Anxiety and Stress Forum - Will I Ever Be Able to Handle It?

Honestly I know that we will all have it in our life if we like it or not. But right now I have been so stressed I feel like in these past couple months. My life was going great I was happy and than all of sudden something comes up and I stressed out!
I can't stand being just 17 and stressed out. It honestly kills me inside that one minute I can be so happy but the next minute I can be so upset and wanting to hide in my room and cry Sad

I say things to people I don't mean espically to my boyfriend he'll ask me something so small and I start it into a huge argument.
He doesn't do anything but I start it! I love him so much and I don't think I can handle losing him because hes there for me through my days. Than he shows me that he loves me and cares so much! But sometimes I say the wrong things at the wrong time and they come out wrong. I hurt him!
I haven't said anything or did anything lately but it's just so hard right now that I can be so happy and smiling and now it's like not anymore! I can't even answer a question without him asking how i'am doing without my stomach hurting or just saying "i'm doing good my stomach hurt a little today but other than that I'am good" Seriously I feel like I used to be so happy and now I'm changing! I know life is all about changes but it's so hard sometimes when your stressed and trying to figure out how I can do something to change my look on things.
Somedays I ask myself whats going on with me? I can't stand this anymore I truly honestly can't I want to change into a better person to be happy,smile and having a good outlook on life and allow myself let the little things not bother me. But how can I?
Is there any suggestions of allowing myself be me again? Like I was a couple months before where everything was going great and happy!
Aswell as I want to become a new person! I love my life but some things need to seriously change. I know not my boyfriend but other things.

I just need help Sad

I need a friend!

Replies(7)

mike17

replied on August 22nd, 2007

Experienced User

Hope This Help

could be pms , im not a girl thou so i cant really say if thats it or what pms dose.

i think you should do things you enjoy things that will make you forget about whats worrying you. watch a movie , get a massage , do some shopping ect. confront whats bothering you. you only have the power to change. its like when people say you can take a horse to water but you cant make it drink.

every one goes through stress im 17 and i go through it also , i know where your coming from , just remember your not alone and that you don't have to keep bottling it up. the e health family is here for you =]

im not really used to answering as im normally the one asking the question so i hope this helped you.

sucraloser

replied on August 22nd, 2007

New User

This is going to sound totally Life Science, but...
When you're 17, so much is changing (hormonally, chemically, emotionally, physically) that it's not surprising to feel anxious and depressed sometimes. What is important is to learn to recognize the severity of your feelings, and deal with them in a positive way.

What exactly are you anxious about? Just your relationship with your boyfriend?

Or do you feel depressed in general? Hopeless? Frustrated?

It's difficult to give you a more detailed response without knowing exactly what you are experiencing.

Regardless of what it is though, there are a few things you can do to relieve tension/depression in your life before deciding to see a doctor.

(1) Exercise. 30 minutes or more per day has a seriously miraculous effect on your mental health and well-being. It sounds like bullcrap, and I scoffed at my shrink when I was told that at 16, but it's true. Going for a short run, biking, or swimming laps will all perk you up to some extent.
(2) Diet. Eat small meals throughout the day, and drink plenty of water. Try to avoid sugar, caffeine, and cigarettes. They can all make you feel edgy.
(3) Socializing. You seem like you've got a fairly stable social life going on, and this can also be a positive thing.

Try to remember that, while you may feel isolated, there are always people who care about you. Being 17 is hard, and there's no reason to beat yourself up about the little things.

Best of luck, hon. <3

Seanyboy1985turbo

replied on August 22nd, 2007

New User

If you fel that stressed out ask your doctor for some diazepan to help. I found i could never heal myself without any help. Dont get addicted to it though.

I am the same with my missus sometimes and i think its because they interrupt ur thinking and it angers you off so much. Just tell him i love you so much but i need time with myself, you might be spending to much time with each other.

Go out with friends. Have a good night out. I make a day with all mymates and make sure it turns into a weekly thing. SO i have something to look forward to every week. Cheers me up loads.

Hope ive helped let me know how it goes.

johnR

replied on August 24th, 2007

Experienced User

Can you go see a therapist and preferably one that can teach you cbt? Along with some of sucralosers advice I think this would help you a lot.

Apromisetomyself2

replied on August 27th, 2007

New User

Mike17-
Let me say one thing PMS for us girls makes us go through so much.
I don't think you want me to go into details. But we do are different from eachother one of us can be so happy and the other one of us can be so darn moody!

Thank you for giving me tips aswell! I might use them!

Seanyboy1985turbo-
My boyfriend and I do not spend much time with eachother.
We don't see eachother every day during the week only during the weekends. But you are also right to let myself to get out and to do something!

Sucraloser-
You are right that is so much going with(hormonally,chemically,emotionally and physically)

Or do you feel depressed in general? Hopeless? Frustrated?
Nope I don't feel depressed in general,I don't feel hopeless or fustrated.
I just feel like I'am going through so much at once and I wonder how will I ever allow myself to handle it.

You did give me some good tips on things on like
Exercise,Diet and Socializing.
Thank you for giving me some I'm going to print them and probably take that advice to do some of that stuff thank you!

JohnR-
I really don't feel like I need to see a therpaist. I think I'll be okay on my own for now but if I need some help I'll possibly looking into it.

The replies that I have gotten so far has helped me!
Thank you all! Smile

johnR

replied on September 20th, 2007

Experienced User

Glad to hear you are feeling better Laughing

CarolDiane

replied on September 23rd, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Something

Something in your life is might be making you feel this way. Could be one thing, could be a few. Things that you are not even aware of. I would take the time and chill, sit down and think about your life. Write down on a piece of paper what your goals are, where you want to be in your life and where you feel you are not going as fast as you would like to. Lot's of times we overpower ourselves with achievment and the things in life we want to be. You are young, you should not have to face this alone. If you think you might need some counseling then don't be ashamed. Just go.

Hugs,
MsSky

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