If you do not want an abortion you do not have to have one.

You should be prepared to go at raising a child alone though.. If he is not supportive NOW, how could he be if you were pregnant.

Are you going to a place that offers sedation?

Are you afraid of the pain?

hi, I just thought I'd respond, so here goes.

I had an abortion 5 months ago, and felt just as you did. I'm 20 years old, an honors pre-med student, I just did what was right for me, and I won't lie to you, it was a very difficult decision for me. But I knew that my parents would react badly to either scenario. I was still living with them, they are paying for my schooling, I love my boyfriend very much but are not married or even engaged. If I had kept it, I would be alienated from my family. If they found out about the abortion, well I don't know how they would react, but definately they would not be supportive or understanding (well maybe my dad.)

Anyway, I felt just as you did the night before, and stayed up all night with my boyfriend discussing it, but in the end we both felt it was the best given our circumstances. I stayed up all night, but once I was there at the clinic, everything went so smoothly.

I thought from everything I had read that it would be a bumpy day, but to tell you the truth, it was so smooth (still hard though). Everyone at the clinic was kind, efficient, and I never felt rushed or disregarded in any way.

Hopefully your boyfriend goes with you, at least so you won't be alone. I know it was nice having someone there with me, even though i was in and out in only a little over 2 hours. Maybe you should try talking to him. My boyfriend never talks about it to me, and I wish I could talk to him sometimes. If you feel that you need that from yours, speak up, it won't hurt.

Feel free to pm me if you have any questions, and sorry for such a long post.

thank you very very very much. yes, your situation sounds very similar to mine.
i'm actually at my best friend's house and she will be accompanying me tomorrow. my boyfriend will not be joining us. i guess its times like these when you find out who you can count on. i'll be okay, its better i find out now than later.

i'm currently raising a child alone, and while i know raising 2 alone has been done - that doesnt make the idea any easier to swallow. i knew while i was pregnant with my 1st that i couldnt count on her father, but to go into another pregnancy knowing AGAIN that i wont be able to count on the father is overwhelming.

yes i am afraid of the pain, and no i cant go to one that offers sedation because he did not come up with the money like he said he would. within the past 12hrs, my life has turned upside down and i no longer have my partner to be there by my side during what is sure to be one of the most awful experiences in my life, nor will he be there from this point forward. and worst of all, i cant even turn to my parents for support - who i've always been able to turn to. and tomorrow evening i have to go home to them and act like everything is normal.

I'm glad you have someone to be there for you. What a good friend. Anywho, don't worry about your bf, maybe he just doesn't know what to say? I'm glad you are ok though, hope everything goes well tomorrow.

I am thinking about you today!!

I hope everything goes well.

It may be painful, but you have given birth, and I know you can make it!

Well i did it. it went very well. in fact i cant believe how smoothly and painless it was! it really was nothing at all.....*granted i did take a time released xanax at midnight and then a lortab right before the procedure (which made me sick & sleepy more than anything heh.)

but honestly, the doc & nurse were just talking casually (to keep me distracted) while he did the entire thing. so i never saw the needles for the nerve blocks and the insertion of the canula just felt like a menstrual cramp (not even a bad one), and the suction was nothing. i would say everything after the nerve block took maybe 2 minutes.
then they took all the 'utensils' out, put my legs down, discussed birth control & post-op instructions, and let me lay there for a few minutes to rest. then the nurse came back in and gave me a darvecet, i think?. i got dressed and i was free to go. i walked out thinking, "that was it? pfft that was nothing!"
my best friend & i left there and went to new orleans to go shopping, lol.
i dont regret it at all, i'm very relieved that i got it over with and i know it was the right decision.

my boyfriend *ahem - exboyfriend now* waited til 6:00pm this evening to call and "check on me" (yeah right he really just wanted to make sure i did it), then told me he loved me, said he had the money to pay my friend back for the abortion (she had to cover his butt since he backed out last night), and he asked me if we were really 'over' .....i told him he could moneygram me the money and said goodbye and hung up the phone.
i've never felt better.

Hey,

I'm glad it went well for you and I'm glad you gave your boyfriend the boot! Best wishes for your continued happiness...

Oh that's great

We need more people to hear inspiring stories like yours!

Lortab is good stuff..

Did they give it to you, that would be pretty cool..AT least they give you something..

Xanax..yup, that was a great idea too.

I am so glad it went very well!!

I'm so pleased it went well for you

That's how I felt after mine, too.