This kind of thing upsets me. For one thing, he is obviously insecure about something. So he taps into your insecurities to make him feel better. Sorry to say, but its not real likely a man will be interested in dating a pregnant girl. I'm surprised he did. Is he saying that he is only with you b/c its worry less sex. Maybe you should ask. He may just be very insecure and afraid af loosing you so his way of keeping you is to make you feel so low that you could never leave him b/c nobody else will want you. This is not the kind of person you should have around. If you want to keep him you should straighten his a s s out with a quickness. Let him know that you dont "need" any man. You are just fine yourself. Also tell him that you will not b pregnant forever, and that alot of older, mature men (i don't meen old) find mothers quit intreging. I will tell you this about myself, I practicly had to beat men off with a ball bat once I was single again, and they were all well aware that I was a single mother. (luckely I found a good catch out there waiting for the right one) so don't you worry that men won't be interested. I'm sure your a very pretty girl. Don't forget that you are still sexy now too, do your hair n make-up get your confadence restored. Your boyfriend will feel this confadence all around him if you are standing tall, and feel good. Don't let him bring you down. Remember you are one of the most powerful creatures on this earth.......Woman!!

Am I right in assuming that ur boy friend is not the babies father?
Well if thats the case....... He wants u and ur pregnant..... So what makes him think that he is the only one who would want u?
I am sure that there are plenty of men out there who would like u for who u are and your man nows this and he is scared of losing u..... But there is nothing worse than a man who trys to controle a woman by putting her down...... Tell him to grow up or get out

He is obviously insecure and says them things to make himself feel better!

Cut off the sex supply, and see how much he really cares, and if he cant bare that, then be like "oh wat, ryan was using me, are u sure that wasnt u?!" hes tryin to make u feel guilty and worthless about trying to leave when u do by sayin "no one wants a prego"...And if hes low enough to say that, then I think hes the one with the problem.

Love mol

He sounds like my ex lol except I was pregnant back then this is my first anyway he is insecure about himself so he is trying to make you feel like noone else will want you so you can be with him. My ex used to tell me the same thing and I always though he was right. I used to be like 40 pounds heavier when I was with him and all he did was drag me down and emotionally abuse me. I believed everything he said. It just took me along time to realize. Now im happier with the man I have last thing I said to my ex was that he was wayyy wrong. And that crap about you being too moody is bs he is just being an problem . Dont listen to that garbage. If anything he should be supportive and understand what pregnant women go through. Since ive been pregnant, ive been on an emotional rollercoaster and the biggest crybaby alive. I get deppressed alot and I somtimes think im losing my mind but I know as well as my man why it is happening and when you get support it is much easier to deal with. You are going through alot right now so dont let him add to it. Tell him if he cant deal with what you are going through than you cant deal with his caca either. He will eventually get the picture. Good luck and keep your head up. Dont let him get the best of you. ~ erica.

I agree with amber most guys and I say most because their are exceptions out there, dont want a pregnant girlfriend especially when the baby isnt theirs. I once had a friend who was 15 and she got pregnant and the hardest thing for her was telling her dad and when she did he told her she may as well become a prostitute because no 16 wants the responsibilities for a baby. Now on some level that may be true but six years later she is with the best guy ever and they have been together a few years and are even trying 4 a baby of their own.

My point im not sure if I made one, but the only way to gauge where he is coming from is to talk to him, not yell at him or have him yell at u, if he starts yelling just sit quietly by and dont say anything when hes finished try and get ur point across, if this fails then u know that he is not listening and unless things are his way hes not going to talk to u. I would also cut off the sex its a good way to tell wot guys want.

Froms someone who cant wait to have a jellybean all of their own

Thanks everyone. One thing tho, jennifer that was a bit blunt.I do know that he hasnt been using me for sex because we just starting doing that and honestly he was the one that wanted to wait. Certain times we would mess around and he would be like "i dont think we should do that quite yet cuz I wanna make sure were going to be togehter a while" weird as it sounds, and hes only been with 1 girl besides me and is realllly picky and careful about that and has only had 1 other relationship of 4 years.. . . And I had that bladder infection and still havent had sex with him in 2 weeks its been and it doesnt bother him one bit. So I really dont think its the sex.


But yea, anyhow I know what he says is so mean and it angers me off so much and hurts me.. I was supposed to go up north to his grandparents house today but I told him I didnt want toanymore and he could go by himself so hes a little upset about that, I told him I need time to think. Which I need alot of it! Its weird tho cuz after he says them he apoligizes and says it was wrong and he didnt mean to hurt me etc.. But its like he doesnt realize it till its too late. I think he is insecure because I have told him about the guys that hit on me at work, their about 25, im 18 tho, but one of the guys is soooo cute ,tho I feel bad for thinking about it like that!! Its just I try to understand where hes coming from. .Hes had such a bad life sometimes I just think he doesnt know whats normal and whats not in relationships and he had a real bad family life. .No excuse tho I know to say that stuff so im trying not to be stupid but I will take time to think about it (i will prolly have to break up with him) but I dont want to make a rash decision. Thanks everyone*

You are a beautiful young woman kari & have a lot 2 look forward 2 so dont just stay with him because he's supported you through your pregnancy.When your baby comes along,you will devote all your time to it & how will he feel then? You need to decide if its worth being with him.
I dont think he's using you for sex-he seems to care a bit too much about you for just that but he doesnt realise that there are other guys out they who will like you! Regardless of whether your pregnant or not-that makes no difference.You need to be with someone who cares about you & doesnt treat you as if you're lucky to have them-he's lucky to be with you too! Its your choice at the end of the day but you need to be happy for you and your baby and there will be many guys who want to date you becasue your so blummin gorgeous!
Best wishes
liz x

Awww thankyou so much liz ,what a nice post!!!



I think ive come to realize whats goin on in his head when he does this..


Well okay,growing up his mom was always having affairs and cheating on his dad and jason was always in the middle of their physical fighting too.. Also, his dad had jason come with him to catch his mom staying at a hotel with the guy she was cheating on him with! So his life wasnt too easy there. .Then he was with this girl for 4 years and came to find out after they broke up that she had cheated on him with 2 other guys many times...So im thinking this, I think that he sub-consciously wants me to feel down about myself in a way so that ithink no other guys would want me so I feel like I wanna be with him more and feel luckier to be with him because he subconsiously is afraid that if I dont think that way, that I will cheat on him too just like his mom to his dad, and his ex to him. Does that make sense? Either way its not an excuse, but it makes sense to me. . . But I dont know if I wanna put up with that either! Hes called me all day tellin me hes afraid to lose me. . I feel bad if I break up with him but I dont know what iwanna do yet.

Jennifer. That wasn't necessary!