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50326907
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Sexual Fantasies
Posted: 08-29-07 18:52pm
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i am a 22 year old female in a stable and
loving relationship.
I would first like to stress that i
believe myself to be a balanced person. i
believe in gender equality and all that...
i think sex should not only be consensual
(obviously) but that it should be
pleasurable and painless for both
partners. i would never hurt a person or
want a person to get hurt.
however there is just one thing. i
fantasize about women being raped.
sometimes about me being raped. i
obviously don't think that this is good or
that it should happen - i think it is
utterly abhorrent! but for some reason it
is the only thing that gets me off.
when i'm with my boyfriend i am sometimes
satisfied just by getting into the moment
and being with him and all that romantic
stuff. but a lot of the time i fantasize
during sex. when i masturbate, however, i
always have to think about women being
forced into submission. sometimes i watch
porn and it's always scenes like... 2 or
more men with one woman. staged rapes. or
forced blow jobs and stuff. i think this
kind of thing is gross but it really turns
me on. for as long as i can remember i
have always been like this.
i dont really what to think about it all.
i obviously wish i could get turned on by
more 'normal', 'healthy' fantasies. i am
ashamed of myself for thinking these
thoughts but there's no way of changing
myself. i once read or heard about some
kind of survey that 1/3 of the women asked
said they fantasised about rape. i dont
remember where i got it from or if it's
true. what do other people think? is
anyone else like me or does anyone think i
am basically just a bit deranged? do you
think this is ever anything i could tell
my boyfriend about and share with him, or
am i better just keeping it to myself? i
just want to hear what people think about
it, basically. thanks.
and i'd like to make a genuine apology in
advance to anyone i may have offended.
i'm really sorry.
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Lion79
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Posted: 08-30-07 05:37am
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Hey, don't worry about it, you're
perfectly normal. Other women fantasise
about rape too. There's been a few times
I've dreamt of being raped and then woken
up feeling really horny. It doesn't mean
that you actually want it to happen, to
you or to anyone else. It's partly the
fact that it's not real that makes it
nice, and the idea that you're being
dominated and controlled by somebody else.
Ar first I thought it was weird, but I've
been reading a book on women's sexual
fantasies and there's loads of similar
stuff in there, as well as other fantasies
people think are weird. So, don't worry.
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50326907
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Posted: 08-31-07 12:25pm
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thanks for your reply, lion! yeah this is
kinda what i always thought... i know that
it is just a fantasy and that i dont want
it to happen lol. but it's hard not to
feel a bit deranged for thinking about it.
sexual fantasies like this are a bit of a
taboo thing. what other ''wierd''
fantasies are in your book?
anyone else got any thoughts?
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BullZye
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Posted: 08-31-07 13:27pm
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I'd say its pretty normal...
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Love_Like_Winter
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Posted: 08-31-07 16:08pm
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Nothing wrong with it as long as it stays
a fantasy. And you've said you know it's
wrong in real life, so its all good!
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Lion79
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Posted: 08-31-07 17:16pm
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| 50326907
wrote: | thanks for your reply, lion!
yeah this is kinda what i always
thought... i know that it is just a
fantasy and that i dont want it to happen
lol. but it's hard not to feel a bit
deranged for thinking about it. sexual
fantasies like this are a bit of a taboo
thing. what other ''wierd'' fantasies are
in your book?
anyone else got any
thoughts? |
Yeah I know what you mean, my first
thought when I experienced this was that I
must be really weird, or sick.
Other examples in this book are
beastiality (quite a common fantasy, it
seems), lesbianism (from straight people),
an audience, rape, incest, pain, big black
guys etc there's quite a lot in there. If
you want I could PM you the title of the
book, not sure if I'm allowed to freely
state it on the forums!
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50326907
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Posted: 09-02-07 14:50pm
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thanks for all your replies! lol lion yeah
sure, pm me the title, just out of
curiosity!
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Disneygrl72
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Sexual Fantisies
Posted: 09-08-07 10:02am
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I do sometimes have a fantasy of being
raped. I don't know why, but I do!
Crazy, I know 
Another fantasy I have had for years is
being examed by a doctor. I don't know
why, I go to one evey year. Maybe because
I am a virgin, and this is a way for
someone to see me and my insides without
sex! 
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Posted: 09-08-07 10:23am
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BDSM: Bondage, Domination, Sumbission, and
Masochism (I think for the last one?).
