Every Day Struggle With Sexism (Page 1)
Yes, it is a double entendre.
Anyways I was thinking that women have to struggle daily with sexism in our jobs, in our communities, and sometimes in our relationships. What do you find frustrating when it comes to sexism? What are some of the hurdles you have had to overcome?
I am lucky, I think in that i have aman who is very sensitive, sometimes even more than me. It is like living with a woman. But there are times that even i get irritated. One example is that he never ever starts dinner, no matter how late I am getting home from work. He always gets home at least an hour before i do, but nothing has been started. Not even to put away the clean breakfast dishes. I think some things are "women's jobs" even though we live in this enlightened egalitarian society of ours.
Also I once worked at a huge orthopaedic office. All of the surgeons were men and all of the support staff were women. One way you could get bonuses was to sleep with the doctors (not all of them, mind you-some of them were wonderful and kind). I worked for the only female physician in the whole group. After 2 years they fired her. She was only the second woman to work inthat office. the first quit after 9 months.
Anyways I was thinking that women have to struggle daily with sexism in our jobs, in our communities, and sometimes in our relationships. What do you find frustrating when it comes to sexism? What are some of the hurdles you have had to overcome?
I am lucky, I think in that i have aman who is very sensitive, sometimes even more than me. It is like living with a woman. But there are times that even i get irritated. One example is that he never ever starts dinner, no matter how late I am getting home from work. He always gets home at least an hour before i do, but nothing has been started. Not even to put away the clean breakfast dishes. I think some things are "women's jobs" even though we live in this enlightened egalitarian society of ours.
Also I once worked at a huge orthopaedic office. All of the surgeons were men and all of the support staff were women. One way you could get bonuses was to sleep with the doctors (not all of them, mind you-some of them were wonderful and kind). I worked for the only female physician in the whole group. After 2 years they fired her. She was only the second woman to work inthat office. the first quit after 9 months.
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the title of this post is everyday struggle with sexism...
now wheres everyday_struggle
now wheres everyday_struggle
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| sillyakchick wrote: |
| One example is that he never ever starts dinner, no matter how late I am getting home from work. He always gets home at least an hour before i do, but nothing has been started. Not even to put away the clean breakfast dishes. |
hehehe, i do that and iron the clothes. Maybe because i like things nice and neat?
I have read that females do get paid less than their male counterparts but have better chances of getting a raise when asking for one. Thats is defintley interesting.
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| everyday_struggle wrote: | ||
hehehe, i do that and iron the clothes. Maybe because i like things nice and neat? I have read that females do get paid less than their male counterparts but have better chances of getting a raise when asking for one. Thats is defintley interesting. |
you iron the clothes?!?!
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My husband irons. I wear things that don't require ironing.
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my dad does all the laundry
and a lot of the cooking....
and a lot of the cooking....
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i wish travis would do laundry 
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you iron the clothes?!?! |
press, iron, whatever you want to call, yea i do that. Did that since i was a kid going to catholic school. I dont think women should be confined into what society think they should do. If she wants to become an astronaut or sports athelete by all means go ahead and do so.
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press, iron, whatever you want to call, yea i do that. Did that since i was a kid going to catholic school. I dont think women should be confined into what society think they should do. If she wants to become an astronaut or sports athelete by all means go ahead and do so. |
wow...im glad theres men out there that think this way!!!!! 
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| the_girlfreind wrote: |
| i wish travis would do laundry |
i do laundry too. You see my mom was the old school kind of woman that cooks, cleaned, and took care of the kids. But she always taught me to be independant. So she taught me how to cook and do laundry. My pops taught me how to iron and other misc things. Im soft to the fact that i dont like sports and cars. I dont like fixing cars or knowing anything about them. My dad wanted me to be this handy man that can be mr fix it all so i dont have to spend money on handy men. But i always thought that id make enough money where i dont need to know. But i live in an apartment so they do all the handy stuff. sweeeeet
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wow...im glad theres men out there that think this way!!!!! |
theres a lot of us that think this way. I mean look at Hilary Clinton. 20 years ago she couldnt run for president and now shes doing so. I would have voted for her, but i just like Obama better. So who knows. When people do get over their differences and BS and work together, we as humans can accomplish a lot.
