I Get Jelouse, Is It Normal? Posted: 08-16-07 22:36pm
When my fiance goes out with his freinds
or sister etc. I get jelouse.
Its like when yur little and yu have a
best freind and she was invited to go to
another school girls b-day party but yur
not invited. yu know? I think i'm over
reacting, but I somethimes end up crying
cuz I feel left out. Like hes having fun
with out me, or when he forgets to call
its rare but it hurts my feelings.
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young Girl
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Posted: 08-16-07 22:39pm
jelousey is not good victoria you have to someway
get over these feelings because sometime
it can hurt realtionships really badly
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victoria16
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Posted: 08-16-07 22:42pm
the_girlfreind
wrote:
jelousey is not good
victoria you have to someway
get over these feelings because sometime
it can hurt realtionships really badly
Yahh I know I been trying, I've gotten
better. But its wierd it started like 2
months ago, it hasnt been the whole time
weve been going out.
It just happend out of the blue?
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young Girl
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Posted: 08-16-07 22:44pm
its an attachment thing
but then again travis and me never go out
without each other so i dunno how i would
react to the situation your in
it
must be tough but you have to remember he
loves you
not any one else so just keep calm and
never get mad at him about it because its
a huge turn off for guys
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Georgia59
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Posted: 08-16-07 23:51pm
Maybe it would help if you tried to have
fun while he was out. Meaning, if he
leaves, (I'm assuming you live with him
though I don't really know) then take
advantage of it, have a long bubble bath,
invite a girlfriend over and watch movies
he won't watch with you, go shopping,
whatever makes you happy.
If you focus more on your enjoyment and
not his, it might help. You will have to
learn to let go he is allowed to
have his fun without you, just like you
should have fun without him.
I know what you mean, though. You gotta
fight it. Trust me, when you're married it
will go away- you'll want him gone every
once in a while....
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victoria16
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Posted: 08-17-07 00:21am
Georgia59
wrote:
Maybe it would help if you
tried to have fun while he was out.
Meaning, if he leaves, (I'm assuming you
live with him though I don't really know)
then take advantage of it, have a long
bubble bath, invite a girlfriend over and
watch movies he won't watch with you, go
shopping, whatever makes you happy.
If you focus more on your enjoyment and
not his, it might help. You will have to
learn to let go he is allowed to
have his fun without you, just like you
should have fun without him.
I know what you mean, though. You gotta
fight it. Trust me, when you're married it
will go away- you'll want him gone every
once in a while....
Ya I suppose yur rite. It would be nice to
get some me time. SHOPPING
sounds lovely. lol I just wish I didnt
feel so crappy, and its not all the time
that I feel this way just sometimes. But
hes very busiy alot of time hes working 2
jobs, his father often calls him to come
in to work, since its a family buisness,
well one job, he works at another place
also.
Recently I told Chas (my fiance) that
maybe we could do some double dating, I
figured then I wouldnt feel so left out. I
even offered to help his family with thier
buisness for the day, and it was quite fun
even though it was alot of work. I have even
been having friends over more often like
when hes buisy, so atleast I'm getting
somewhere. Thanx for the advice.
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Chezzy
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Posted: 08-17-07 03:36am
If he goes on a night out with friends or
sister, then maybe treat yourself to one
too when he does, get out there and enjoy
girlfriend time ..And on the
occasion ask him if you "Both" can go on a
night out together..
I love going out with the gals, I love
Hubby's company, but there is something
about girl time too..
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victoria16
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Posted: 08-17-07 12:44pm
Chezzy
wrote:
If he goes on a night out
with friends or sister, then maybe treat
yourself to one too when he does, get out
there and enjoy girlfriend time ..And on the
occasion ask him if you "Both" can go on a
night out together..
I love going out with the gals, I love
Hubby's company, but there is something
about girl time too..
Yaaa. An thiers so many things that only
yur Gf's would understand.
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young Girl
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Posted: 08-17-07 12:47pm
lol im going "shopping" this weekend
and travis is takeing me
its horrible when he goes
he picks out the first thing he sees in
hopes to hurry me out of the store lol
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victoria16
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Posted: 08-17-07 13:01pm
the_girlfreind
wrote:
lol im going "shopping" this
weekend
and travis is takeing me
its horrible when he goes
he picks out the first thing he sees in
hopes to hurry me out of the store
lol
Oh well thats the typical guy for yu, Chas
will go in with me n pretend he interested
but hes really not. lol Its obviouse
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Boojeanie
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Posted: 08-17-07 14:30pm
How is every thing going now ?I use to
have the same issue with my husband when
we first started out as well lol , we were
very young to now am 27 and we have been
together for 9y . I started to go out and
acting like I didn't care and before you
know it he was telling me " let just stay
home this weekend " lol try that
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victoria16
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Posted: 08-17-07 17:27pm
Boojeanie
wrote:
How is every thing going now
?I use to have the same issue with my
husband when we first started out as well
lol , we were very young to now am 27 and
we have been together for 9y . I started
to go out and acting like I didn't care
and before you know it he was telling me "
let just stay home this weekend " lol
try that
AWW thats sweet...I would love for chas to
say that...he does ask me on dates alot
but still. An I wish I could ask him to
just hang with me alll weekend but hes got
work all the time.
