Teen Pregnancy Forum - Vent.. Grrrr

Hey girls,
i figured some of you all have went thru this so im hoping someone can help lol!
Well tonight, tim went to a social (my babys daddy, my boyfriend of 8 months, just in case u forgot lol!) and I was sposed to go but I couldnt so whatever but hes stayin out drinkin all night and tomorrow he has a big darts tournament so hes goin out with his friends and I wont see him again tomorrow. Then on thursday hes going out of town ( winnipeg, 8 hours away) for a few days and hes goin wit his friends to go to some socials and stuff. But for some reason I am soo upset about this! I just keep thinkin "how come he can go to this social and I cant?" its my friends weddin social and I cant go cuz I cant be near a buncha drunks (makes me nervous and upset) and I get so mad cuz he can spend all his paycheques on goin outta town wit his friends to go drink, when im broke all week cuz im busy buyin furniture for the apartment and stuff for the baby (he gets mad at me for buyin stuff for the baby cuz he said I shouldnt buy it till its born but im 21 and a half weeks and I wanna have stuff for the baby in his nursery and be prepare for when hes born!)
im just wondering if any of u girls have felt this before? Like I love him and I trust him but I feel so jealous and I feel like I wanna get mad at him.. I keep picturing him cheating on me (even tho I know he wont) cuz im gettin fat an he'll find another girl whos pretty and who can actually go out with him to the bar and drink... I feel so low... Have any of u girls ever felt this? Sorry im rambling on but I needed to get that off my chest Sad

thanx all for listenin! Love ya!

Shauna

Replies(5)

Jaydensmommy

replied on March 20th, 2004

Advanced Support Team

Shauna..Omg I felt and still do feel the same way!!! Tell him that it is better for you to buy stuff now and slowly for the baby then all at once! It is easy to come up with smaller amounts of money at a time then a lump sum! Yes its all your money....But think of it this way: if...Iffffff you guys break up, you don't have to worry about him taking anything because it is all yours. In the long run it is really worth it. It would suck being left w/out anything. If steve were to leave I am stuck w/out a couch and bed!!! Luckily I bought the rest or got them given to me as a gift! Just stay strong, it will get better. I think that way all the time and I am not even pregnant anymore! Just think...After the lil one is born, its your time to go out and have some fun once and a while. Let him sit home a few times and get a taste of what its like.

~sara~

babyrae

replied on March 20th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Thanx

that really helped. I tried goin for a drive to calm me down but I kept hearin songs that reminded me of the summer and I started crying cuz i'll never get to have a summer like that again Sad

. Like im happy im having this baby and im excited, but sometimes I look back and ask "why? Why now? Why me?" ya know?
Im tryin to think of positive things so im keepin my mind off it by sortin out all the baby things I bought (teehee I bought a cute baby bag too!)
but thanx for responding and cheering me up Smile

it helped a greaaaat deal!!! Smile

shauna

p.S. So far, all the apartment stuff (cept for the computer) is mine Smile

so if we do break up, I get it allllll hahaha Smile

ur right about the money thing too.. I cant save money very well so might as well spend it on somethin worth it while I can:) lol!

Jaydensmommy

replied on March 20th, 2004

Advanced Support Team

It can be tough being a young mother, but I honestly think some younger mothers make better mothers than alot of older ones. Not all, don't get me wrong there are some really stupid teen moms. You will still get to have alot of fun after this baby is born. I have just as much fun now as I did before. I find myself wanting to be home more than out partying or whatnot. I'd rather have a few friends come to my house. I just worry so much when I am not home.

~sara~

allusivepond

replied on March 21st, 2004

Experienced User

Everyone raised a good point about if u break u wont be left with nothing which is good, but has anyone thort about the fact the u are buying all the furniture and all the baby stuff, where is the fathers contribution and him helping out with his soon to be bubby, I would be like u and cranky if he was going drinking for 2 days in a row but even more cranky if he was going away, I mean I get cranky at mick if we dont spend a couple of days a week together just doing something whether driving, or movies or videos or dinner or just sitting chatting quietly, I make sure we do this every few days or at least twice a week.

Does ur man know how u feel bout him going out so much

from someone who cant wait to have a jellybean all of their own

KissyBai912

replied on March 22nd, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

I know exactly how you feel! Sometimes I just get so mad at dewitt I wanna scream but I never stay mad at him. And I hate it....Sometimes I wish I could stay mad! Lol. But thats a good thing because my mom and I bought almost all of joshua's stuff and even though dewitt hates it (he feels like there is nothing left for him to buy lol, we tell him he can buy his first car....lmao) so I don't have to worry about what might happen. Just keeo doing what your doing. I understand. I feel left out when everyone is going to sleep overs and beach parties and i'm stuck here but I know it's worth it. My son is so much more important to me than going out and getting attention for being dumb....Lol. I can have fun here all by myself anyways! Lol.

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