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Eyes Wide Shut Especially eHealthy
August 21st, 2007
Ok, so when Oni was 6 months old, we Ferberized her. Which basically means we let her cry but showed her that we WERE there. But we didn't give her ANY physical contact. Including eye contact.

Well, we OFFICIALLY moved into this house in late May, early June. She was fine, until she started cutting her molars. She would wake up in the middle of the night, and Baron started putting her in bed with us.

Of COURSE, now that she's done cutting her molars, she fallen in love with sleeping with us in OUR bed.

Here's where the problem comes in.

The house we moved into is a double. Meaning we have neighbors right on the other side of us. Ferberizing her now is totally out of the question because I don't want to wake up the neighbors with a screaming child at 3 & 4 in the morning.

I feel so helpless in this situation. I do NOT approve of her sleeping in the bed with us. But Baron is ALLLLL for it. He LOVES it and actually snuggles with her when she's in the bed.

I don't know yall. What should I do? She's at the age where she remembers that she sleeps in OUR bed, and she doesn't like being in hers.

I know FOR SURE, when the baby comes it's got to be different. I plan on breastfeeding and want to have the baby in the bed for the 1st couple weeks to make it easier to feed.

I don't want to be rude to our neighbors, but then they KNOW we have a 1 year old and should EXPECT crying. They're really cool people, and should understand. But maybe I could talk to them and explain that we're trying to get her out of our bed and to work with us for at LEAST a week?

Any suggestions from yall would be appreciated. Especially from those who are going through this?

Sarah
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Becky
replied August 21st, 2007
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are you SURE they will hear her? Most walls are pretty thick. i never hear my neighbours and they both have young kids. i have let the kids cry it out many times. my neighbours have probably heard it. Confused it sounds bad but at the end of the day you need to make YOUR life easier and not worry about other people as much

the only thing i can suggest is when you let her cry it out, move her bed to the wall opposite the neighbours wall. that might stop it being as loud.

good luck- go for it!
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Eyes Wide Shut
replied August 21st, 2007
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That's a good idea about moving the bed.

I'm pretty sure they'd hear her because we can hear their TV sometimes. It's frustrating.

I think I'm going to talk to her and just give her a heads up about us moving Oni out of our bed.

Maybe I could have Baron change her crib a toddler bed. She thinks she such a big girl, and maybe that would help with the transition. We could maybe get her some new bed sheets and make a big deal out of HER bed.


Sarah
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Becky
replied August 21st, 2007
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babymajic0506 wrote:


Maybe I could have Baron change her crib a toddler bed. She thinks she such a big girl, and maybe that would help with the transition. We could maybe get her some new bed sheets and make a big deal out of HER bed.




could work or she might end up getting out of bed a million times a night to get into yours Shocked
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Eyes Wide Shut
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lol! true.

Normally, when she's NOT teething, she'll sleep through the night. With no problems.

I think she just got hella spoiled in the 3 weeks it took to cut all 4 molars. 3 weeks is JUST long enough to put her routine down the crapper! ya know?

I'm gonna talk to Baron about the bed changing and see what he says.

It's worth trying. I've only got 5 more months until this new baby comes and I'd rather deal with this now, than to wait. Ya know?

Plus, I honestly think it's the bars that she doesn't like. She even cries if I put her in it for a sec. I think she'd LOVE climbing up into her OWN bed with her OWN pillow!

Sarah
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Mabel
replied August 21st, 2007
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You'll need to get her out now - before the new baby - if that is what you want to do. It doesn't sound like Baron is on-board for the fight that it will take.

I never recommend changing the crib to a toddler bed until you are sure you are ready for them to be up all the time. The crib is a safer feeling for a baby/toddler than an open bed.

Becks, this is the states, houses are built like matchboxes here. Not sturdy construction. Thin walls, etc. Not like where you are. Everything here is made disposable and cheap.
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Eyes Wide Shut
replied August 21st, 2007
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Ingi, no he really doesn't want her out of the bed. But it's not up to him anymore! lol!

Honestly, I think I'm going to take that chance. She's sleeping in our bed which is just as risky as her own being a toddler bed. Ya know?

I just can't take her being in there anymore. She kicks me, slaps me, drools on me.... Rolling Eyes She's not what I would call a WILD sleeper, but she's big. THere isn't much room with me, plus her, PLUS Baron.

Yea, our walls aren't cement. (god I wish they were!) They are thin, and I don't like it at all.

I plan on moving in April, once this lease is up. Which is going to be a whole different ball game...moving with a 2 year old and an infant...mreeh!

Sarah
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tinkinpink84
replied August 21st, 2007
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If your neighbors are cool i dont see a problem with it just let them know that you are doing that , i mean it cant be as loud in there house as it is in yours and she goes to bed reasonably early so it shouldnt bug them to much really. But that would be like a neat idea have like abig girl party, with the bed and new bedsheets and maybe a stuffed friend to sleep with. Maybe even a cake and stuff, go all out. Smile
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Eyes Wide Shut
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I think I'm going to talk to her(my neighbor) and just let her know. I'm SURE she'll have no problem with it. Oni DOES go to sleep around 7.30/8(depending on the length of her nap during the day.)

Oni HATES blankets & sheets. She, no matter how deep of a sleep she's in, will pull them off of her. No matter how cold it is in the room, she can't stand em!

I"ve always been against "lovies" because she has a pacifier. But maybe her "baby bear"(her pink care bear) would be a good sleeping mate. I just don't want her toting it all around with her...ya know?

I told Baron about it and he said "but it doesn't have bars that way! I don't know about this!" and I told him "OUR bed doesn't have bars on it...what's the difference? Besides, her bed would be LOWER!"

Grrr!! Daddies and their lil girls drive me NUTS!

Sarah
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tinkinpink84
replied August 21st, 2007
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joseph has 3 buddies he sleeps with, usually he doesnt carry them around all day, they are just his sleeping buddies, he has a blue bear, this monkey thing that is like a mini blanket with a monkey head and jasons old marshmellow fluff from ghostbusters. Every night and nap time he has to carry them to bed with him or he wont sleep, a few times he has wanted to take all 3 out with him to go somewhere but end up leaving em in the truck, tonight he took quite a few cars to bed with him along with his 3 buddies lol. hopefully shes like that and just takes it to sleep and not everywhere.
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