Baby's Last Name - Am I Being Selfish Posted: 08-21-07 09:59am
Some time ago I posted an email pertaining
to paternity and that I am now single. The
guy who I was seeing during the separation
from my now ex bf wants to be in my life
but I prefer not to be with him. Just
never envision us being together anyway.
My ex who i was with for 5 going on 6 yrs
changed all of a sudden and not sure of
what he wanted kwpt his distance from me
for about 2 months. He woudl visit off and
on and said it's not me it's him so I
decided not to worry if he can't be a man
and say what' son his mind I won't try and
make his mind up for him. So I moved on
and was talking to another guy but only
had sex with him 2x once in early march
and then march 29. Anyway, the day I broke
up with my ex we had unprotected sex April
3 and I am now 21 weeks pregnant. Prior
sexual encounters since my period of March
24-28 (Guy friend March 29 condom but it
burst was ruptured) (EX April 1 and 3 no
condom). The doctor said I conceived about
April 5-8. We have had drama and more
drama and he has been saying the child is
not his. He has told me what if it's not
his child and I listened but really my
focus is on my health, my baby and my
MBA-Finance in which I'm 1/2 way there.
The thing is the time is approaching when
I would have to decide whose last name to
give my baby. My ex has said he knows the
baby will only have mine. Should I even
consider adding his name onto my child
when he is not around. He showed up a few
times earlier in my pregnancy but is
keeping his distance but recently has been
showing distant signs via email that he
might want to be just a bit close. I plan
to give my baby my last name. Am I being
selfish?
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meblonde01
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Re: Baby's Last Name - Am I Being Selfish Posted: 08-21-07 10:04am
caribbean5
wrote:
Some time ago I posted an
email pertaining to paternity and that I
am now single. The guy who I was seeing
during the separation from my now ex bf
wants to be in my life but I prefer not to
be with him. Just never envision us being
together anyway. My ex who i was with for
5 going on 6 yrs changed all of a sudden
and not sure of what he wanted kwpt his
distance from me for about 2 months. He
woudl visit off and on and said it's not
me it's him so I decided not to worry if
he can't be a man and say what' son his
mind I won't try and make his mind up for
him. So I moved on and was talking to
another guy but only had sex with him 2x
once in early march and then march 29.
Anyway, the day I broke up with my ex we
had unprotected sex April 3 and I am now
21 weeks pregnant. Prior sexual encounters
since my period of March 24-28 (Guy friend
March 29 condom but it burst was ruptured)
(EX April 1 and 3 no condom). The doctor
said I conceived about April 5-8. We have
had drama and more drama and he has been
saying the child is not his. He has told
me what if it's not his child and I
listened but really my focus is on my
health, my baby and my MBA-Finance in
which I'm 1/2 way there. The thing is the
time is approaching when I would have to
decide whose last name to give my baby. My
ex has said he knows the baby will only
have mine. Should I even consider adding
his name onto my child when he is not
around. He showed up a few times earlier
in my pregnancy but is keeping his
distance but recently has been showing
distant signs via email that he might want
to be just a bit close. I plan to give my
baby my last name. Am I being
selfish?
If you are saying you do not know who the
father is and you are single.. I would
give it my last name.. that is not selfish
that is really practical.
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caribbean5
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jul 2007 Posts: 34
Posted: 08-21-07 10:11am
Thx meblonde01 for the reply. I do plan to
give it my name. I am more than certain
that it's my ex's but not with all the
drama we had I need to be practical.
