Rafael,
this may sound weird to you, but from my learning experience about the brain, is that it doesn't like silence. how long can you sit in a quite spot with no thoughts in your head? a second, a half a second?
this is because the mind has a life of it's own. our minds and thoughts is what causes jeoulsy, greed, hate, predjudice, etc.
many wars are caused by someones mind not trusting the enemy therefore causing war. this is just a simple example I'm trying to show you.
now if this person who started the war wasn't even thinking about the possiblity that the other person may hurt them or try to take over their territory, which is caused by fear, fear of losing their safety and fear of losing their security, the war would not be started.
the mind is constantly causing chaos if one lets it.
there is a way to calm the mind down. it's not easy but can be done. you have to be aware of your thinking process.
watch it and see how often it's always trying to think, because it can't be still or quiet. the mind has to always chew at something. therefore causing hell for the person because they get no rest.
do you also dream very vividly? I do. I have like 8-9 dreams in a night and they bother me so much that I feel my sleep is not solid. I am hyper during the day where my mind is constantly thinking too and I feel I never get a moments rest.
the man I'm with is teaching me thru the course of the seven yrs I've been with him how to be aware of the mind and the maddness it can cause to some people like you and me.
lack of chemicals in the brain can also be a cause of making our minds even more troublesome.
did you ever look at why people can't sit still and always have to be doing something to keep themselves occupied or busy with tons of things to do? it's because they can't sit quietly and do nothing. their minds begin to chew at them.
so if they're keeping themselves occupied, the thoughts don't come in.
the mind is very tricky.
look at the mind of Hitler and what his thinking did to others. usually people don't like to be different and usually follow the masses. they're thinking and beliving Hitler caused mass homicide.
the mind even though part of us, also has a seperateness of it's own.
watch your thoughts, which you have started doing. this is the beginning of change.
that's what you need to do if you want to be able to stop your minding from constantly chattering.
I also can recommend a certain author to you if you're sincerely interested in learning about the mind and how to keep it silent.
this book is in the spiritual philosophical category in a book store.
the name of the book and there's many more that follow from the same person is called " THINK ON THESE THINGS" by: J. Krishanmurti.
he doesn't teach religion, he's not against God, but was a very loving human being. You can call him a teacher, but he says we must all learn to think for ourselves and not just parrot a paragraph when reading or learning somthing.
we need to find out for ourselves what people claim. don't just follow what a person says just because this person or people say to do it.
study it for yourself. test it. question it.
dont' parrot what you read. read a sentence and look at it from your own view what it can mean.
read "Kays" books with an open mind. don't read it in one sitting but read each sentance with thought. because each sentance is packed with such insightful wisdom that you can't possibly read it all in one day.
just pick it up from time to time when you feel like it.
or set a certain time of the day when you have time for yourself to reflect.
it's just a suggestion and been the only thing that has ever helped me with my crazy mind. My mind was constantly chewing and constantly chattering and never shutting up. I couldn't enjoy the moment and was always looking at the horrible things that occured in my past or thinking so far ahead into the future that I'd drive myself crazy with stress.
I felt bad about myself, always feeling inadequate, assuming people didn't like me or that maybe they were talking about me in a crowded room or at my job.
our minds do this to us when it's not even really happening.
it just likes to chew on things and stir up chaos.
if you can ask yourself when you're thinking something bad, like you're thinking your girlfriend is cheating on you, ask yourself is there's really proof that she's doing it or is it your mind causing these thoughts?
dismiss the bad thoughts when they enter. just let it go. test your thoughts if they're true or real or not.
Gosh, I have so much to tell you and not enough time. all I know is that this worked for me and it's taken years. I can now enjoy the moment and when I'm out in the woods taking a walk, I can now enjoy the beauty around me rather than have my head down feeling deprressed and miserable. I can now enjoy a rainy day rather than complaining about it. I can enjoy now flowers or the sunshining on a quiet saturday morning as I'm drinking my coffee looking out my window.
you want to enjoy what time you have on this earth rather than be in constant turmoil. I call it " the fire within". that's the way I always was and still am at times.
I hope you have the chance to pick up this book. you'll see what I mean when you see it.
I wish you peace and peace to us is all that matters in this world. am I right?
good luck,
I'm here if you want to talk.
sincerely,
linda
