Have you ever orgasmed outside of sex?

Now sounds like a good time to explore yourself alone, without toys and with just your hands. Find out what makes you feel good. If you can learn to orgasm without a toy, then you can use the toy as an occasional supplement instead of your sole source of orgasm

I only can orgasm once every week or so. No matter how hard I try I just can't get horny enough to reach an orgasm if sex happens too often. Too often is less than 5 days apart. So at least to me, the answer is yes. It will be hard or impossible to have orgasm everyday. I have found if I don't have sex for a couple of weeks, I can reach orgasm very quickly. So I refrain from sex on purpose to go for quality than quantity.

See, I don't have to be horny at all to masturbate and orgasm... and I can orgasm multiple times a day, just not one right after another. I have to wait a minute, and if they're spaced to close then they get harder to reach.

Why don't you try using the toy during sex? Fun for both of you, (you can use it on him too, to stimulate the area, not internally) and then perhaps you would bring the two worlds together.

I think she does and that's the problem. She "needs" it to enjoy sex and that's just no fun.

geez thats so frusterateing!!!!!!!!