I was recently told I was being let go
from a job I loved. My results over the
past year were stellar.
I feel ashamed and worthless. After doing
some research and some thinking I came to
the conclusion that I maybe suffering from
depression. Not simply from the job loss,
but as I think back I cant recall a time
when I was actually happy.
On the outside I carry myself well, I have
been successful and dont want people to
know I feel worthless.
I have good friends from college, but I
havent made a good friend since then. 20
years ago.
I have so many questions. Has anybody out
there gone through this+
Oh yes. I lost my job, one I absolutely
loved, it was my life, almost same time as
you. I was devastated, felt worthless,
felt like I'd fallen into a big black
hole. The feeling of worthlessness is the
hardest to overcome I think. I hve
however done a lot since, got counselling
and separated from my spouse, but I don't
yet have a new job whic his very
overwhelming sometimes.
I have also been extremely successful in
what I did, part of the reason for losing
my role was the bullying that I suffered.
All told, a very bad year. How are you?
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estherlolly
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2007 Posts: 11
Feeling awful Posted: 01-27-08 12:56pm
I teach and through no fault of my own I
needed surgery, was treated for an illness
I did not have which actually hurt me
more, was given the wrong medicatin,
gained 82 pounds, pulled out my back (the
extra weight) and ended up being a Type 2
Diabetic. I was absent 81 times in one
year. I had doctor's notes for each
absence, did grades for my substitute
while I was out and contacted her
frequently. My district is COMPLETELY
corrupt and are about to be taken over by
the state. The head of HR was fired from
his last 2 positions and now he's a
"superstar" in my district. He NEVER
replies to correspondance even to my union
attorney. He fired me because (according
to him although I have tenure AND proof of
all the faxes sent and received reguarding
my absences) I abandoned my job.
He set a hearing for a year later to prove
my innocence however I'm not being paid
and I have bills. I am being forced to
settle like a no contest; which is to say
I'm not disagreeing with the fact that I
just quit going to work. This is so
untrue. I can't look for another job
until the case is settled and I get 25,000
to pay my debts.
Then there's the litle issue of the fact
that this guy is notorious for changing
personnel files and sending reports into
the state that result in the employee
having his credential yanked.
I have to deal with all of this plus try
to find a job and make sure he doesn't
malign me when called for a reference. If
he does it's considered breech of contract
and I can sue. HOWEVER- I AM SO
DEPRESSED! I've been a teacher for 15
years with stellar reviews I've been in
this district for 9 years and I feel like
I've been kicked in the teeth. I cry all
the time and don't leave the house a lot.
Sometimes I'm too depressed to go to
therapy. Has anyone had it this bad? I
feel awful. I'm on meds but I just feel
terrible. I hate to talk to my friends
about this because I feel like such a
bloody loser. If anyone has any advice
please RSVP. I'm trying to exercise,
control my diabetes, divert myself and do
lots around and to the house. I do stuff
with my dogs and it's fun to see them
outside frisking and prancing with other
dogs. I'm also looking into volonteering.
But if you've gone through this how did
you get through it? Can anyone help with
suggestions? I feel so alone.
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yogahoneybunny
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Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Posts: 880 Location: Strumica, Macedonia
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Posted: 01-27-08 13:06pm
Well, any change is different. Maybe
change your perception of the loss.
Closing one door only opens others. Is
there anything else that you'd like to do?
And go to therapy!!!
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lpar
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Feb 2008 Posts: 2
Depression job loss Posted: 02-11-08 06:29am
I just want to say I know how you
feel,because I had a job I absolutely
loved, but because the business(a
shop)wasn't making enough money, the boss
closed it down. I was so depressed I
couldn't get out of bed most days. I
finally got a casual job after about two
years, but at the moment am only getting
about one four hour shift a
week.Anyway,I'm still on anti
depressants,not sure if they help, but
maybe that would help you?
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georgina23
Supporter
Joined: 19 Feb 2008 Posts: 24
I just lost my job Posted: 02-26-08 11:29am
Hi
Me too i just lost my job.
It means that my flat is under threat
unless i find work FAST. But so is
everyone else so it's a little tricky.
Just a few months ago i also lost my baby.
So, not feeling that great.
However - did you know that the Chinese
word for redundancy is, Opportunity.
Perhaps it's not what you want to hear
right now.... but maybe there's something
in that?
Love to see that you're getting out and
about, playing sport and enjoying your
dogs. Great stress relief.
You seem to love your job - and you must
be good at it having held a post for so
many years.
So - what about going private? Helping
kids with stuff they need extra help with
from your / their home? Become a homework
helper.
OR become a champion of dying skills (my
friend has a 9 year old who cannot read
and write properly - simply because the
she is not inspired).
Try not to feel ashamed or worthless.
Sometimes, other people take advantage and
don't care who they tread on in the
workplace. Forget the HR person. They mean
nothing to you. Concentrate on yourself
and what you're going to do next rather
than letting the past eat away at you.
It's done.
Hey - i'll bet if you continue to be a
pillar of society (if you help kids learn
more or whatever you decide to do) you'll
have some great testaments from their
parents - great fodder to help your court
case.
