karate7dragon
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I Need Help
Posted: 08-31-07 19:45pm
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I have been cutting for 2 years and i cant
stop. I want to stop but i need help. All
of my friends cut to accept for one. I cut
mainly because of stress and anger. Im
starting high school and my cutting is
going to get worse unless i quit. Im so
desperate and in need of a friend. I need
help. 
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young Girl
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Posted: 08-31-07 19:57pm
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hey buddy! well my name is suzy and let me
tell you a little about myself
ive lost a few freinds to suicide now. it
hurts really bad to think about them and
what they did
i used to cut (not much) in 7th grade
it was stupid
i regret it really bad
things may be bad now but in two years
youll look back and be like "what the heck
did i get so sad fr?"
if you wanna alk then PM me ok? im on all
night long
id love to help
be your freind and whatever else you may
need!
ttyl!
-suzy
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karate7dragon
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the Call
Posted: 08-31-07 20:22pm
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a few days ago i got in a huge argument
with my mom and i got really angry and
upset. that night i went up into my room
and cried. i called one of my friends. i
told her what happened and i told her that
i wanted to cut. she didnt know that i
used to cut before that night. a few mins
later she called me back crying and asked
to talk to my mom but i was home alone. so
she called my moms cell phone (at that
point i didnt know that she even had my
moms cell phone number). when my mom got
home i was still awake so she came up to
talk to me. but i still feel mad and upset
and i still feel like i want to cut
because high school starts on Tuesday im
really stressed out.
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young Girl
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Posted: 08-31-07 20:26pm
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yeah
sigh sometime fights with parents can
trigger that
just try and relax take a deep breath and
stop thinking about life
highschool will be fine i promise  i had a
great expierience my freshman year! i
looved it!
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karate7dragon
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In the Past
Posted: 08-31-07 20:31pm
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i have had a few bad experiences in school
in the past. i have been beat up, called
names, and teased. im sick of it!! im sick
of people!!! I hate it!!!
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twilight_mist
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Posted: 09-02-07 15:53pm
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I know it's more or less impossible, but
don't let them get to you. I was bullied
at least seven years (verbally only), and
then it suddenly stopped, but it has made
me a loner and i have low self steem to
this day, although that's many years ago.
(except from a few incidences about a year
ago).
Do not hurt yourself because of what they
say or do to you. Instead try to talk to
someone, or get out your frustration at
someTHING.
Try the ice cube trick (holding it in your
hand) or something else that is painful
whilst doing it, but not harmful.
and never give up
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young Girl
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Posted: 09-02-07 22:10pm
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| twilight_mist
wrote: | I know it's more or less
impossible, but don't let them get to you.
I was bullied at least seven years
(verbally only), and then it suddenly
stopped, but it has made me a loner and i
have low self steem to this day, although
that's many years ago. (except from a few
incidences about a year ago).
Do not hurt yourself because of what they
say or do to you. Instead try to talk to
someone, or get out your frustration at
someTHING.
Try the ice cube trick (holding it in your
hand) or something else that is painful
whilst doing it, but not harmful.
and never give
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wow
i like the ice cube suggestion! you know
thats really clever
you should stick around on this forum
we could use more people like you here!
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karate7dragon
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Ill Try
Posted: 09-03-07 06:27am
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Ill try the ice cube trick. but right now
i think i have i problem. the friend that
i called i still want to be friends with
her but i dont know if her parents want
her to hang out with me anymore. and my
other friend got in trouble over my house
yesterday so she might not be able to come
over any more. they r my only real friends
now i have nothing.
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PghMom
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Used To...
Posted: 09-03-07 08:09am
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I'm 33 years old and I used to cut
throughout high school, college and even
into my mid twenties. I don't know what
changed, but seeking help and finding a
support system(perhaps here) could help
you. Sometimes I still get the urge to
hurt myself, I tried getting
"professional" help and they were on their
own planet, not realizing that every
person is different and needs a different
approach in treatment. I know how
difficult it is to deal with parents or
friends who just don't understand. I kept
getting the "WHY? WHY? WHY?" question...
The important thing now is to get the help
you need. You realize it's a problem and
that's always key.... Don't let it turn
into something worse like suicide or
something that seems less, like becoming
an alcoholic but it is just as bad... I'm
still working on getting my life together
and I've found something that works for
*me*. I may be married and have kids, but
it's hard to get rid of the cutting
mentality because it's how I handled
stress throughout high school. But the
sooner you can learn how to deal with
stress in non harmful ways, the sooner you
can get on track.
