My Husband Has Bipolar... Posted: 09-12-07 08:42am
My husband has bipolar...
We found out he had bipolar when we had
our 3rd child. Our realationship has
always been a roller coaster. He is the
love of my life and I would do anything
for him. He is a good dad most of the time
and can be a loving husband. His biploar
has been hard on us. He thinks stuff that
is not true and can be angry and mean.
Most of the time he says he is going to
leave. When he gets like that he puts all
kinds of stuff on me. Like all of my
flaws. He does not get viloent but he does
tend to look at women and chat with them
online. His is more of a sexual nature. He
says he loves me but needs to find
himself. He has cheated on me before. Is
it bipolar or is it him or me? Does he
really love me or am I a crutch? I beat
myself up everyday for not knowing what
else I can do. He is leaving this time.
Moving in with a co-worker who is going
through a divorce himself. I found out he
has been wanting to meet women offline. I
feel so used and helpless. He is lying to
me and I don't know how to get him more
help. He was on meds for a few months then
came off of them. The doctor switched them
and he still has not gotten back to the
point where he was a month ago. I wonder
how long it takes for the meds to kick
back in after ones been off for a few
days? His doctor can't tell me anything
because its confidential! My husband
thinks he can fix himself. I understand
how all of you feel. I wish I could have a
magic wand that made this all better for
us. I am so desperate right now and I
don't like that feeling. I am loosing the
love of my life and I am angry, sad,
confused, lonely, afraid. I pray everyday
that god to guide my life and I can't help
but loose faith sometimes. I hope i can
get some advice on this. Thank you for
letting me vent!
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indy621
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Sep 2007 Posts: 6
Husband Has Bipolar Posted: 09-20-07 16:29pm
I am bipolar and my husband has had to
cope with my threats to leave him etc. He
has just been very patient and took the
time to read as many books as he can on
the subject.
Is your husband on medication? That can
make a big difference. Patience and
prayer are the only advise I can offer.
That and educating yourself as much as you
can on the disorder. Bipolars need
support so I don't see how he can just
handle it himself. Good luck to you-I
wish you all the very best in this
difficult situation.
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Sharkette
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Joined: 11 Oct 2007 Posts: 5
In the Same Boat As You Are Posted: 10-12-07 23:08pm
I am also married to a man who was
recently diagnosed with bipolar II and is
not yet on medication. We've been married
for over 6 years, but for the last 3 that
I know of, he has been having affairs. I
am expecting our third child and just
couldn't take the lying and cheating
anymore. I left a month ago and it was the
hardest thing I've ever had to do. I
wanted to be there to see him through
this, but he just kept pushing me away. He
is the love of my life and I wish I could
fix him. I hope our separation isn't
forever, but he isn't getting the help he
needs to control his disorder. He also
became verbally abusive and unnecessaryily
cruel. If you need to talk, it sounds like
we have a lot in common.
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tatita
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Nov 2007 Posts: 1
Is He Bipolar Posted: 11-16-07 12:58pm
HI
I am going throuh something similar to
you, although I am not sure whether my
husband has som kind of disease or not. We
have been married for 7 years and blessed
with two beautiful children. Our marriage
has been kind of a roaller coaster but in
essence good. When our younger child was
born he started acting strange and two
months ago told he did no love me anymore
that he needed to "find" himself. Three
weeks ago he moved out of our home, has
bought a place to live in, has taken all
of his stuff, acts really agressive
(verbally things have never goten
physical) with me (not the kids) and then
is open to dialogue. I know he is under
treatment with a doctor. My therapist
tells me that many of his actions seem to
fit the "depressive side of the disease,
mixed with paranoia (maybe) I am
despereate because I love him very much
but I do not know how to help because he
is so angry at me. Telling me that
everything is my fault, telling me that
for years he said that one day he would
pack up his stuff and leave, telling that
everything that went wrong with us is for
me to blame. I take responsability for my
actions but at this point in my life I do
not know if it is him or some disease
talking. Help!
