Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 1122 Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
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Crazy Brother In Law..... Posted: 09-06-07 16:10pm
Hey everyone how should I handle this
situation?
We let my brother in law move in with us
for 2 months. He moved out last Friday.
The entire time he lived with us he did
not clean or cook, he never bought
groceries or picthed in for bills,
willingly. My hubby and I had to almost
force him to do all of this. Well he has
left us with a 186.00 light bill and
refuses to pay it. Saying we should have
let him stay instead of making him leave.
Well I wanted him gone as soon as his rent
was up no later. So he has copped a huge
resentment and hasnt spoken to us since.
I got the light bill today and called him
about it. I was calm and assertive. I
tried talking to him in a cool tone and
talk to him without my opinions. He flat
out told me he would not pay. He said
that we should have let him do what he
wanted.
I was so upset! I had to hang up on him
before I started cussing him out. We
never signed a contract or have any kind
of written agreement so how do I get him
to pay it?
This is only money but this man has ruined
my hubbys life and he is a user and
selfish. He should not be allowed to get
away with treating people like he does.
The reason I wanted him out was because he
started to come home drunk and would try
to order me around and cuzz at me. I
would not put up with another man telling
me what to do. This happened over and
over again.
So how do I handle this in a grown up way.
I would love to go kick his butt, that
would not be a responsible thing to do...
AWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!
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andrewcorbin20
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Dec 2007 Posts: 24 Location: Charlottesville, VA USA
Posted: 12-12-07 18:16pm
Rosie,
Based on what I've read, he does owe you
that money. Yet, he knows he doesn't have
to pay it. There's no written contract, no
verbal agreement, or anything of that
matter. Also, there's no way to prove that
HE used that electricity. Anyway, I'd take
it as a life lesson, and next time have
some time of written agreement. He's the
dumb one anyway, he's basically ending a
family relationship over this. It really
doesn't make a lot of sense to me. I
wouldn't keep fighting him for the money
though, because it's really no use. Good
luck!
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Rosie H
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Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 1122 Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
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Posted: 12-31-07 16:17pm
I just checked up on this post. He never
paid us the money and he never spoke to us
after that. We all finally came to good
terms on Thanksgiving.
Hes still a user and a jerk, but at least
hes no longer around me
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womaninpain
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jul 2007 Posts: 179
Posted: 01-01-08 02:02am
I have a sister in law like this...she is
a constant user. When I was pregnant she
got into trouble drunk driving and got
arrested. She called me and begged me at
4am to bail her out. I brought my pregnant
behind to the precinct at 4am and bailed
her out. It cost us $500 to do that. She
promised she would pay it back...months
went by and she didnt. She got her tax
money and she took us out to dinner but
that was it. We were having a baby and
needed the money badly and gave it with
the thought that we would get it back. So
finally we needed her, our car broke down
in a town where she has a friend who has a
shop so we called her and asked if she
could call him and have him tow it to his
shop and fix it while we wait. We didn't
get much of a discount, he gave us $50 off
because he said he wanted to give us that
because she was family...so when we
finally months down the line confronted
her about the money she said that we were
even because she helped us get our car
towed and a discount on the repair. In all
honesty I would have rather paid someone
else the money and saed the $50 if it
meant I would get my money back but I know
that she was only using this as an excuse.
Since all of this has happened she has
lost her license and depends on public
transportation or others to drive her
around, for a while my husband was doing
it behind my back because she now knows
that she will never get a cent from me or
any favors. My husband finally got fed up
because she started to expect us to take
her places and didn't even offer gas
money, so we are now at a point where we
say hello and spend holidays together and
we are civil but she will never get
anything from us, not even a ride
home...it's just the way it has to be and
it's sad because it's family but she has
burnt her bridges and we refuse to be the
ones she abuses.
You just have to write it off and just
remember that he will need you again and
when he does you won't be able to help him
even if you can you can't do it.
