Help Sex With a Virgin Proving Difficult, Please Help! Posted: 08-17-07 10:30am
Hi im new to the forum but have been
reading it for a while. Im 18 yrs old and
been with my gf for 6months. We have
decided its time to have sex. Last week we
thought we had, it felt like it was in to
me and she thought so too. BUT i decided i
check by putting my hand down there and
turned out the head had not entered her
and it was part of my shaft that was kind
of entering her. Anyway so the other night
we tried again...no success at all,
couldnt get it in. When id get close it
would slip. My penis is around 7 inches
long and when fully erect the head kind of
points slightly downwards. So this is it
making it hard for it to go in the right
direction. Is it the height difference,
shes 5'2 and im 6'2? Coz missionary just
wont work. Please help.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 08-17-07 12:10pm
Try using your hands, making sure she is
very well lubricated (using store bought
lube if necessary) , and guiding your
penis in. Maybe start by fingering her or
oral so you are familiar with the area and
both of you are very ready, and then when
the time is right, use your hand and place
your penis head in there, and then slowly
start to push your body further in.
There's nothing wrong with using your
hands to help you out. I've been having
sex for years now and I still need hands
every once in a while, sometimes the aim
just isn't great lol. And try other
positions... her on top is a good one for
beginners because you can see what's
happening better and she can have enough
control to make sure nothing hurts, etc
and get maximum pleasure.
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jako18
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Posted: 08-17-07 16:32pm
Well thats just it, i was using my hands
and dear god it did not want to go in. It
was like hitting a brickwall, as soon as
it hit, it bent and wasnt goin in. I a
familiar with her body, i have given her
oral many times (ive actually never
recieved oral from her), i have fingered
her and we couldnt figure out why it wasnt
working.
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young Girl
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Posted: 08-17-07 16:48pm
i would try some lube to make things
easier
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Tylanas
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Posted: 08-17-07 17:04pm
jako18
wrote:
Well thats just it, i was
using my hands and dear god it did not
want to go in. It was like hitting a
brickwall, as soon as it hit, it bent and
wasnt goin in. I a familiar with her body,
i have given her oral many times (ive
actually never recieved oral from her), i
have fingered her and we couldnt figure
out why it wasnt
working.
Like I said, I think you need to stick
your fingers in her first, with your penis
right there. You'll know exactly where her
entrance is and you can stretch it before
putting your penis in there.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 08-17-07 17:24pm
if it's not going in at all, she could be
dry or tight because she's nervous or not
ready.
Make sure you spend lots of time getting
her ready, in fact, try to get her to
orgasm before you even attempt sex. Then
she will be plenty lubricated and relaxed
and it should go in easier.
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jako18
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Posted: 08-18-07 10:33am
Thanks for the suggestions, tried what you
guys told me but sadly didnt work. Was
still unable to enter her, shes getting a
bit frustrated so i wish i could fix this
problem.
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popminer
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Posted: 08-18-07 16:55pm
i found it easier to go slow and stuff and
use lube, but try one big push and see
what happens. sometimes you just have to
use a little force, because it most likely
will hurt.
girl on top might possibly be easier, but
also more painful.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 08-18-07 17:40pm
popminer
wrote:
i found it easier to go slow
and stuff and use lube, but try one big
push and see what happens. sometimes you
just have to use a little force, because
it most likely will hurt.
girl on top might possibly be easier, but
also more
painful.
I'm going to have to dismiss this right
away.
First-time sex does not have
to hurt. If it hurt, you did something
wrong - aka you forced it in.
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jako18
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Posted: 08-18-07 21:02pm
Eiri
wrote:
popminer
wrote:
i found it easier to go slow
and stuff and use lube, but try one big
push and see what happens. sometimes you
just have to use a little force, because
it most likely will hurt.
girl on top might possibly be easier, but
also more
painful.
I'm going to have to dismiss this right
away.
First-time sex does not have
to hurt. If it hurt, you did something
wrong - aka you forced it
in.
It might not have to hurt but last time i
tried, we were pretty lubed up and there
was no chance i was entering. I was trying
to go slow and not force anything in but
it wouldnt work. Sex isnt meant to be this
hard damn it lol.
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young Girl
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Posted: 08-18-07 22:21pm
jako18
wrote:
Eiri
wrote:
popminer
wrote:
i found it easier to go slow
and stuff and use lube, but try one big
push and see what happens. sometimes you
just have to use a little force, because
it most likely will hurt.
girl on top might possibly be easier, but
also more
painful.
I'm going to have to dismiss this right
away.
First-time sex does not have
to hurt. If it hurt, you did something
wrong - aka you forced it
in.
It might not have to hurt but last time i
tried, we were pretty lubed up and there
was no chance i was entering. I was trying
to go slow and not force anything in but
it wouldnt work. Sex isnt meant to be this
hard blessings on it
lol.
its ok you will get it
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popminer
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Posted: 08-18-07 23:53pm
uhm okay my bad.
sorry i was just saying what worked for
me.
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jako18
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Posted: 08-19-07 08:49am
U know it just sucks. We think we had it
in once last week, just one of those in
the moment things. But now we cant even
get it in. It sucks coz for 6 months we
have waited, which didnt bother me coz i
love her but you know once youve had
something like that once, you want it
again and now its not happening. Shes more
frustrated than me. When i say virgin she
was a virgin in every way before she
started goin out with me. So she had never
been fingered. So when i do it, it still
hurts her.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 08-20-07 11:45am
Maybe she needs to go to a doc. Nothing
should hurt her- fingering, sex, or
anything even if she is a virgin. Her
sexual status has nothing to do with the
mechanics of it all, and it should not
hurt her.
