Could anybody please offer advice
regarding the following.
In a nutshell (I hope! ) I'm a 43 year
old male in good health and physically
active. I've been (and still am) happily
married for 21 years and will not be
totally happy untill its 61 years!
The problem is, that although my wife is
my best mate, she's not at all sexually
active and unfortunately, I'm the total
opposite! I have a big collection of porn
(which she does't mind) and am CONSTANTLY
thinking about sex! It's driving me mad
and I've lost count of the number of hours
I've gone off on my own for some "fun".
The thing is, it's never really
satisfying, I waste hours and hours on my
own when I really want to be with my wife.
All I do is get stressed out and tired and
ratty and it's getting worse.
My wife is EXTREMELY understanding, she is
aware of my problem and has even gone as
far (with my TOTAL blessing) of going to a
herbalist and buying tablets called Vitex
Agnus-Castus (which is apparently a
centuries old remedy used my monks to curb
sexual desire).
All I want to due is curb my incessant
need/want for sex and be able to get on
with my life and just have a good laugh
with my best mate (my wife).
Incidentally, when we do make love, which
is about once a fortnight (on average) we
both genuinly enjoy it and get as much
affectionate, as well as sexual pleasure,
it's just no where near often enough for
me and its a frustration I can really do
without.
I know that sexual offenders can be
treated with "chemical castration" which
sounds extreme but from what i can make
out, is just a case of taking certain
drugs to curb the sexual desire and that
is all I am looking for. The trouble is, I
don't know if these drus are freely
available.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 09-11-07 10:28am
Don't do that!!! Chemical castration!! No,
not a good idea.
The best thing I can think of is for you
and your wife to seek the help of a sex
therapist. He or she can help you two to
work out your differences in desire in a
healthy way, and improve your relationship
(if that's possible!) at the same time. It
sounds like your wife would be willing to
do this with you.
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dave01
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jul 2007 Posts: 61 Location: Iowa
Posted: 09-11-07 11:01am
I agree that therapy is probably the best
way of working things out. As for
chemical castration drugs, don't go there.
Yes, their initial effect is to
dramatically reduce your libido. However,
after about a year they do their intended
job of castrating you. Then it will be
your wife who wants the sex and you won't
be able to deliver, nor will you have any
desire at all.
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MikeH90
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Mar 2007 Posts: 330 Location: , Illinois USA
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Posted: 09-11-07 13:15pm
you should be trying to increase her
libido not decrease yours!
