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August 19th, 2007
Ok, I am a female, 19 years old. I can orgasm if I use a vibrator, and if I use a vibrator the same day I have sex with my boyfriend. But I never seem to really have any awesome orgasms with sex alone. It's not really affecting my life in any way, I just want to know what the crap is going on. Like, when you guys have sex with your girlfriends, does she seem to have orgasms or not? I mean, oral sex hasn't even brought me to orgasm. I'm not really hard to please, because I am the type that likes to please others rather than receive.. I enjoy watching as my boyfriend cums.. don't know why, it's just fun. Anyways, I want to know what you guys do to get your girls 'cumming'.. if you even do anything?
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unknownperson
replied August 19th, 2007
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I'm in the same boat with you, though I have a small toy instead of a vibrator. I know comfort is a big deal, and even if things feel super great, only my toy works for me.

I suggest you masturbate more often without your toy, and try to learn what you like. Tell your man these things, or even let him use your vibrator on you. I'm nearly positive he'd enjoy it.

That way he can have the same joy you do when you make him go.

Plus, being open and talking about things is very important and can make a big difference. That includes whither or not picky-cummers get to go in bed.


Of course, this doesn't mean you have to go, and I'm sure you know that if you're already enjoying oral and all.
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Tylanas
replied August 19th, 2007
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Re: Sex Is Great, But Where's My Orgasms?
jennay7188 wrote:
Ok, I am a female, 19 years old. I can orgasm if I use a vibrator, and if I use a vibrator the same day I have sex with my boyfriend. But I never seem to really have any awesome orgasms with sex alone. It's not really affecting my life in any way, I just want to know what the crap is going on. Like, when you guys have sex with your girlfriends, does she seem to have orgasms or not? I mean, oral sex hasn't even brought me to orgasm. I'm not really hard to please, because I am the type that likes to please others rather than receive.. I enjoy watching as my boyfriend cums.. dont know why, it's just fun. Anyways, I want to know what you guys do to get your girls 'cumming'.. if you even do anything?


Honestly this belongs on the Women's Sexual Health forum, because as we all know, girls fake it. We do!! A guy can't tell for real if his girl is orgasming.

Now down to business. You're normal!! I know, not encouraging. But most women (we're taking 80% here) cannot orgasm from sex alone!! I can't.
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Devar
replied August 20th, 2007
A vibrators going to do a hell of a lot more "work" than a penis is even capable of have you tried givin it a miss for a while and seeing it it has any posotive effects ?

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alliejane
replied September 9th, 2007
At least you've found vibrators already! I was about 5 years older than you are when I realized that I was "normal" (not being able to orgasm during sex). 15 years later, I still have not been able to orgasm during sex unassisted. It's been a great way to introduce toys into an intimate relationship (for a partner that hasn't played with toys before) plus I've been fortuante to have partners that are very good at going down on me which can be an incredible orgasm. Having intercourse after that gives both of us great sensations.
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