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Q: Sleeping Over At Girlfriends... Going to Be Embarassed
asked by: BullZye on August 21st, 2007
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Well, my girlfriend wants me to sleepover at her place in a month for the first time ever.

We only kiss and all that and lately its been getting a little heavy and more intense, I guess you can say dry humping and making out at the same time. I only see her twice a month or so because shes in University and I have to travel to a different city to see her.

She really loves me and knows i'm kind of chubby, but i'm fatter than she thinks. I look normal all over but have a belly and not-too-big but noticable man boobs/pecs.

I know shes going to want me to take my shirt off because shes been hinting it and thats why she wants the sleepover, so we can have a little personal time but without having to worry about anything else such as her roomies coming home and whatnot. But i'm a little shy or even embarassed to do so while we're making out because of my physique.

Also... How am I supposed to prevent my usual morning errection when sleeping with her? lol

What should I do?
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popminer
replied on August 21st, 2007
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honestly, my opinion probably doesn't count, but if the girl loves you and is with you, she probably likes you for who you are, not your physique. And yeah, she probably wants you to sleep over at her house for a reason also. I dont see what would be wrong with having an erection while sleeping with your girlfriend.

I dont see that there is anything TO do.
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young Girl
replied on August 21st, 2007
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she likes you no matter what
Very Happy if you have been dateing for a while and you really know each other then she doesnt care about anything else but YOU

i would just go for it and see how things go
if it gets too hot and heavy tell her you want to slow down Smile
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BullZye
replied on August 21st, 2007
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Well, thanks for the opinions so far.

I know for sure she doesn't care about physical features. We won't be having sex or anything, or even foreplay. We just haven't gotten that far yet or even talked about it. We're still enjoying the kissing haha.

I don't mind if it gets hot and heavy, i'd actually prefer that. Its a huge turn-on when we're making out and I hear her breathing hard and just going crazy all over me. Very Happy

Its just i'm kind of worried about embarassment because of my body.
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young Girl
replied on August 21st, 2007
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its ok!!!!! dont be embarassed about it im sure she has insecurities too!!!!!

like when me and travis first became intement i was afraid my boobs were too small and that he would think they were too small Sad

well he didnt Wink
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BullZye
replied on August 25th, 2007
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Well, it turns out you were right, she didn't really care. I happened to visit her house today while her parents were gone out on a small trip so we had the house to ourselves.

I expected to just hang out and kiss as usual... But it went pretty far today before even having to wait til the sleepover. She told me to take my shirt off, but I left my undershirt on. Then she told me to take that off too but I told her its only fair if she does the same.

So she was in her bra... And we were kissing and whatnot. She grabbed my hand and placed it on her chest and I started to feel her breasts under the bra, I guess she liked it because then she just decided to take her bra off completely.

It was the first for both us for anything like this... And it was amazing. I am a very happy man. Feels even better knowing she wouldn't do the same for any other guy, I was actually surprised she went this far but it just happened. Very Happy
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young Girl
replied on August 25th, 2007
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yay!!!! im glad it all went well!!!!!!!!!!! i bet you are relieved and happy! im glad everything worked out!
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Maji
replied on October 3rd, 2007
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Yeah see you had nothing to worry about.
I was pretty worried about my bf not liking what he saw if i was ever to take my shirt off for him...so the first time things got "hot and heavy" and i felt him taking my shirt off i was a bit nervous but he just carried on kissing me and touching me and he didn't looked turned off or anything so i relaxed. we both later ended up in nothing but socks and it was a great experience. I never felt so beautiful =]
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scoots14
replied on October 16th, 2007
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i am prolly the same way that u are lol i was caught in the same situation with my bf i am 5'4" and not a skinny minny lol....but anyway what i kept in mind when my bf and i would have sex is that i love my body and if he wants to see it then let him.....i know it mite be different because u are a guy...id so go for it, if it is that big of a deal then y dont u start doing something about it....gym eating healthier etc..thats what im doing lol about the morning wood just laugh it off...it happens to every guy not just you...lol good luck
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jessamyn
replied on October 16th, 2007
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she has eyes and can obviously tell clothed or not what you look like. if she didnt care for you/love you she would make that known. your body obviously doesnt change her opinion of yoU!
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littlelindylou
replied on April 27th, 2009
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my bf was like that too , he wouldnt even have sex with me without a shirt on.
she loves you, and she wont care what you look like. you have to be comfortable in your own skin. the only thing that matters is that your a good person.
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buss308
replied on May 6th, 2009
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I think turn ons for a guy and turn ons for a girl are completely different. In my opinion anyway. I have gained about 80 pounds since I have been with my bf but he constantly tells me how beautiful I am. He has gained alot as well but I honestly can't see it. It's the look in your eyes when your looking back that she will remember...I'm 40 years old, been there done that and trust me, it really is whats on the inside that counts. That's what's going to be there when you're both 80 years old.
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thoumas
replied on May 29th, 2009
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lol, odds are the morning erection wont matter, it will probably just lead to a quicky (you will probably be having sex not just sitting there without your shirt on) also she wont really care one way or the other. she most likely already knows that you have a belly. heck some girls like that kind of thing. so good luck and hehe "get her done"
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thoumas
replied on May 29th, 2009
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lol, odds are the morning erection wont matter, it will probably just lead to a quicky (you will probably be having sex not just sitting there without your shirt on) also she wont really care one way or the other. she most likely already knows that you have a belly. heck some girls like that kind of thing. so good luck and hehe "get her done"
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