not all men act like that hun

for some reason it sounds like he got scared and changed his mind which is really messed up because he should be ther for you
but you DONT need negative people in your life right now. you have to stay strong for you and your baby. its the two of you against the world now and you seem like a very strong girl.

im so sorry hes putting you through this and i hope he realizes that life is not a game anymore and he needs to be responsible

however men never seem to grow up i hope for you and the babys sake he does

good luck and im here if you need anything

Men are idiots lol. They think they are "strong" and can handle any type of reality they are faced. But when the real reality hits, they tend to actually become very scared, fragile and fall apart. << thats part of being human and is normal but I think they feel less of a "man" when faced with such truth and out of no rational thinking they just "run away" as if thats going to make a difference. And they say women are weak... A woman can love unconditionally, why we are mothers and thats stregth ive never seen in a man... Maybe your man is feeling way insecure and not "good enough" for you because of this situation. Maybe hes acting this way because he feels he cant provide you with what you deserve. Hopefully you can get together with him and disscuss the matter in every single aspect you possibly can so you can come up with answers your seeking. Goodluck, i'm rooting for you!

I realize this is an outdated thread (end of November 07), but I just wanted to comment on the part of the above quoted post that is in bold.

" A woman can love unconditionally, why we are mothers and thats stregth ive never seen in a man... "

There are plenty of men with this quality. My father had it and my husband has it. Don't give up on finding this quality in the men in your life now, and those you will meet in the future. I think it comes with maturity. I know women who do not have it (maybe they will grow into it), and that is sad, especially when they are mothers.

Have to agree with you, futureshock. The men in my family are all, every last one of them, excellent husbands and fathers. I am sure my brothers learned it from my father who has provided selfless love and devotion to all of us, all his life, and continues to do so.

It set a very high standard, however, when his daughters were looking for husbands!

I know this is an old thread, but she said she.s 30 and he turned 21? The majority of men aren't sure of what they want until their mid 20s early or even late 30s. He's just a little boy she needs all the support she. Can get from family and friends. I hope everything went well for her

I was involved with someone i knew since i was 14 we were hs sweethearts and last year reunited after he looked for me online...we together and everything was going well until i told him i was having a baby then he disappeared and stopped talking to me all together...i am 8 months pregnant with our daughter and he not once checked up on me to see if everything was okay...i dont know what happened why he did what he did to me...he's 37 and acts as if he were 14 again...i dont get it...i have tried repeatedly to contact him but have been unsuccessful...i feel like this if he didnt want anything to do with me now that i am pregnant then i dont want him there after he might as well stay away...im very angry and deeply hurt...i dont want him in my life or my child's life because he abandoned us both...although i speak to one of his sisters i feel regardless that's her brother...he's clearly in deep denial and at times i feel as though he thought i lied to keep him meanwhile i asked him to be a part of his baby's development...to make it worse he ended up moving back with his ex without a care in the world...oh well he did me the favor...i pity his woman now cause he's not much of a man and sooner or later he will have to own up to what he has done...karma