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chickadee23

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Morning After Sex For the First Time
Posted: 08-17-07 12:38pm

Hello folks,
So I'm trying to work through a couple of things here. I'm nearly 24 and just had sex for the first time last night. It was with a guy I met a few days ago. I find him attractive, we hit it off, we've talked a couple of times, had dinner last night and then went to his place. We had fun, comfortable, protected sex, and plan on talking to him again, though because of our plans for the near future I can't see us developing a relationship. I'm keeping the attitude that it was fun while it lasted.
So for all intents and purposes, last night was a "booty call" or a "one night stand". I'm not usually into slumming it like this (see "24 year-old virgin" info above) and was raised with a healthy attidude toward sex, so this kind of action is pretty unusual for me. And yet, I don't think I'm ashamed of myself. Should I be? A lot of the posts on this forum talk about how sex should be a step in furthering a significant relationship, and I definitely agree. But does that make me a "promiscuous person" (crude term was intended here but was replaced by something more sociallyacceptable) for doing what I did?

On a more pragmatic side, I bled when he penetrated me. The first couple of penetrations hurt somewhat, but not unbearably, and then I had no problems. He's pretty big, so I wouldn't be surprised if something tore. I'm a little sore this morning, and still bleeding a little, but that's about it. How many days rest should I give it before whatever tore can be considered healed?
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Posted: 08-17-07 12:40pm

no of course you shouldnt feel bad!!!

and kudos for using protection
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Llewellyn

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Posted: 08-17-07 13:34pm

Of course you should not feel bad. You did what was right for you. Some people have sex only in a relationship with someone they love. Other people think sex is something to share with friends. Smile Personally, I am the type to share it with friends. We're all different and have sex in different ways. If you feel comfortable with your decision, why would it matter what other people think or do?

You might want to hold off on sex for a few days, at least until you don't notice pain or bleeding anymore. Pain and bleeding are a very common result of not being lubricated enough. So in the future, you might want to try a water-based lubricant. Rarely, pain and bleeding can be a sign of more serious problems though, so you can still mention it to your ob-gyn just in case.
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