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Mother in Law situation Posted: 08-28-07 10:21am
Recently my brother in law and his wife
came to the house to ask my husband and I
wheather could we look after they mom who
was presently staying with them my husband
and I first said yes but then when they
started to say about stress both of us
decide not to let her (my mother in law)
stay with us, to compare my stress with
theirs, ours is triple to make the story
short, they were so angry at us for
telling my mother in law about the idea,
the gift that we gave to their unborn
child was returned, they abhor us - so
much so that the said they don't want to
have anything to do with my husband and
they are not accepting any gift from us,
please tell me what to do as I'm VERY
depressed that this have to happened.
Thanks.
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danielv
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jul 2003 Posts: 79 Location: South East, Macedonia
Posted: 08-28-07 10:46am
it sounds like there was something
expected of you. whether you are willing
to take that upon yourself or not depends
on your situation, and at the end, you are
the best judge of that.
sometimes we can, and sometimes we cannot.
this is a normal part of life.
you are not responsible for the way other
people react towards your decisions.
often, people will not approve of our
decisions. you should ask yourself if you
feel that you did the best that you could.
if you feel that you did not, simply give
it some time, and try to explain how you
felt to the others, or perhaps make a
different decision if the situation arises
again.
in general it's not good to compare your
problems with others. the grass is always
greener on the other side. however ..
look into your heart. you are the only one
who can judge your actions.
