IVE BEEN THERE DONE THAT AS I RAISED A CHILD THAT RESULTED FROM 2 times of intercourse and thsts all he did in 19 years honey if your not already pregnant or have children by this man run to the nearest exit as fast as you can. it will rob you of your youth and while you may like practically being a virgin again it will hurt to have sex again because if you dont use it you lose it. if he loves you he'll encourage you to go. if its control that hes after and your to trusting to see it he'll erode your life to the point where theres not much left of it. i was lucky i had someone waiting for me for 18 years . lonely years for him. where all i could do was be friends and cherish the platonic time we had.your drive isnt neccearily high just normal. as i said run.

No, it's not normal for anyone to just not want sex ever. He should really get checked out. Low testosterone levels are suspect, or perhaps depression or any other of a wide range of mental and physical illnesses. And if none of that works, sex therapy.

If he is not motivated to get it fixed, you need to speak to him about your concerns and your needs.

I am separated and promised /engaged to remarry to a man who has little or no interest in a sex life as well ......knowing this does not change my love for him it has been like pulling teeth to even get a conversation about us .....but it has come and we are trying to make a balance that we can both live with nether of us want children in this marraige as we each have grown children out in the world...so intercourse would not be a absolute for me nice but just to have him be a part of my getting off will be enough its all about choices ....choose to put up with your man as is or pitch a health forum and get you both to therapy or a face to face over coffee and line it out I need more give me more and I can do this deny me and I might have to find my peace of mind in another life that will not include you ....life is too short to live it alone in a relationship....thats the worst to feel alone in the same bed night and it never changes night after night ....Its the hardest thing to have to go through and it never gets easier ...so don't wait till you can't stand it go be satisfied with or with out him but get what you need then him or another , thankyou the read wazzywoman

My wife and I get along very well together, but we have not had sex in 7-8 years. I have found hand-written listings of lesbian clubs/bars and she has a number of female-female relationship movies, such as Desert Hearts, hidden around the house. Her expectation seems to be to have our relationship continue as is, but as much as I love being with her, I am seeing my life past very unfullfilled. I am seriously thinking about seeking an affair.

An affair is not your answer.. Talking to you wife and telling her your needs or maybe get some counseling

Do not cheat that is uncalled for and will only be hurtful and make matters worst and will not solve anything.

These are alwas touchy situations. I would recommend (if discussion does not resolve this) that you seriously consider your marriage. Denying sex (even if the other person doesn't like it) is not a good thing to do. If your marriage is worth it, but no budging on the physical intimacy... then perhaps you could look into an open marriage.

If the marriage is strong and truely about love, then seperation between the sexual drive and a loving relationship can be made. This may be met with harsh criticism, but there are thousands of couples that have open marriages. And... an open marriage with established rules is far better than some secritive affair.

Communication is the key...

The Dreadful Muse

Talk to him, ask him to get help/advise. There was no intercourse in my marriage for 12 years due to mental health issues my wife had. Don't have an affair, i did, it made things worse, it ended my marrage and left me suffering from issues of my own. If you love your husband, be patient and talk about it to him. Please try, dont be the fool i was.