Morning After Sex For the First Time Posted: 08-17-07 12:38pm
Hello folks,
So I'm trying to work through a couple of
things here. I'm nearly 24 and just had
sex for the first time last night. It was
with a guy I met a few days ago. I find
him attractive, we hit it off, we've
talked a couple of times, had dinner last
night and then went to his place. We had
fun, comfortable, protected sex, and plan
on talking to him again, though because of
our plans for the near future I can't see
us developing a relationship. I'm keeping
the attitude that it was fun while it
lasted.
So for all intents and purposes, last
night was a "booty call" or a "one night
stand". I'm not usually into slumming it
like this (see "24 year-old virgin" info
above) and was raised with a healthy
attidude toward sex, so this kind of
action is pretty unusual for me. And yet,
I don't think I'm ashamed of myself.
Should I be? A lot of the posts on this
forum talk about how sex should be a step
in furthering a significant relationship,
and I definitely agree. But does that make
me a "promiscuous person" (crude term was
intended here but was replaced by
something more sociallyacceptable) for
doing what I did?
On a more pragmatic side, I bled when he
penetrated me. The first couple of
penetrations hurt somewhat, but not
unbearably, and then I had no problems.
He's pretty big, so I wouldn't be
surprised if something tore. I'm a little
sore this morning, and still bleeding a
little, but that's about it. How many days
rest should I give it before whatever tore
can be considered healed?
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young Girl
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Posted: 08-17-07 12:40pm
no of course you shouldnt feel bad!!!
and kudos for using protection
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Llewellyn
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Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 08-17-07 13:34pm
Of course you should not feel bad. You
did what was right for you. Some people
have sex only in a relationship with
someone they love. Other people think sex
is something to share with friends. Personally, I am
the type to share it with friends. We're
all different and have sex in different
ways. If you feel comfortable with your
decision, why would it matter what other
people think or do?
You might want to hold off on sex for a
few days, at least until you don't notice
pain or bleeding anymore. Pain and
bleeding are a very common result of not
being lubricated enough. So in the
future, you might want to try a
water-based lubricant. Rarely, pain and
bleeding can be a sign of more serious
problems though, so you can still mention
it to your ob-gyn just in case.
Personally, I am
the type to share it with friends. We're
all different and have sex in different
ways. If you feel comfortable with your
decision, why would it matter what other
people think or do?
