As long as that is all either party expects to gain from it, i see absolutely nothing wrong with it at all. Provided STD safety measures are taken, of course. I myself have been involved in many one night stands. I don't feel bad about them.

I agree with what (I think) sillya said. A one night stand is fine as long as both people involved have the expectation that it won't go any further than that... so noone is being deceived into thinking it's the start of a relationship or something.

Does a one night stand accomplish anything? *Sly grin* Why, yes, of course, your heathen needs.

Like everyone else said, as long as everyone knows what is going on and you're being smart about the whole thing, why not?

I have been a part of one night stands. I think I was stupid in a few of them, hell, I was stupid in a few of them, but I'm not dwelling on it.

I never had a one night stand but I would say that as long as the two are adults not cheating on anybody else and they are responsible for the actions, means like accepting an unplanned pregnancy from the one night stand and it is clear that it is one night stand so that neither of them will hurt each other feelings from it being just a one night thing I don't think there is a moral issue with it. But it is no means a good practice do to disease..

I, personally, think one night stands are irresponsible and stupid about 98% of the time. Mainly because teens account for the majority of the people who do this and that is always dumb, I don't care how careful they try to be.

If you do not know someone well enough to know how they feel about pregnancy as a possibility or if they have diseases or not, then you've no business sleeping with that person. At all. I say this because men who do it are the first to whine when the chick wants an abortion or he doesn't want to pay child support and girls actually are surprised when the guy doesn't stay interested in them because we have wildly different ideas than guys do, but won't accept it.

The only time the above is not really an issue is when the two parties are adults-and I mean like 30 . And even then, it's probably not a very good idea.

All in all, I don't think they are moral or immoral, I just think it shows a lack in character and maturity.

As long as you're safe, who gives a flying duck?

yeah I agree with most people here. it's fine as long as your single and no ones going to get ill

I think women who have frequent one night stands are often seeking affection and attention because there is something missing in their lives. I don't think that makes them 'slags' or of low morals however.

Men aren't so complicated. They have frequent one night stands because they want sex.

I'm generalising of course but I think warning bells should ring if a woman has frequent one night stands - things probably aren't going so well in her life.

So a woman having frequent one night stands would be a warning bell to you but a man having frequent one night stands is not a warning bell?

Isn't that a double standard?

Men and woman are different, it's not double standards, it's biology.

in my opinion sex is a form of affection... so they'd be slutting around for the same reason?

Alot of loosey-goosey's here.
So much for saving oneself for your future spouse.

I find a woman who is...well for lack of a better word "easy" as one would need to be to have a one night stand or in one persons case "many", very unattractive as I know most men do as well. Basically guys go after them because they are an easy fix. Not someone they would take home to mom or marriage material. No guy wants to marry a woman who has been with a dozen guys.

Jules i totally agree with you on this one...
I was one of those girls
i slumped into depression, and turned to sex
i lost my best friend, my boyfriend, and my mom (friendship wise) all in the same year

so i was looking for affection..
and I turned to hooking up with different guys...

i do no think of myself as a promiscuous person or as an "easy" girl
i was in a hard time in my life

all of my boyfriends have taken me home to meet their mothers and
2 of them had actually proposed to me (i turned them down, obviously we're too young)...

but that's my story with one night stands

Sex is a form of affection sometimes but it can also be just sex. I don't think strangers would see it as 'affection' rather than just sex.

Thanks Marfa, that's what I'm trying to say - I don't think anyone who has one night stands is 'easy', be they male or female, just that women are often seeking something different from them than men. Again, I'm generalising, I can't speak for all women.

So, why can't women want sex?

ive never had a one night stand
i take sex pretty seriously only because i didnt ever wanna take the chance of anything happeneing with the worng person or when i was not ready. i wasnt on bc ever so i knew i could gte pregnant even with a condom i didnt wanna take the chance.

however i believe that if you a one night stand is your kinda thing and you are mature enough and safe enough then why not?

That sure was the case for me for most of them.

A couple were just for the enjoyment of sex, though, but the others came to pass after I got out of a horrible relationship and I felt the need to validate my attractiveness by sleeping with differen types of guys. I'm sure that if you knew me at the time you would not have thought of me as an "easy" type of woman.

I think. Sometime's it's hard to look at things retrospectively and be accurate.

No guy I'd want to marry, anyways, if he's basing his opinion of you on your sexual past.

It's only happened once for me. I've also had a casual sexual relationship, sort of like many one night stands with the same person... but he ended up weepy and thinking he was falling in love with me, so that is an example of when it's not a good idea, when the two involved aren't on the same page. I really just prefer the emotion connection felt with affectionate we-care-about-each-other sex. That said even with boyfriends it hasn't always felt like that. Even in a relationship it is sometimes still just sex. In fact I've only had one boy really emotionally penetrate me with his love makin'.