4 - need to talk. Stop assuming and snooping and get the information out there!!

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Laptop Is His Life! Posted: 09-13-07 15:12pm


He's said she made the cookies for everyone in the office. Even if she did, why would she ask him if he liked them? I'm venting sorry. I don't like his behaviour. Talking with other women about body parts and the weirdest thing they've ever done with a guy is not right. It is in my book disrespectful to our relationship.

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Posted: 09-13-07 15:19pm

msx wrote:

He's said she made the cookies for everyone in the office. Even if she did, why would she ask him if he liked them?

I'm venting sorry. I don't like his behaviour. Talking with other women about body parts and the weirdest thing they've ever done with a guy is not right. It is in my book disrespectful to our relationship.

Ok nix the salt and make that pubes or something! Laughing

I'm just kidding.
I agree with Eiri, you need to print everything out and confront him about this. I don't think he should be talking to other women about his no-no parts and the weirdest things she's done w/ guys!!
She sounds like a hussy to me.
Wonder if her last marriage ended b/c of cheating??

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Oh............hell No Posted: 09-13-07 15:31pm


Sometimes I wonder if some of these forums are real or made up. There is NO WAY in hell my husband is going to ask such questions form a coworker, let alone stay on the computer all the time. Its your choice, the ball is in your court. Print off the emails as Eiri said but keep them for your own personal records...in case you need them one day, give him the ultimatum.....its you or this office fluzzy........and computer time has a limit...or, kick him to the curb. Life is too short to have to worry whether a man is being flirty with another woman or jealousy in a relationship. If you can't trust the SOB and he is not giving you attention....why waste another minute.............BECAUSE I LOVE HIM...........I hear it all the time. Not gonna put up with it....if you are willing too then stop whining and live with it, other wise, do something about it! Put your big girl panites on and deal with it! Just trying to convince you , you are too good for this crap!

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Re: Laptop Is His Life!
Posted: 09-13-07 15:54pm

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It sounds a little like you're jumping to conclusions which is why I repeat that you need to talk to HIM about this!

Why would I ask a friend if they liked cookies? So I'd know!

I do agree that the e-mails are wrong. Once again, you need to talk to him about this.

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Posted: 09-13-07 17:44pm


If you want the truth, I would seriously question my relationship if I was in your shoes. And if I confronted him and nothing changed.... he would be out the door fast.

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Posted: 09-13-07 17:47pm


Don't let it go on, confront him..Confront her, get it out in the open and what about her man, I'd be letting him know as well..

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Laptop Is His Life Posted: 09-14-07 19:38pm


I have no interest in confronting her. He shouldn't be having these discussions with her to start with.

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Re: Laptop Is His Life
Posted: 09-14-07 20:29pm

msx wrote:

I have no interest in confronting her. He shouldn't be having these discussions with her to start with.

What about her husband? Isn't he the second victim? Personally, I *want* to see the dogs of women who do these things, so I can look in their faces and say "You are the "other" woman" and disgrace them as they deserve.

This woman may not know your husband is married - you said she asked on the phone if you were "with" him.

Please, I really think you need to talk, all four of you. It could be all one misunderstanding.