OK my sister has 2 kids. The oldest was a
complete angel until his brother was about
9 months old. The youngest one is the
family terrorist. He is awful. He spits,
throws things, stands on the table and
knocks everything off, yells, throws
tantrums if he doesn't get his way. When
he gets punished they put him in his room
in time out, and he (He's 2 years old now)
just laughs in their faces or spits at
them. He screams his head off when he is
disciplined, and still refuses to sleep in
his own bed. The older child (who is 6)
has become a little protagonist now, even
though he used to be such a sweet boy.
The thing is they are so much harder on
him than they are on the younger child.
They never cut him a break, meanwhile the
other child runs around their house like a
tornado. I am appalled. Both of them are
teachers! How can they not see what is
happening to their kids? How would you
handle their situation? I know what i
would do, but what can I really say? I am
the younger sister and by that definition,
my older sister will always know more than
i do
. I don't even want to go visit them,
their kids are that awful, and they are my
NEPHEWS! They are sposta love their
Auntie HoHo, right? What should i do????
*edited to add: The only thing they say
that works now is spanking, but what are
they going to do with him if that's the
only thing he responds to when the kid is
older? If they can't start to reason with
him now, they surely aren't going to be
able to reason with him when he's 16 and
comes home drunk. What will they do,
spank him? And I know my sister, she gets
very very angry, and I am sure by the time
she spanks him she has completely lost it.
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Jude-Love
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Posted: 08-24-07 12:38pm
Usually, things like that happen due to
inconsistent parenting of some kind.
I don't have kids, I can't say what I
would do! I just pray that it never
happens to me, lol.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 08-28-07 14:55pm
I think they need super nanny.
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 08-28-07 15:31pm
Georgia59
wrote:
I think they need super
nanny.
EXACTLY!!!
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 08-28-07 15:52pm
call and tell them you need her, that'd be
so cool if they were on her show, then i'd
feel like i know someone who knows someone
on tv! haha
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 08-28-07 15:56pm
You can print an application right from
their website! How neat. I'd have to ask
her to complete it and send it in or she
may never speak to me again if I did it.
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young Girl
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Posted: 08-28-07 16:02pm
they need to be shown respect and not just
discipline
sounds like the youngest one runs the
house
and thats really not healthy
it will only get worse as they get older
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amanduhhbbyx3
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Re: Discipline Problem Posted: 10-03-07 13:52pm
sillyakchick
wrote:
The only thing they say that
works now is spanking, but what are they
going to do with him if that's the only
thing he responds to when the kid is
older? If they can't start to reason with
him now, they surely aren't going to be
able to reason with him when he's 16 and
comes home drunk. What will they do,
spank him? And I know my sister, she gets
very very angry, and I am sure by the time
she spanks him she has completely lost
it.
My mom never spanked me when I was a
toddler or child she would just ground me
& take my stuff away & even though
I would cry she wouldn't care (she did but
didn't show it) & I learned that way.
Tell your sister to try that or if that is
not working maybe a therapist? The
children can be acting out for a reason or
just because they are at that age to
disobey & throw tantrums. Best of
Lluck!
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MMAFighter
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Joined: 23 Sep 2007 Posts: 373 Location: WA, USA
Hmmmm Posted: 10-03-07 21:40pm
Did those kids you are talking about have
a functional father figure around the
house? If they don't have an adult male
to look up to and follow along with, they
can have trouble staying in line. Try
finding some sort of coach for them or
something, after a while, they will WANT
to act like the coach.
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the cheshire cat
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Posted: 01-02-08 05:32am
What your sister needs to do is to stay
calm throughout all of the disciplining.
By getting angry, she is letting the kids
know that they are getting to her. She
needs to ignore the child screaming his
head off. e.g. with refusing to sleep in
his own bed, to carry him to it every time
he gets out of it. This may seem like an
impossible task, and may take even an hour
of calm carrying back to the bed, but will
be worth it in the end. Calmness is the
key.
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Beline
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Posted: 04-12-08 13:03pm
My best friend’s daughter was diagnosed
with bipolar disorder at a very young age,
and I recognize quite a lot of
similarities between her and your nephew.
She was just worse. Lol. She would yell at
my friend to pick her up, and a soon as
she did she would bite her. If she was put
down, she would scream her head off
wanting to be picked up again, just to
bite again.
As soon as the pediatrician prescribed the
right medicine, she changed overnight.
Literally. She took her medicine for the
first time that night, and the following
morning she did something wrong, and my
friend said: “NO!” She just calmly
replied: “Okay, Mommy”. My friend got
up and called everybody in tears to tell
them that her child has actually listened
to her when she said ‘no’.
I understand that the older boy is acting
out now as well. Shame. The younger
brother is getting away with it, so what
do you expect? Poor kid.
. I don't even want to go visit them,
their kids are that awful, and they are my
NEPHEWS! They are sposta love their
Auntie HoHo, right? What should i do????
