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Q: Lose Erection When About to Have Sex

asked by: young3 on August 19th, 2007

New User

Ok this is kind of a long story. I have had a girlfriend for about 2 years now and she was my first. To this day I can have sex with her with no problem of having an erection. There is this other girl I am with and when we are fully clothed and do things like kiss and touch i have a full erection. When we take our clothes off (me and the "other" girl) the erection slowly goes away. This has happened 3 times. I put the condem on and when I try to go inside her I am not hard enough to penetrate her. I dont understand how I can have a full erection with clothes on but when they are off I can not get hard. I am 18 and in good health. Any input on this situation would be appreciated. Thank u

Replies(7)

Tylanas

replied on August 19th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

I might sound judgmental but maybe this is your body's way of telling you not to cheat on your girlfriend!!! >:<

young3

replied on August 20th, 2007

New User

you could be right but come on there has to be something I can do about this

Devar

replied on August 20th, 2007

New User

Like Eiri said im sure its because in the back of your mind you know its wrong.

Tylanas

replied on August 20th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

young3 wrote:

you could be right but come on there has to be something I can do about this

Um, yes, there is. Don't Cheat!!!

If you think I'm going to tell you how to get over performance anxiety just so you can stick your penis in a mistress (aka the girl you're cheating with) then you're just going to have to go somewhere else.

lonestarguy

replied on August 20th, 2007

Active User, very eHealthy

Agreed

You don't seem to have trouble getting hard for your original gf and, I assume, for masturbation, but you do have trouble with your new gf.

I'm not a doctor or a therapist, but it does sound like you have guilt feelings when you are with gf#2. Believe me, every man has trouble performing with anxiety. If there is no physical reason for ed, then it has to be something mental or emotional.

And my colleagues here are right about cheating. Don't do it, if only for moral reasons. If you having regular sex with both gfs, it's possible you are going to be dealing with some big emotional issues soon. Whether you know it or not, you are playing with their feelings and that is a dangerous thing.

change is good

replied on August 20th, 2007

Experienced User

we all agree. your "performance issues" should go away when you decide to stop cheating on gf #1. guilt is an amazing thing and affects all of us in many different ways.

young Girl

replied on August 20th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

some one is feeling guilty........ Wink

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