Alfies a week old today and the feeding is going surprisingly well. I bottle fed my other boys so although hes my third I am new to this and have a few questions!
I said its going well and it is... he latches on well, feeds well and so far (touch wood) apart from a few aches my boobs feel fine. The only problem I do have is that he feeds all the time!! I know breastfed babies are supposed to feed more, but this is ridiculous, this morning I started feeding him at 9am and was still there at 11am. Everytime he fell asleep and came off the boob I tried to lay him down and he awoke again screaming. The only thing that would calm him was more feeding. This is becoming his regular pattern. I managed to lay him down at 11am put some washing on and then he was crying for more again!! I am constantly feeding him all day long.
Dont get me wrong I love doing it, I would be quite happy to sit down and cuddle him all day but I have 2 other boys and I am beginning to feel like I never see them! I havent done hardly anything with them today as so much of my time has been filled with Alfie and thats making me alittle miserable.
Is it normal for a baby to feed forever like this or is he just plain greedy?? Will this ever calm down? If it carries on like this I know I am going to have to stop. In a couple of weeks Aydan is back at school and Lucas will have playschool and at the moment I cant see me even having time to put a coat on let alone get out the door!! I dont see my midwife again untill saturday so some advise would be great!
Hey Jo. I wish I had some good advice to give you but I don't have much experience myself. My Eadie is a cluster feeder so she will eat every hour for about 4 or 5 hours then sleep 3 or 4 hours, so I guess I am pretty lucky that way. I don't know how I would do it if I had other kids to take care of. It's all I can do to get showered and dressed and get my dishes done. I just want to say good luck and I hope you can get some answers here. You're a real trooper to be giving it a chance and I hope it works out for you.
My kids all expected to be held when they slept, so I would breast feed them and typically they would fall asleep while nursing. If I tried to lay them down, they would wake up within a few minutes so I had to let them nurse once again until they fell asleep. It gets frustrating and with 2 other children besides a baby, I have found it really difficult to divide my time equally between the children. Have you tried a pacifier? Maybe even a front carrier or a sling that way Alfie can feel you nearby. Swaddling might also work. I guess if he feels snug and secure he might sleep better once you lay him down. I wish I could be more help, but unfortunately I was never able to get my kids out of that habit (as I'm typing this, my 9 month old is sleeping in my arms).
I had the same problem with Alyvia. I would either have to wait until she was in a coma-like sleep or just let her sleep on me. Of course, she's my only child and I didn't have others to care for, so I really don't know what advice I can give you.
It's possible that he's cluster-feeding because he's going through a growth spurt, but I can't say for sure. But I wish you the best of luck!
How are the boys adjusting to having a baby brother?
I can completely relate. Brian is five weeks old now and shows no sign of slowing down. I feel like sometimes he is on my boob for about two hours. He is a "snacker." He has gained almost a pound a week since the second week. On the second week he was 6 pounds, 13 ounces and he now weighs over 10 pounds. I breastfed my first child and he was easy compared to Brian. Looks like my lil' one is going to be a big baby. Every baby is different so it's hard to know what Alfie will be like. I hope you get some relief soon. I feel like a constant milking machine. The only time I can get Brian to smile is when I pull it out during feeding time.