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Q: Boyfriend Got Mad Cause I Confide In My Mom - Update
asked by: ladyT83 on August 23rd, 2007
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Well after that nite when my mom told my boyfriend that she knew he had a kid. We didn't talk. I slept on the couch cause I didn't want to speak to him let alone be near him.

That nite he picked me up from work acted unusually calm and we got home. I hopped into the shower. He just came up to me and gave me a hug which surprised me. Days later I just had to ask him what he meant by I had lost his trust and so much more.

I had lost more of his trust and he tells me he was thinking of breaking up with me for what I had done. I told him that he would have done the same. But I got mad he was even thinking of breaking up wit me so I told him that if he was just wit me out of pity that he should leave. He said he didn't because he loves me. And that since he lost trust in me that if he ever decides to go out or comes home late that now I don't have the right to ask.

Which angers me off cause he lives there wit me. So I'm angry that he puts that as an ultimatum. I never ask him were he's going unless its really late. But I never interogate him. So I'm just gonna be a health forum and not even bother asking or care anymore if he goes out. But if he doesn't come home then that's another story cause that's my house.

But just thinking that instead of working something out he.d rather jus let our relationship go so easily wounds me so deeply.
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overlycurious
replied on September 17th, 2009
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Confiding in mother
My boyfriend confides in his mother all the time. One time he broke up with me over one of his issues and when we got together he found I hung out with an old friend of ours. No longer his friend but still mine. The friend was a guy. So he tells him mother that he thinks we had sex cause we hung out which did not happen or even come close to happening. He is constantly doing this. IT hurts to know I can't trust him to not tell his mother everything and most of the stuff are things he made up in his head, not reality. I've come to the point that I know if he knows anything so will his mother, sister and everyone else he knows. I CAN'T confide in him. THat's not fair. He has a big mouth and now I feel I can't trust him enough to tell him ANYTHING cause there is no telling how he will manipulate the situation to look like the victim. ITs hurt the relationship and I don't even think he knows how much. Cause now I don't tell him anything but everyday things.
If you love your boyfriend and want him to trust you, you have to quit opening your mouth to your mother about things he CONFIDES in YOU about. How would you feel if you confided in him about something and he tells someone else? PUt yourself in his shoes. He obviously can't trust you enough to confide in you.
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W0LF
replied on September 21st, 2009
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Trust doesn't seem so important until you lose it. He has a right to privacy inside of your relationship and he should absolutely question whether or not it's worth remaining in a relationship if he doesn't feel he can put faith in you. Would you stay in a relationship with a man if he got engaged with another woman? What makes you think a relationship without trust has any better future?

You really need to sit down and talk with him about how you can re-instill his trust in you and how he show you the respect you deserve. Focus on how you can help each other meet your needs rather than how the other person can make up for their failings. If you haven't gotten around to saying you're sorry for telling your mother about his child that's probably the best way to open that conversation.
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