Well the best thing to do is ask yourself why? Is there something that happened to you in the past, was it your upbringing to not talk about sex, or are you afraid of something? Most of it sounds like embarrassment and the only way to overcome that is too either "do it" or talk about it.

A lot of help I know. I went to therapy to overcome my issues with sex and it was the best thing I could have done. I love my hubby but I was just to scared and it felt dirty. But my therapist helped me get to the bottom of it and well I feel better. I am still shy when it comes to saying things out loud.

One suggestion that has worked for me is talking about sex when we arent having sex. It takes the pressure of the performance. We talk about sex at different times like when we are laying down or even over dinner. I also bought a sex book and we both got to point out different things we really liked and didnt like, without saying a word.

Just explore different things, its very hard at first but as you get going you will become more confident and that I have learned is a total turn on for a guy.

Good Luck

I think it is cool that he is asking you.. that's a good thing.. Try and relax and enjoy the fact that he cares enough to want to please you..

Do you clam up at the thought or when you're actually doing something? If it's just at the thought or mentioning, you may just be a shy person like me. I'm unable to talk sexually unless I'm in the mood. I get really nervous and I've always been a shy person. If that's your problem, just do what I do and go with it. When you're in the mood its surprising how you can change. Most guys like the two personality thing. It turns them on.

If that's not your problem, maybe you can try talking to him about what happens to you and you can discuss how to get past it or work with it. Good luck!

I'm very open and willing to try anything during sex- but I can't really seem to get myself to talk about it either. If you need to communicate something, there are other ways to do it..... if you are trying to get him to do a certain thing, you can use encouragement- "Yeah just like that " therefore avoiding saying stupid sounding things like "stroke my clit in a quick circular motion" or whatever. Try just using normal language and work yourself into it.

Or if you need to tell him what turns you on, say something like "I'll show you tonight" so you can perform on him what you would like performed on you, etc.

But it could be fun to surprise him and attack him- when he's gone, prepare an attack for him- etc., get naked, light some candles, whatever helps you to be in the mood and will excite him. You won't have to say a word- he'll know what you want and be turned on.