I am in a horrible divorce (1 child - married 2 years) with a woman who is BP. She has been diagnosed twice with BD but her most recent Psychiatrist says she is OCD, ADHD and has severe anxiety disorder and an auditory problem. I LOVE MY WIFE VERY MUCH, but she refuses to get another diagnosis. We started marriage counseling last week after my wifes and I requested it. It failed yesterday, with her yelling I am a liar.

I have a question about the behavior of BP:

Maybe some of you can help me.

When I talk to the counselor about the passionate time, she denies it happens and states I am making it up to get her in trouble. The counselor bypasses the bipolar issue (she has taken MMPI and TOVA she says) and states to trust the last psychiatrist. But as I read through these forums, I see so much of her. My wife is incredibly intelligent and doctors always comment that she knows to much.

She has periods of boasting, anger, periods of depression and fear. She has a horrible family life (parents). She has had thyroid issues. She will alienate me then love me passionately. She does not clean house and sometimes herself; has odd sleeping variations and vivid dreams that sometimes become physical (thrashing etc.).

I am a very laid back individual, i apologize to her constantly, but I cannot stand being manipulated. If she is not bi-polar then it must be base manipulation.

Is lying, paranoia and manipulation common in BP's?

It is probably to late but if you guys have any suggestions on the marriage portion please post. I would love any input for understanding the condition and advice.

Her meds are 10mg of Lexapro, i know of nothing else, she states nothing else.


Thanks,

From another heart broken man