Also, now that I am an adult, I'm really
embarrassed by the some of the scars I
have left on my body that will never go
away. It's a reminder of the pain I went
through, but it's also a sign of my
weakness of letting other people get to
me, who in the end, disappeared out of my
life and never really mattered. I really
believe we are all strong and confident in
our own settings. For me, I threw myself
into studying and learning everything I
can about well, everything. Find a
distraction for yourself. You don't have
to make yourself stand out because of the
negativity that surrounds you. It's hard
to do, but I made it through and I believe
that you can too. Start with the ice cube,
or a tray of ice cubes....you'll get
there....I'll try to be here for you if
you need it...
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twilight_mist
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Posted: 09-04-07 10:57am
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The-girlfriend: Thanks 
Karate: Perhaps you could have a talk with
your friends parents? if that doesn't feel
too strange
PghMom: yeah, pouring your energy into
something else helps many, at least
temporarily, and it can help raise your
self esteem too
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rosejackson
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Posted: 09-05-07 03:53am
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hi and welcome! im glad you realise you
have a problem, so you're almost there.
the only thing that really helps is
talking about your feelings. if you cant
talk to anyone close to you, it may be
best to talk to a counsellor, because
thats what they're there for.
professionals can help loads! i hope you
find other ways of dealing with your
feelings. the ice cube trick is a good one
and id definately try this
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karate7dragon
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!!!!!
Posted: 09-23-07 07:19am
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Right now it seems like everything is
going wrong. The kid who i have liked for
two years and is the only guy a actually
feel comfortable around and who i can talk
to openly i asked him to homecoming and i
found out the only reason he said yes to
coming with me was because he felt bad for
me! School is becoming to much and the
stress is showing in everything i do! I
cant take it anymore! i cant stand it!
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PghMom
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Posted: 09-23-07 09:32am
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You know what, High school sucks. I know
that doesn't help you, but I need you to
know that you will get through it. I
never even had the courage to ask a guy to
anything. I never went to any of the high
school dances, not even the prom. And I
realize now that I missed out on NOTHING.
Find something that you like to do. Really
try to look inside. I remember when I felt
like nothing. Nothing but a black hole
within myself. I felt invisible. I started
writing and then somehow fell into
photography. I never even dated a guy
until I was in college. And I realize now
it was because of my self loathing that no
guy wanted to go out with me. And you know
what, your guy said Yes. So what if he is
only going because he feels bad for you.
Reach down inside yourself and take
advantage of the situation. Use this as an
opportunity to talk him about anything.
Make it light and try to have fun. I can't
see why if he didn't at least like you as
a friend that would that be a reason to
spend money on a dance? Guys can be very
misleading. They will openly reject
someone they are friends with and make
excuses to hide their feelings because
they don't want to be rejected themselves.
Is there more to this story? If you check
this today, keep me posted and maybe we
can work through this together. Hang on.
High School was the toughest most
illogical time of my life, so I can tell
you that you will get stronger, but it
will be painful here and there. You just
have to hang on. If you are thinking about
cutting, try writing out your anger or go
get those ice cubes!!! I also suggest if
you own a camera, grab it and start taking
pictures of things in your room, a blade
of grass, a leaf. It's distracting and a
great way to focus on things that really
don't matter, but have a place in our
lives.
PghMom
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young Girl
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Posted: 09-23-07 10:58am
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do NOT let high school determine the rest
of your life or even stand in the way of
you being happy
i dropped out my sophmore year and it was
the best decition i ever made
i certainly dont suggest to you dropping
out or anything but highschool is a bunch
of drama and BS and fake people who wont
matter in your life when you leave school!
trust me
all those people i thought were
friends...ha! i dont even talk to any of
them anymore!
they are stuck in their world of gossip
and drama and im so over it
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karate7dragon
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I Need a Friend
Posted: 09-26-07 14:37pm
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i think the one thing that is missing in
my life tat i really need is friends. i
have one really good friend that goes to
karate and school with me and i tell her
everything but she is really my only
friend. i need more support from other
people.
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young Girl
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Re: I Need a Friend
Posted: 09-26-07 15:25pm
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| karate7dragon
wrote: | | i think the one thing that
is missing in my life tat i really need is
friends. i have one really good friend
that goes to karate and school with me and
i tell her everything but she is really my
only friend. i need more support from
other people. |
oh trust me
i know how you feel
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young Girl
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Posted: 10-01-07 17:06pm
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i agree with suzy. you've got a life ahead
of you. this can be sorted
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Richard Day Gore
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Posted: 10-02-07 06:34am
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Hey Karate,
Remember when someone bullies you or puts
you down, it says NOTHING about you and
EVERYTHING about them.
Best regards,
Richard Day Gore
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karate7dragon
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I Think Im In Love!!!
Posted: 10-09-07 14:18pm
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MIKE!!! He is cute. he understands me and
accepts me as i am. he helps me and gives
me advice. he cares about me and cheers me
up when im fealing down. he is the only
guy that i feel that i can speek openly
to. he dosnt judge me. i have only known
him for about two months but it feels like
ive known him forever. He is a great
friend.
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