First off i would just like to say that i wish all guys had this kind of respect for us ladies. But i was in her shoes just about a year ago and i am 19 now. I was the girl that said i wanted to wait till marriage. The only things i had done was made out and had a guy go down on me WITH MY PANTS STILL ON lol believe it or not. They were un-buttoned, un-zipped and pulled down just enough so that he could get to my clitoris. I was very shy about my bf at that time seeing any of my body. Never saw my boobs and i always made the room be pretty much pitch black with a blanket over myself and him under it. I didn't know what a guy would think of me cause nobody had ever seen me before. And i was a very shy girl VERY VERY SHY! But when i got with the guy i am with now...everything went a lot smoother than i thought. He didn't really believe me that i was still a virgin, hadn't givin' anything...not even a hand job! I'm assuming he didn't believe this cause we were together for 2 years. I just didn't feel comfortable with me. But my boyfriend now...hes amazing. He took it slow, gave me time, and we went step by step. I was so worried that he was going to want me to stimulate him with my hand or oraly..and i had no idea. But just him grabbing my hand and showing me what he liked was a huge relief! AND IM NOT SAYING TAKE HER HAND AND MAKE HER DO IT! If she pulls away leave it! You can't force it cause it will only make her avoid those situations. Take it slow, step by step and don't rush anything...which seems so be what you are doing. I'm sure things will be just fine!
Thats exactly what he did and now we've done anything and pretty much everything..granted thats its been over a year. But i'm still sketchy on the whole givin' him oral but i'm working on it. He says i'm good but don't they all say that just to make you feel good about what your doing?