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Q: Afraid to Go Down On Her : Performance Anxiety?

asked by: Jeaston77 on August 14th, 2007

New User

I posted on another forum here that a woman I was seeing years ago and I got together after 12 years of being apart...We are dating now and all is good except one thing...Im afraid to go down on her...I dont know why...Im not really good at it, but ive done it plenty of times before...Im not afraid of the taste or smell or anything like that...I'm just scared of not being good enough...She really understands her body and what she wants and needs and I guess I feel like I will be a disappointment or something...

For years she was in my dreams, and I thought about her and its like a gift from the invisible man that she is finally with me...

How do you get over performance anxiety???

Replies(26)

MikeH90

replied on August 15th, 2007

Experienced User

Re: what Is My Deal!!!

Jeaston77 wrote:

ask her what she likes.
Just don't lick up and down like your painting a wall.
And there's always the alpabet trick.

Jeaston77

replied on August 15th, 2007

New User

I'd really like to know why my post was edited???

everyday_struggle

replied on August 16th, 2007

Experienced User

Jeaston77 wrote:

I'd really like to know why my post was edited???

lol, dont bother buddy, youll just get banned.
i agree with mikeh, you should ask her what she likes and you can do it in a way that you arent really asking. The alphabet trick is good but girls really like the slow and repititive motion of the tongue on the clit. Rubbing her Gspot while licking it, is also good. But dont just dive right in there. kiss and lick between her thighs and tease her before you make the landfall. lol. Enjoy and remember have fun. =P

Tylanas

replied on August 16th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Jeaston77 wrote:

I'd really like to know why my post was edited???

If you used inappropriate/raunchy words for things then these words may have been removed. We have members on this site under the age of 18, so using respectful words and the medically correct words for things is appreciated.

You will not "get banned" as Everyday_Struggle said. He's a bit of a troublemaker so don't mind him.

In relation to your problem, if she knows her body well, then as the others have said, ask her to guide you Smile

. A rotating motion is excellent, as is sucking, pressing, and getting your fingers in the vagina at the same time. This all coming from a girl. Also, sticking your tongue in the vagina and licking the labia is very nice feeling. Just ask her to tell you what feels good.

Jeaston77

replied on August 17th, 2007

New User

Eiri wrote:

Jeaston77 wrote:

I'd really like to know why my post was edited???

The title was what is wrong with me(exactly like that) I fail to see how that is offensive...

CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd

replied on August 17th, 2007

Supporter

moving this to a better forum womens chat is for women only sorry.

MikeH90

replied on August 17th, 2007

Experienced User

candita sky wrote:

moving this to a better forum womens chat is for women only sorry.

thats BS. Women are in the men's chat room all the time.

Tylanas

replied on August 17th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

MikeH90 wrote:

candita sky wrote:

moving this to a better forum womens chat is for women only sorry.

thats BS. Women are in the men's chat room all the time.

Well they're not supposed to be. Report them to your forum's moderator. They can delete any posts you find offensive.

Tylanas

replied on August 17th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Jeaston77 wrote:

Eiri wrote:

Jeaston77 wrote:

I'd really like to know why my post was edited???

The title was what is wrong with me(exactly like that) I fail to see how that is offensive...

You know what the F in what means, and so do we. Secondly, "what Is Wrong With Me?" isn't a helpful title. On this forum, moderators are instructed to re-title topics so that the title more accurately represents the question within.

everyday_struggle

replied on August 17th, 2007

Experienced User

MikeH90 wrote:

thats BS. Women are in the men's chat room all the time.

i honestly think they just want women at this site and not men.

Tylanas

replied on August 17th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

everyday_struggle wrote:

MikeH90 wrote:

thats BS. Women are in the men's chat room all the time.

i honestly think they just want women at this site and not men.

If that was true Struggle, we would not have Men's Sexual Health, Men's Conditions OR a Men's Chat forum.

Secondly, the ONLY forum that "restricts" men from posting is Women's Chat. There are dozens and dozens of other places on this forum you can post to.

young Girl

replied on August 17th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

everyday_struggle wrote:

MikeH90 wrote:

thats BS. Women are in the men's chat room all the time.

i honestly think they just want women at this site and not men.

yes because that amkes so much sense Rolling Eyes

Lion79

replied on August 17th, 2007

Experienced User

What's the alphabetic trick?
I'm intrigued.
We don't do oral much, either way, so dunno much about it Laughing

Tylanas

replied on August 17th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Supposedly, mouthing the alphabet against the clitoris during oral is supposed to feel good lmao.

Georgia59

replied on August 17th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Definitely ask her to tell you what she likes- she'll know. And my guess is that if you even got the chance to be down there she'll be happy lol.

Lion79

replied on August 17th, 2007

Experienced User

Eiri wrote:

Supposedly, mouthing the alphabet against the clitoris during oral is supposed to feel good ha ha ha.

lol, I reckon you'd feel a bit daft like.
I have heard that talking in a low voice during oral on a man or woman makes it nicer because of the vibrations, or singing in a low voice. But, for me personally, I'd feel a bit silly.

Jeaston77

replied on August 17th, 2007

New User

Mabey I put my post in the mens chat for a reason...I wasnt talking about how to overcome performance anxiety I want to know why I "had" it in the first place...I want to know if other men have been afraid to do their thing...Im just going to stop using this site...They take way to many unnecessary liberties with the "mod" thing... Shocked

Tylanas

replied on August 17th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Why didn't you try discussing your feelings first instead of just out-bursting? If you wanted one just on the men's forum, then you should have told the mod on that forum, mentioned it in the post, done something aside from what you just did. We can't help you if you don't talk to us.

Tylanas

replied on August 17th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Re: Afraid to Go Down On Her : Performance Anxiety?

Jeaston77 wrote:

How do you get over performance anxiety???

Also, this certainly seems to me like you were asking how to overcome performance anxiety...

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