Hey,

Once I tryed to ask for a support my friend. we shared a big sympathy, not really dating but something between friendship and love. So I tryed to tell him that i was in a trouble (i was feeling that ED would get back to me), but he did not even want to learn what my problem was....now i am fine and he missed a lot
you are doing a great thing!!!

What if you told her, that there are so many people out there in the world suffering with ED, and this is true! and that there is a forum where anyone, staying anonimous, can share experience, pain and hope.
There are many varieties of ED so without knowing what is she going through it is difficult to advice anything.
I tell you from own experience: I started a consistent recovery by myself but now this forum is a great support to me. Thus, it can become a good recovery starter for your loved one. If someone would have told me that there is a place where I can freely shere and get advice i would have recovered a long time ago.

she will be fine!!!

best

Honestly theres nothing you can do but support her and
i now it's hard to see her do this to herself but it's her chose to get better...you have to sit and wait and you should try to tell her parents or some one 'cause they might be able to get her help i hope she'll turn out ok good luck!

from experience, i can tell you that the only thing really is to be there for her. keep telling her how much you love her for her. you can never say that enough. and if she tells you to shut up or is in one of those moods where she pushes you away, just hold her. cuz thats what she really wants and needs. but be sensitive. its kinda a dangerous road for a bf. but in my opinion, they're the ones that really make the difference.

Look, I suggest if you love her get her to promise she will get help. Try and get her to be honest with you. I was told by a phone counselor, to try and get her to talk about it with you. The hardest thing about ED is people who do not have it do not understand why they can't just stop. She can not just stop if she is doing is real bad. It just doesn't work that way. It will creep back into her daily life if she just stops. For her it is all about control, so no matter what do not take that control away from her. Let her choose to get better. Like I said before a big step is honesty because most of the time people with ED will say I won't do it anymore after this date, or I just want to lose a few more pounds, I can stop anytime I want. Maybe have her create a log of when she does it, how she feels both before and after. WHat she ate, how much she ate, etc... I just realized you didn't say she has bullimia but some of my advice still applies. As for the logs if she is anorexic you can have her log how long she starves herself. What triggers a fast. What does she do to control her hunger. and more. I would call a counselor yourself. The lady I talked to on the phone was very helpful in how I should react, what to expect. Some of the people on another message board literally predicted things that were going to happen. When you start seeing that happen you know it is out of control. The thing that ultimately broke me and her up was the sneaking around. It almost felt like she was cheating on me. Any time there is a secret that is that big in a relationship it can tear you apart. You will feel it, and you will feel a loss of connection with her if it gets to a point where you think she is doing better but secretly she is not. Just don't get mad, talk to her about it and hope she is honest and lets you in.

She must get some kind of professional help. This is not a physical condition at all. She may try to convince you that it is because she gained some weight or just wants to lose 10lbs. Everyone knows ED makes you ugly, even the people who do it and use the excuse I want to be beautiful.