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| everyday_struggle wrote: | ||
i do laundry too. You see my mom was the old school kind of woman that cooks, cleaned, and took care of the kids. But she always taught me to be independant. So she taught me how to cook and do laundry. My pops taught me how to iron and other misc things. Im soft to the fact that i dont like sports and cars. I dont like fixing cars or knowing anything about them. My dad wanted me to be this handy man that can be mr fix it all so i dont have to spend money on handy men. But i always thought that id make enough money where i dont need to know. But i live in an apartment so they do all the handy stuff. sweeeeet . |
ugh
cars
thats travis hobby.
but i think its cool your mom raised you to be independant.
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| the_girlfreind wrote: |
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ugh cars thats travis hobby.
but i think its cool your mom raised you to be independant. |
i think its cuz she was dependant of my dad all the time. She moved from Nicaragua with him and didnt know language or anybody. i hate cars except for driving in a nice one.
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obama
he looks just plain scary as hell
he looks just plain scary as hell
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| the_girlfreind wrote: |
| obama
he looks just plain scary as hell |
well im really glad you cant vote. I dont want anyone that votes based solely on looks
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| everyday_struggle wrote: | ||
well im really glad you cant vote. I dont want anyone that votes based solely on looks |
i wouldnt vote even if i could
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i wouldnt vote even if i could |
well your 16, you wouldnt really know the importance of voting. But thats for a different topic.
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| everyday_struggle wrote: | ||
well im really glad you cant vote. I dont want anyone that votes based solely on looks |
Look, we agree on something!
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I'm one of the lucky ones ... I have got a hubby that does his fair share around the house, we both respect each others careers and how difficult some days may be .. I do get paid the same as the man sat next to me doing the same job .. I am respected by them too .. there were times when I had to pull guys up for being disrespectful, some I could have a 'man' joke with, but as I work with more men then women, I have to judge when to 'switch off' with them, as they are entitled to 'verbal women bashing' just as us women have our gripes and 'verbal men bashing' talks ...
I work with the Royal Navy, the lads are good as gold with me ..
I did have a problem 18 years ago when I first joined, as I was talked down too, not only was I young - I was a woman too.. so I had the sexist remarks made to me ... and I took it as there wasn't any type of support back then .. however, after a couple of months taking this BS from this guy .. I told him to leave it out, or I'd have him on his butt .. I wasn't gonna take his crap, no matter what rank he was .. he grinned at me, and said ' about time you said something - never let a man treat you like s**t' and I gained a little respect there with him ..... he's no longer with us, he past away about 3-4 years ago during the Gulf war ... but I will always remember him teaching me to stand up for my rights...
I'm desk bound now ... but I still communicate with the boys out there, I want to, it's my job to keep them safe .. and they give me respect, and it is cos they know me well, and they know I can take a joke .... and I won't take any crap...
So when I hear any sexist comments made, I will react, there is no reason to be sexist ... not all men are w*****s, just as not all women are b***hes.....
I work with the Royal Navy, the lads are good as gold with me ..
I did have a problem 18 years ago when I first joined, as I was talked down too, not only was I young - I was a woman too.. so I had the sexist remarks made to me ... and I took it as there wasn't any type of support back then .. however, after a couple of months taking this BS from this guy .. I told him to leave it out, or I'd have him on his butt .. I wasn't gonna take his crap, no matter what rank he was .. he grinned at me, and said ' about time you said something - never let a man treat you like s**t' and I gained a little respect there with him ..... he's no longer with us, he past away about 3-4 years ago during the Gulf war ... but I will always remember him teaching me to stand up for my rights...
I'm desk bound now ... but I still communicate with the boys out there, I want to, it's my job to keep them safe .. and they give me respect, and it is cos they know me well, and they know I can take a joke .... and I won't take any crap...
So when I hear any sexist comments made, I will react, there is no reason to be sexist ... not all men are w*****s, just as not all women are b***hes.....
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| the_girlfreind wrote: | ||||
you iron the clothes?!?! |
Everyday - you did amazed me then ... I hate ironing ... if I send you mine will you do it for me ...
I'll give you $10 to do it ...
I don't even know where I left my iron, as I wear clothes that don't need it, just take it aout of the dryer whislt its still warm and fold and flatten..
job done ... or am I just being lazy
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