Will I Ever Be Able to Handle It? Posted: 08-21-07 20:20pm
Honestly I know that we will all have it
in our life if we like it or not. But
right now I have been so stressed I feel
like in these past couple months. My life
was going great I was happy and than all
of sudden something comes up and I
stressed out!
I can't stand being just 17 and stressed
out. It honestly kills me inside that one
minute I can be so happy but the next
minute I can be so upset and wanting to
hide in my room and cry I say things to
people I don't mean espically to my
boyfriend he'll ask me something so small
and I start it into a huge argument.
He doesn't do anything but I start it! I
love him so much and I don't think I can
handle losing him because hes there for me
through my days. Than he shows me that he
loves me and cares so much! But sometimes
I say the wrong things at the wrong time
and they come out wrong. I hurt him!
I haven't said anything or did anything
lately but it's just so hard right now
that I can be so happy and smiling and now
it's like not anymore! I can't even answer
a question without him asking how i'am
doing without my stomach hurting or just
saying "i'm doing good my stomach hurt a
little today but other than that I'am
good" Seriously I feel like I used to be
so happy and now I'm changing! I know life
is all about changes but it's so hard
sometimes when your stressed and trying to
figure out how I can do something to
change my look on things.
Somedays I ask myself whats going on with
me? I can't stand this anymore I truly
honestly can't I want to change into a
better person to be happy,smile and having
a good outlook on life and allow myself
let the little things not bother me. But
how can I?
Is there any suggestions of allowing
myself be me again? Like I was a couple
months before where everything was going
great and happy!
Aswell as I want to become a new person! I
love my life but some things need to
seriously change. I know not my boyfriend
but other things.
I just need help
I need a friend!
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mike17
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2007 Posts: 63
Hope This Help Posted: 08-22-07 02:08am
could be pms , im not a girl thou so i
cant really say if thats it or what pms
dose.
i think you should do things you enjoy
things that will make you forget about
whats worrying you. watch a movie , get a
massage , do some shopping ect. confront
whats bothering you. you only have the
power to change. its like when people say
you can take a horse to water but you cant
make it drink.
every one goes through stress im 17 and i
go through it also , i know where your
coming from , just remember your not alone
and that you don't have to keep bottling
it up. the e health family is here for you
=]
im not really used to answering as im
normally the one asking the question so i
hope this helped you.
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sucraloser
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Aug 2007 Posts: 12 Location: San Francisco, CA
Posted: 08-22-07 15:59pm
This is going to sound totally Life
Science, but...
When you're 17, so much is changing
(hormonally, chemically, emotionally,
physically) that it's not surprising to
feel anxious and depressed sometimes.
What is important is to learn to recognize
the severity of your feelings, and deal
with them in a positive way.
What exactly are you anxious about? Just
your relationship with your boyfriend?
Or do you feel depressed in general?
Hopeless? Frustrated?
It's difficult to give you a more detailed
response without knowing exactly what you
are experiencing.
Regardless of what it is though, there are
a few things you can do to relieve
tension/depression in your life before
deciding to see a doctor.
(1) Exercise. 30 minutes or more per day
has a seriously miraculous effect on your
mental health and well-being. It sounds
like bullcrap, and I scoffed at my shrink
when I was told that at 16, but it's true.
Going for a short run, biking, or
swimming laps will all perk you up to some
extent.
(2) Diet. Eat small meals throughout the
day, and drink plenty of water. Try to
avoid sugar, caffeine, and cigarettes.
They can all make you feel edgy.
(3) Socializing. You seem like you've got
a fairly stable social life going on, and
this can also be a positive thing.
Try to remember that, while you may feel
isolated, there are always people who care
about you. Being 17 is hard, and there's
no reason to beat yourself up about the
little things.
Best of luck, hon. <3
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Seanyboy1985turbo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2007 Posts: 39
Hi Posted: 08-22-07 18:47pm
If you fel that stressed out ask your
doctor for some diazepan to help. I found
i could never heal myself without any
help. Dont get addicted to it though.
I am the same with my missus sometimes and
i think its because they interrupt ur
thinking and it angers you off so much.
Just tell him i love you so much but i
need time with myself, you might be
spending to much time with each other.
Go out with friends. Have a good night
out. I make a day with all mymates and
make sure it turns into a weekly thing. SO
i have something to look forward to every
week. Cheers me up loads.
Hope ive helped let me know how it goes.
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johnR
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 May 2006 Posts: 229
Posted: 08-24-07 16:39pm
Can you go see a therapist and preferably
one that can teach you cbt? Along with
some of sucralosers advice I think this
would help you a lot.
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Apromisetomyself2
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Aug 2007 Posts: 40 Location: ,
Posted: 08-27-07 16:55pm
Mike17-
Let me say one thing PMS for us girls
makes us go through so much.
I don't think you want me to go into
details. But we do are different from
eachother one of us can be so happy and
the other one of us can be so darn moody!
Thank you for giving me tips aswell! I
might use them!
Seanyboy1985turbo-
My boyfriend and I do not spend much time
with eachother.
We don't see eachother every day during
the week only during the weekends. But you
are also right to let myself to get out
and to do something!
Sucraloser-
You are right that is so much going
with(hormonally,chemically,emotionally and
physically)
Or do you feel depressed in general?
Hopeless? Frustrated?
Nope I don't feel depressed in general,I
don't feel hopeless or fustrated.
I just feel like I'am going through so
much at once and I wonder how will I ever
allow myself to handle it.
You did give me some good tips on things
on like
Exercise,Diet and Socializing.
Thank you for giving me some I'm going to
print them and probably take that advice
to do some of that stuff thank you!
JohnR-
I really don't feel like I need to see a
therpaist. I think I'll be okay on my own
for now but if I need some help I'll
possibly looking into it.
The replies that I have gotten so far has
helped me!
Thank you all!
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johnR
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 May 2006 Posts: 229
Posted: 09-20-07 12:57pm
Glad to hear you are feeling better
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Something Posted: 09-23-07 12:24pm
Something in your life is might be making
you feel this way. Could be one thing,
could be a few. Things that you are not
even aware of. I would take the time and
chill, sit down and think about your life.
Write down on a piece of paper what your
goals are, where you want to be in your
life and where you feel you are not going
as fast as you would like to. Lot's of
times we overpower ourselves with
achievment and the things in life we want
to be. You are young, you should not have
to face this alone. If you think you might
need some counseling then don't be
ashamed. Just go.
I say things to
people I don't mean espically to my
boyfriend he'll ask me something so small
and I start it into a huge argument.
