my boyfried is constantly getting high and i cant make him stop he won't listen. today it happend and i wanted to cut myself, but i had noting so when i got home i got a razar and took it out on myself. please tell me what i can do.
babe really not a goodthing! it helps for those moments then its werid having to hide it ! the shame ! but it does feel good!
i felt like that too for soo many years now i go out withgloves on to hide my scars! find a friend a stranger anyone dont hurt yaself cause it really doesnt get you anywhere.
love ya self! be kind to you and be strong!!!
if ya need me write ill be here!!!
stay safe xx k
hay there if its only the first time u can get out befor its to late rember that ur worth a thousend of him try sourounding urself with people u hold close u dont have to tell them what happend try "i feel really low at the moment so could u give me lots of cuddels over the next few weeks" and then if u feel u cant tell them do thay may get angery but rember that they are sceard for you just remind them that anger makes u feel worse
I agree with MOST of the poeple that have posted on here. I don't think you're being fair to yourself just because he decides to do stupid things, please please PLEASE don't make the same mistake! Let him be stupid but don't follow down his path (getting high, inflicting pain on yourself, drugs anything like that). Get away from him, like previously stated, he had his chance and if he can't see that this is truly hurting you, you don't need him. Get someone who will respect you and your wishes. (not that he has to bow down to your feet or anything). Just someone that is there for you, that doesn't do something your really against. Some who TRULY LOVES YOU! Good luck hun and i hope this doesn't get more serious! We all love you, and we are ALL here to help you!
beenie if you don't want him to get high that shows that you really care about him and you don't want him to harm himself. extend that compassion towards yourself, and really decide if this man is worth your time. it's great that you care so much, but take it from me, you don't need that weight on your shoulders. it's wonderful to want to help but sometimes we just have to realize that certain things are out of our hands. if he wants to change he will eventually, but you need to focus on you in the meantime. you're clearly in enough pain yourself, you don't need to carry the weight of the world as well!
If your boyfriend makes no visible effort to make goals and work for them in order to stop his drug addiction, you should leave him. Not only are you wasting your time, he may become dependent on you and try to keep you in his life, even worse, his insecure emotional mood may lead to violence taken out on you. If you want to take anger out try masturbating (make sure the objects you use aren't too long, are clean, and won't splinter), sports, or fighting sports (something like boxing or kickboxing where you take your anger out on willing sparring partners, pads, or bags). Hope this helps!
I fear that you're following your boyfriend's path. I consider self injury as a type of drug. It serves many of the same purposes, and has many of the same effects. I didn't ever cut myself, but I did burn myself, and when I did, I remember feeling a sort of soothing feeling that helped me cope. The only thing was that it became my means of coping. Something that destructive only leads to more emotional problems including guilt, rage, dissatisfaction... if you get further into self-injury, it will slowly start becoming JUST never enough. I hope you find a way to appreciate how special you are, and how damaging your boyfriend is to your personal health. You've got all of us here to talk to, if you need it!!