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Q: Why Doesn't He #$%$

asked by: curiousmiss on March 23rd, 2004

New User

I have recently started seeing someone and we have been having sex for about 3 weeks now. The problem I have is that my partner often wont cum during intercourse with me - or it seems to take a really long time, or I have to finish him off with my hand. Is this normal? This is the first time this has ever happened to me (and this is far from my first experience or his) - and I doing something wrong or is there something else I can do? Any advice would be helpful. He seems to be enjoying himself - just hard to take it the whole way....

Replies(9)

dominique

replied on March 23rd, 2004

Experienced User

I really doubt either of you are doing anything wrong. Don't worry about it and just enjoy. :d have confidence!

2ferano

replied on March 23rd, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

I would not worry either. I had a man like that once. He just prolonged for me, and then after that it took forever to "finish" but, he was by far my favorite!! There is nothing sexier than a man who is there to please you, and who doesn't make excuses like "well, it has been a while"
just relax and enjoy. You may have to work a little harder and take some more time to finish him, but at least you know you are guaranteed yours!

needsomehelp

replied on March 25th, 2004

New User

I don't really have any advice to give...Maybe cause I don't understand the problem? Why does he pull out? Does he pull out right after you orgasm? I don't understand, can someone explain this to me? Question

2ferano

replied on March 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Needsomehelp...
I believe the problem is that her partner doesn't cum. And when he does, he doesn't from intercourse, but she "finishes" him off by hand. Or it takes him a really long time, and she thought she was doing something wrong. Some guys are like that though. And like I mentioned above, I wish there were more of them!

curiousmiss

replied on March 26th, 2004

New User

Thanks for your replies! Basically in reply to the post above (dont understand)- when we are having sex, we go for it for a while (even change positions), however no matter how long we go for it, eventually he pulls out/stops or I get tired and he still hasn't come. I ask if I can finish him off (ie manually) and sometimes he comes during this - but I am worried whats going on that he cant seem to come during intercourse? Should I be doing something different? It just doesn't feel right to stop like that....

DBabys

replied on April 4th, 2004

New User

I had the same thing with my boyfriend of 7 months he could go 2 hours with out cumming. He would make me but he wouldnt it took like for ages. I thought that I was doing ssomthing wrong and reassured me that I wasnt. But we finely solved the issue he had a problem he didnt have rythm with the thrust once he found his rythm he was good to go.

niceguy

replied on April 4th, 2004

Experienced User

If he does'nt come inside you then that indicates a problem.
Either you are too wet or too loose.
Try wiping off some of the wetness while at it or try keeping your legs closed a little tighter or try kegal exercises.... As for me, cumming inside is the best as its made for exactly that purpose. Sorry to be so blunt Smile

2ferano

replied on April 5th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Some men just take longer then others. And with some men, you have to work really hard for it. :d it isn't necessarily a problem at all, and if it is that does not mean that it is a problem with you being loose or too wet. It could be a problem that he has psychologically. But like I said earlier, just try different positions and techniques and whatnot and find out what makes him tick, but like I said you are so very lucky to have a man who can control himself! They are few and far between. Laughing

curiousmiss

replied on April 16th, 2004

New User

Thanks

Hi,
thanks for all your replies - was a nice reassurance! Good news is that my man cums during intercourse 90% of the time now (and if delayed it usually has something to do with a few too many beers). Turns out he was a little apprehensive at the start (and used to more masterbating than intercourse at the start), but has now relaxed and were enjoying it.

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