Basically, lots of people have fantasies
of being "forced" or of being the
enforcer! It's quite normal 
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Chezzy
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Posted: 09-08-07 18:04pm
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You have nothing to be worried about, I
sometimes love hubby holding me down,
consensual of course, and being a tad
dominate, its a great feeling.. 
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50326907
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Posted: 09-10-07 09:00am
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i occasionally have that fantasy of being
examined too lol.
i've been so embarrassed about these
thoughts for so long. these replied have
made me feel much better. thankyou
everybody!
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Rosie H
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Posted: 09-10-07 09:09am
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I agree with everyone, these are very
normal. I like my guy to pull my hair
during sex>>>oh my gosh, I cant
beleive I am saying this>>>
I also like him to "force oral" sometimes.
This really gets me going. So dont feel
weird we like what we like
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Staocheb
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Posted: 09-11-07 06:00am
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What you feel and dream is normal. Don't
be afraid. Reality and dreams are not the
same.
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Juan Toobie Healthy
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Posted: 09-15-07 21:09pm
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OK I'm a guy and I normally don't pry into
the women's forums, but I found this
thread too interesting to pass up. Maybe a
guy's insight might be interesting to you
anyways? I can honestly say that I've
never had any interesting fantasies or
fetishes. My turn-ons have only bordered
what can be seen in mainstream pornos. I
have dated women with fantasies like yours
though. In fact, it's quite common.
Eventhough I don't care for rough sex or
play rape, I have obliged others and see
nothing wrong with it. Fantasies are
fantasies because they're out of the
everyday norm. They're only wrong when
carrying them out would do harm to others.
If you're close to your lover, I'd try
exploring this fantasy with him. Who
knows.... Maybe he has a few of his own
that he's been too afraid to bring up.....
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50326907
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Posted: 09-16-07 19:12pm
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your opinions are welcome in the women's
forum. i dont think you're prying at all!
thanks for your insight. as a matter of
fact he has shared a fantasy of his with
me. but he's never really asked about any
of mine. well he asked me once or twice
what i thought about when i masturbated
but i had no idea how i could possibly
word it. his question was so casual i
suppose he most likely expected a short
and casual answer. i had no idea how i
could bring myself to say to him that i
fantasize about women getting forced into
submission and raped by at least two or
three men. it's just not the sort of thing
you throw into everyday conversation. i'd
like to share it with him but only if i
thought he would accept it and embrace it
and not judge me for it. i've been
thinking more lately about sharing with
him. but i just actually have no idea how
i would say it to him.
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Juan Toobie Healthy
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Posted: 09-18-07 10:35am
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I'd just start up the topic of sex. Then
move it further into talking about
fantasies. I doubt he will be totally
freaked out. If he truely cares about you
he'll be understanding. Exploring your
fantasies and being open to the fantasies
of your lover makes for a great sex life.
Who knows, he might really get into it.
Well let's hope he doesn't get too into
it. (lol) Like I said, he might a couple
of his own.
Good luck!
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Nanabee
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Fantasies
Posted: 09-18-07 11:58am
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Thank goodness for fantasies...or none of
my kids would be here...ha
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shanay78
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Re: Sexual Fantasies
Posted: 09-21-07 18:47pm
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i just wanted to say, thank you. i thought
the same thing, and what makes it worst
for me was that i've really been raped
before and molested. so for me to have
thoughts like these i feel really bad. and
i'm afraid to even tell my husband about
my thoughts.
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none_tea
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Yeah
Posted: 09-22-07 05:29am
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me too as a guy i like to be raped by 2 or
3 gurl lol..
please raped me hahah just kdng.. 
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50326907
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Re: Sexual Fantasies
Posted: 09-23-07 15:03pm
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| shanay78
wrote: | | i just wanted to say, thank
you. i thought the same thing, and what
makes it worst for me was that i've really
been raped before and molested. so for me
to have thoughts like these i feel really
bad. and i'm afraid to even tell my
husband about my
thoughts. |
when i posted this i was aware that there
were gonna be people here like you who had
had to go through the dreadful experience
of being raped (i've noticed a couple of
posts before) so i was really afraid i'd
offend people. im glad to hear you have
not been offended anyway.
i suppose the best thing we can do is
recognise it is a *FANTASY* and it is not
something we condone or think should ever
happen. try to take it in your stride and
not take it too seriously. i guess people
will only think you are weird if *you*
think you're weird. accept it as normal,
and forgive yourself for thinking these
thoughts. it's ok. i feel much better
after hearing people's advice. it seems it
is more common than i thought.
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