I am 33 years old. I dont know what the heck the problem is, but like so many I am having this problem getting it up during sex or staying hard. It's seriously affecting me. I don't even feel like theres a reason for me to live if I cant do what I am created for, i.e. to have sex. (please spare the 'thats not all youre here for! comments. Read topics about Survival and Replication. If you want to debate it - MSG me and we can do it somewhere else - I need help on this topic. If Im being a paranoid d--k then sorry, Im having a bad night.)

I dont know what to think. I have been everything. I have been on and off alchohol at different times in my life, sometimes I have drank heavy for a while then I would stop completely. I had/have a porn addiction I think where I masturbate to porn every day. I have had guilt in the past about masturbating. I have been depressed and on Drugs like Lithium and Klonopin and Paxil at different times when I was younger, and still I would drink on them or even for a while smoke Marijuana every day.

Eventually I quit. Everything for the most part. Now I work out and am healthy though a little over weight. I still think I may look at porn too much when I masturbate and am wondering if thats whats causeing me to screw up my erections or if its nerve damage from self abuse and drug interactions; or if its psychological from guilt or porn watching or both combined as well as the already present 'stage fright' I get from performance anxiety since I cant figure out a way to stay hard.

A Woman Just left my house. I am quite the ladys man but Damn if it's like torture when I meet these women and unless I pop a fricken Viagra Im useless (well not completely - I do have some tricks up my sleeve, but I am getting more and more women lately who tell me that even Fantastic Oral Sex is NOT enough - they want intercourse).

Tonight I popped a half of a 50mg tab because I was trying the GNC Vitality pack for a few days now and thought It might be working, because when I masturbated to porn earlier it seemed like I got pretty erect, though I can lose pretty erect erections in the matter of seconds. That didnt work so I took the rest of it but by that time the frustration was already setting in and she was tired and was getting sleepy, but mostly I could usually bypass that and do some oral and manual stimulation, but this is really getting on my nerves these days and honestly I am starting to lose the joy I once had at something I considered an art form and so I have no patience for going down on her. All I wanted to do was have intercourse and the voices of those girls saying that intercourse is necessary even after good oral is ringing in my head. (no not literally)

Not to mention I get these bad headaches that frighten me for like 2 or three days after I take Viagra, I think. It could be only when I take it while drinking wine, but I will know for sure in the next couple days.

Anyways. I simply cant be a useless beta male in this world. I mean, I dont even have the drive to get out into the world and do the things I really want to do because Im stuck on trying to figure out how to fix this problem and Im tired and frustrated.

I mean if I stop looking at porn and masturbating all together is that going to get me horny enough to be able to reverse this?

My Uruologist said NO but of course he doesnt know all the details (porn) since its pretty much a fast in and out session and it doesnt seem very thourough as an examination and I dont want to admit that Im a porn Junkie. However its not like I sit around and look at it all day, I just use it to masturbate. I know women who watch porn more than I do. I know guys who masturbate more than I do. Im lost.

Went to the Doctor and She did all the blood work and found Zilch.

I really must solve this problem. I actually thought to myself a bit ago as my (probably up until tonight) lady friend took off how G-d D--n embarassed I am and how if I cant change this I would most likely have to kill myself. No I do not believe I really would. I am totally against it morally and Religiously, however having such a strong thought is NOT COOL.

I have to fix this. I must. At this point the only thing I can think to do is stop masturbating and stay away from porn, however I have told myself that in the past and have been unable to follow through. Sure for a few days or couple weeks, whatever, but not permanently.

I read somewhere on this forum that someone could try continuing to MB but to use his imagination and not use porn at all.

See - here's the thing. Im not even sure thats whats causeing the problem.

Does anyone have any advice for me. Im really very tired of dealing with all of this. I need to fix this. I need this part of my life handled so I can move on. This has been going on for some degree since my early 20s but now its just rediculous!