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worrywart001
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Posted: 08-18-07 23:16pm
ehh I can be the same way, but I try to
bite my tongue..its hard but, I just tell
myself if he wants to be with me, and
loves me, then its his choice..I can't
make him love me you know..and if he does
love me then, he wont do anything out of
line...8 months of our relationship was
long distance bc i was in college, it was
hard but..we've made it...we still make
cute little jokes to each other you know
haha..."so you get any numbers
tonight"...its hard not to get jealous
but, sometimes I like it if I see a girl
lookin at my man, its my hand he's holdin
not hers..and at the end of the
night..he's leavin with me tooooo bad
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victoria16
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Posted: 08-18-07 23:31pm
worrywart001
wrote:
ehh I can be the same way,
but I try to bite my tongue..its hard but,
I just tell myself if he wants to be with
me, and loves me, then its his choice..I
can't make him love me you know..and if he
does love me then, he wont do anything out
of line...8 months of our relationship was
long distance bc i was in college, it was
hard but..we've made it...we still make
cute little jokes to each other you know
haha..."so you get any numbers
tonight"...its hard not to get jealous
but, sometimes I like it if I see a girl
lookin at my man, its my hand he's holdin
not hers..and at the end of the
night..he's leavin with me tooooo
bad
lol Its funny cause girls look at him but
not really. Everyone always asks me why Im
with him cuz they think hes funny looking
and Im a model...but love is blind. N I
know he loves me or he wouldnt have asked
me to marry him.
So worrywort011, how yu long yu n yur man
been 2geather?
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worrywart001
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Posted: 08-18-07 23:36pm
just over 14 months..never ever saw it
comin haha..we met a few years ago, worked
together but didn't click..i came back
after a year of college and went back to
my job for the summer, he was still there
and kept buggin me about goin on a date
but i kept turning him down..him and my
bro are friends..thought it'd be weird,
finally gave in and glad i did
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victoria16
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Posted: 08-18-07 23:40pm
worrywart001
wrote:
just over 14 months..never
ever saw it comin haha..we met a few years
ago, worked together but didn't click..i
came back after a year of college and went
back to my job for the summer, he was
still there and kept buggin me about goin
on a date but i kept turning him down..him
and my bro are friends..thought it'd be
weird, finally gave in and glad i did
AWW thats like a movie love storie. lol My
fiance b4 we were going out was telling
everyone I was his future gf, n guess wat
happend. lol
Hey I wanna put a pic up of me an my bf so
yu girls can see what he looks like. can
anyone tell me how 2?
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worrywart001
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Posted: 08-18-07 23:44pm
no idea how to! i can't wait to finally
get married, we have promise rings right
now that we wear...my cousin is engaged to
a guy shes been dating since sophomore
year of college so..about 4 years now and
they're getting married next year, she
just graduated...I'm just ready to get
through school and start my life you
know...I'll be into my junior year of
college in the spring..i'm just tired of
the in between phase I guess...lol...but I
wanna do anything and everything to make
it work with him, I can't imagine being
without him..even when we fight..i can't
sleep until i make things ok, I wanna wake
up and have him be the first thing I see
every morning wow i'm a
cheeseball
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victoria16
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Posted: 08-18-07 23:50pm
worrywart001
wrote:
no idea how to! i can't wait
to finally get married, we have promise
rings right now that we wear...my cousin
is engaged to a guy shes been dating since
sophomore year of college so..about 4
years now and they're getting married next
year, she just graduated...I'm just ready
to get through school and start my life
you know...I'll be into my junior year of
college in the spring..i'm just tired of
the in between phase I guess...lol...but I
wanna do anything and everything to make
it work with him, I can't imagine being
without him..even when we fight..i can't
sleep until i make things ok, I wanna wake
up and have him be the first thing I see
every morning wow i'm a
cheeseball
No your not cheeseball, I feel the same
way. My fiance is my best friend...what
would I do without him? well...cry!!!!!!
lol
Thats cute yu have promise rings!!!! I
wear my promise ring around my neck and my
engagment ring on my ring finger.
Congrats to your cousin!!!
WOOH!!!!
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worrywart001
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Posted: 08-18-07 23:57pm
how long have you been with your fiance???
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victoria16
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Posted: 08-19-07 00:06am
worrywart001
wrote:
how long have you been with
your
fiance???
Only a year. We wont be getting married
till 2009 though
you have to someway
get over these feelings because sometime
it can hurt realtionships really badly
it
must be tough but you have to remember he
loves you
he is allowed to
have his fun without you, just like you
should have fun without him.
..And on the
occasion ask him if you "Both" can go on a
night out together..
