OK my sister has 2 kids. The oldest was a complete angel until his brother was about 9 months old. The youngest one is the family terrorist. He is awful. He spits, throws things, stands on the table and knocks everything off, yells, throws tantrums if he doesn't get his way. When he gets punished they put him in his room in time out, and he (He's 2 years old now) just laughs in their faces or spits at them. He screams his head off when he is disciplined, and still refuses to sleep in his own bed. The older child (who is 6) has become a little protagonist now, even though he used to be such a sweet boy. The thing is they are so much harder on him than they are on the younger child. They never cut him a break, meanwhile the other child runs around their house like a tornado. I am appalled. Both of them are teachers! How can they not see what is happening to their kids? How would you handle their situation? I know what i would do, but what can I really say? I am the younger sister and by that definition, my older sister will always know more than i do . I don't even want to go visit them, their kids are that awful, and they are my NEPHEWS! They are sposta love their Auntie HoHo, right? What should i do????


*edited to add: The only thing they say that works now is spanking, but what are they going to do with him if that's the only thing he responds to when the kid is older? If they can't start to reason with him now, they surely aren't going to be able to reason with him when he's 16 and comes home drunk. What will they do, spank him? And I know my sister, she gets very very angry, and I am sure by the time she spanks him she has completely lost it.