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Q: Abusive Relationship Need Advice?!
asked by: Libra198 on September 5th, 2007
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Im new here, and I guess I need advice on how to handle my relationship of 4 years on and off. We started out friends, him wanting me as more but my feelings grew for him. We were together but very on and off for 2 years, and in that time the off time I had seen other people him as well. Well the time came where I made the full comittment and that has been a straight 2 years of me fully being everything he can ask for. I go above and beyond for him, he is sweet at time but very jealous, and brings up the past a lot. He made me drop all my friends that he didnt like, and the few I was left with became none at all, not allowed to go out, not even stop at a gas station for a water, wont take me out to have a drink in a club or lounge just wants to go where he wants. Recently things have become worse, I got pregnant for a second time (first one abortion), and he wanted to keep it at first but financially hes not ready, so we decided to have another abortion, (Im extremely upset). Explainng other things he like to hang out with his friends, have his time to himself but wants me home or somewhere with someone he approves of. The night before the abortion I wanted him there he was taking me the next day but i wanted to spend the night with him, well he pulled an problem move and said "Im haning out with my boys", tonight has nothing to do with tomorrow calling me a pyscho because I was crying hysterical and calling him non-stop. I went to my aunts house she took me the next day and I never called him, he called hours after and left a message saying HE wasnt mad and hes sorry for the way things turned out I didnt here from him in days he called twice but I never picked up. I saw him 5 days after this abortion and he chased me down in his car and made me talk to him held me and wouldnt let me go, saying he was sorry he was in love with me and he cant live without me practiacally crying. Saying I broke up with him because I never let him take me and left him that night he was just upset to see me go through it and didnt no how to handle it. Well guess what while talking to him I saw a hickey on his neck, so I told him to f$$K off and leave me alone he called a few times and I said its over he said hes in love and hopes I forgive him but that he was single and hes sorry. WHAT DO I DO, I still love him, and never did know how to handle leaving or staying I just need some advice from outside sources. Thankyou so much to whoever responds ! Sad
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whitetiger22
replied on January 21st, 2008
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I know this is late but, hears my advice to this. I to has been in an abusive relationship. He will not change for nothing. And if the guy tells u to get an abortion then hes not wearth it. Believe me i divoced my husband because he was almost the same whay as you bf was. If U dont leave him for good think about what he could do to you.

HOpe you didnt go back to him. Please update
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