Sexual Health - Women Forum - My Girlfriend Doesn't Masturbate... Is This Weird?

Well, my girlfriend recently opened up to me a lot more when we were making out, she let me feel up her body and breasts and everything and its made us much closer and open to talk about a lot of things since we kind of took our relationship a next step.

With everything a lot more open now, I figured i'd ask her if she masturbates. I didn't want to say the exact word, so I just kind of asked if she has tried to give herself pleasure at all, and she said no.

Shes never been the type of girl to ever talk about sex or anything, or even make jokes related to it. She even admit that she feels comfortable talking to me about it, because with anyone else she'd freak out.

Shes almost 19, is it normal for some girls to just not try masturbating in their lifetime or something?

Replies(4)

Jude-Love

replied on August 30th, 2007

Active User, very eHealthy

It's perfectly normal. Especially if she's a virgin. Many girls will lie about whether or not they do, but if she is comfortable with you, then odds are she's telling the truth. Girls are taught their whole lives to avoid sex, sexual things, or being sexual because for women it is equated with being dirty or a promiscuous person. The opposite is true for boys, that's why it's widely accepted that they masturbate but it isn't for women.

ktkl

replied on August 31st, 2007

New User

It better not be weird because I haven't. As a kid it just never occured to me, now the thought of it just doesn't interest me. To me, sex is about the relationship, which requires another person. I don't have a problem with others doing it or think it's wrong, I just don't.

JH2007

replied on September 2nd, 2007

New User

Why do you think it's abnormal? I never masturbated alone in my life and I am 43. The first 42 years is because I thought one never should, and didn't know there is such act for female before at least 35. You can see how naive I was. Considering me and my husband spent the first 5 years of marriage apart, now I felt I missed out a lot. The last a year or so is because there is no desire to do so.

kshdfkjh

replied on February 10th, 2009

New User

My girlfriend is 44 and she has admitted to me that she has never masturbated ever in her life. She does have orgasms with me only through intercourse(no she is not faking them!)but she has no desire to do so. Also what I think is weird she will not let me bring her to orgasm by rubbing her clit or fingering her or oral. She has only cum once while I performed oral on her. She even squirted which got me totally turned on and now I always want her to do it.I want her to be more open with the foreplay and especially when I go down on her because all of my previous partners loved that and they always came. So I am a little frustrated with her attitude towards that.

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