I will say this again- if something hurts
her, it is wrong!!! STOP!!! If you can't
even get your fingers in there without
pain, don't even think about a penis.
That's just mean. When did people stop
caring about the feelings of their
vaginas?? I love mine and would never let
anyone hurt it
Are you absolutely sure she is well
lubricated? Are you using lubricant? Does
she orgasm before you even try to enter
her? Try starting with oral and getting
her good and ready (see if you can get her
to orgasm with oral before entering) and
DON'T put anything in there until she is
ready and it won't hurt her.
If that isn't working, she needs to see a
doctor. Something is wrong.
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jako18
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Posted: 08-21-07 08:17am
Georgia59
wrote:
Maybe she needs to go to a
doc. Nothing should hurt her- fingering,
sex, or anything even if she is a virgin.
Her sexual status has nothing to do with
the mechanics of it all, and it should not
hurt her.
I will say this again- if something hurts
her, it is wrong!!! STOP!!! If you can't
even get your fingers in there without
pain, don't even think about a penis.
That's just mean. When did people stop
caring about the feelings of their
vaginas?? I love mine and would never let
anyone hurt it
Are you absolutely sure she is well
lubricated? Are you using lubricant? Does
she orgasm before you even try to enter
her? Try starting with oral and getting
her good and ready (see if you can get her
to orgasm with oral before entering) and
DON'T put anything in there until she is
ready and it won't hurt her.
If that isn't working, she needs to see a
doctor. Something is
wrong.
Well from what ive been told by friends
and that...it hurt them the first time
they fingered their gf and it hurt during
sex. Yes when we have tried sex but when
fingered than no. Well im not great at
oral and she doesnt really like it coz she
gets kinda self conscious and well feels
guilty coz she doesnt want to give it
back. I dont mind though, i like doing it
to her so when she wants it i give it to
her. I dont get her to orgasm by using
oral, mainly during dry stuff really. Like
dry sex, works a charm and works nearly
every time. The other day i made her
orgasm like that and then thought id see
if we could do it after coz shed be more
relaxed. It seemed like it would be easier
and like i could of got my penis in by she
was too tired so we didnt.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 08-21-07 10:58am
jako18
wrote:
Georgia59
wrote:
Maybe she needs to go to a
doc. Nothing should hurt her- fingering,
sex, or anything even if she is a virgin.
Her sexual status has nothing to do with
the mechanics of it all, and it should not
hurt her.
I will say this again- if something hurts
her, it is wrong!!! STOP!!! If you can't
even get your fingers in there without
pain, don't even think about a penis.
That's just mean. When did people stop
caring about the feelings of their
vaginas?? I love mine and would never let
anyone hurt it
Are you absolutely sure she is well
lubricated? Are you using lubricant? Does
she orgasm before you even try to enter
her? Try starting with oral and getting
her good and ready (see if you can get her
to orgasm with oral before entering) and
DON'T put anything in there until she is
ready and it won't hurt her.
If that isn't working, she needs to see a
doctor. Something is
wrong.
Well from what ive been told by friends
and that...it hurt them the first time
they fingered their gf and it hurt during
sex. Yes when we have tried sex but when
fingered than no. Well im not great at
oral and she doesnt really like it coz she
gets kinda self conscious and well feels
guilty coz she doesnt want to give it
back. I dont mind though, i like doing it
to her so when she wants it i give it to
her. I dont get her to orgasm by using
oral, mainly during dry stuff really. Like
dry sex, works a charm and works nearly
every time. The other day i made her
orgasm like that and then thought id see
if we could do it after coz shed be more
relaxed. It seemed like it would be easier
and like i could of got my penis in by she
was too tired so we
didnt.
You're friends are wrong. It should never
hurt. I would buy lubricant and use that
ALL THE TIME until it never hurts again.
And if it still hurts, she NEEDS to see a
doctor.
We need to unite and stop hurting
vaginas!!!!!!
**This is important because pain during
sex can be indicative of other conditions.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 08-21-07 11:53am
Hey it sounds like you made a
breakthrough! Maybe you didn't get in that
time, but next time do the same thing, and
then try fingering
Has she ever fingered herself? Does she
use tampons? If she does either of those
things and does them painlessly, then it's
obviously a case of not enough lube, and
her not guiding you right.
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jako18
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Posted: 08-22-07 19:46pm
Eiri
wrote:
Hey it sounds like you made
a breakthrough! Maybe you didn't get in
that time, but next time do the same
thing, and then try fingering
Has she ever fingered herself? Does she
use tampons? If she does either of those
things and does them painlessly, then it's
obviously a case of not enough lube, and
her not guiding you
right.
Yeah i reckon i made a breakthrough. It
doesnt always hurt when i finger her,
sometimes it will and sometimes it wont. I
just think she is tensing too much. So i
guess ill just make her orgasm again
before i try another time.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 08-23-07 00:03am
If it is hurting her in the future, it is
a good idea to pull back a little and play
around a little more before you try to
enter her again.
I'd buy some lube- it's cheap anywhere you
can buy condoms and it seems like it would
help the two of you.
I use it all the time because I naturally
just don't get all that lubricated and
when I don't use lubricant I get sore.
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jako18
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Posted: 08-23-07 09:40am
Georgia59
wrote:
If it is hurting her in the
future, it is a good idea to pull back a
little and play around a little more
before you try to enter her again.
I'd buy some lube- it's cheap anywhere you
can buy condoms and it seems like it would
help the two of you.
I use it all the time because I naturally
just don't get all that lubricated and
when I don't use lubricant I get
sore.
I have lube....but ive stopped using it
coz she said it stings and its only a
water based lube that you buy from a store
next to the condoms.Dont know why it
stings.
