20 Years Old - 5 Weeks Pregnant - Father Wants No Part

You are not alone, I am 8weeks ( almost 9)pregant at 38. I already have an 11yr old, that I have raised alone and really did not think I would have another child. I knew the FOB for years and we ended hooking up. He is still legally married but has been separated for 3yrs. I did not start anything with him until he was gone for over 1yr. He seemed like a great guy and I really liked him, we have been together for over a year, but I knew this relationship was going downhill. We never offically dated or was considered a couple, more like friends with benefits. I had trouble dealing with this, because I started to care for him, so I have tried to end it a few times. He would always call or come back, so i figured he must care a little bit. Fastfoward to 3weeks ago, I found out i was pregnant and he wants me to have an abortion. I almost did, but realized I couldn't do that. As soon as he realized my decision changed, he has not talked to me, unless it is to ask if I changed my mind. I have alot of friends and family, but the one I need support from the most is not there. Boy did he fool me, because this behavior proves he is not a very nice person and I feel like a fool. So don't think you are to blame for what has happened, you are doing the right thing, but you have to face the fact that any man that can abandon a pregnant woman, is not a very nice person. Goodluck

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hello
hope you're doin great...
great you'll keep the baby...and im glad as you have the support of your family and friends and that's a great relief.
Once you see the baby and once you hold the baby...I think all the hate will fade away... In the future, you will be able to meet somebody right for you and the baby.

For now, just relax, listen to some good music and smile

if this is his first child maybe he is scared and really wanting the child and to be in your life. sometime when the father sees that there family is involved then he will come around. i was int he same situation in january of this year but my childs father had left completely. i did nt speak to him for 3 weeks, i was depressed all the time crying all the time. but my family and his family and my co-workers were always chering me up, they would say he is going to come around and call. i had a miscarriage in february from stress and worrying. One after noon when i got home he was waitng at my door he then was ready to accept the baby and me. what mad me so confused was my frist doctor visit where they confermed my pregnancy he was right there and left a couple days after that. Just saying i know it is hard and frustrating but you will be okay it wint happen all in one day but eventaully it will come, hard to say but dont stress alot. Teh more you talk about it the better you will feel.

Congrats I became pregnant at 15 and the father wanted me to have an abortion too but I didn't I now have a wonderful little girl(6) and her father has seen her twice she is one of the best things in my life (along with my other daughter 3) If he breached an order of protection are you sure you want him in your childs life especily if he doesn't want to be there

i am not understanding what you mean he never breached an order of protection. i was saying that we talk to each other every day but we cant get along when we are together. i talked him to today for a long time.he is concerned about the baby he wants me to have the baby and his family i am the one that doesnt want the baby. which makes us argue all the time.
dont know what to do?


now my first pregnancy back in january was a problem pregnancy and baby daddy we fought all the time. and he left me. we dont speak to each other and because of everything that was going on i had a miscarriage and we were still fussing. now he is locked up, he gets out in november and he writes every 2 weeks wanting to start all over when he gets out. confused!

i'm 20 years old, 5 weeks pregnant, and the father wants me to have an abortion. Since i was 16 years old i have always told myself that i could never have an abortion, although i am pro-choice. I found out i was pregnant and told the father and he will not talk to me unless i agree to have the abortion. This is OUR body, this is OUR life, and we can raise this child. Its not the ideal situation but its not the end of the world either. Its our choice whether we have the child or not, and it's his choice whether he wants to be the deadbeat dad or an active part in this child's life. Stay strong, it's the hardest thing we will ever have to do but it will be ok.

I'm 21 yrs old and 15 weeks pregnant. also, a single mom 2 be! i'm kinda glad to see that i'm not the only one. I've come to realize that boys don't grow up, and really we're better off without them. Mine also wanted me to have an abortion. So I moved back in with my mother and told him "fine, i can do it myself". now the only thing i'm worried about is him actually coming around after i've already come to terms with him NOT being around.

It'll all work out! Just keep your head high, and worry about nothing more than you and YOUR baby.

hi, i know how some people feel about their partners. I have total moran for my baby's father. he ignores me when i feel happy or positive. he brings me down like a ton of bricks. i am already hormonal and depressed. i cannot say that he makes it easy for me. further he shouts when i call him for just basic emotional support! why do we ever get pregnant!!!!!!

I'm 19 and 15 weeks pregnant myself
and the father of the child walked out on me as soon as I found out I was pregnant pretty much
we talked for a week after I found out and tried to work things out so that he's going to be in my baby's life
but then he went back to drugs and alcohol

who wants that in their child's life?

so I left him and now he's saying he's going to keep me in the state til I have the baby
just so he can have a dna test when it's born
even though he wants nothing to do with the child

I am to be married in about 3 weeks times
and I believe he is just out to ruin the amazing relationship I have with my fiance
because he knows who he is
and knew how much I loved this man even when I was dating my ex
[I think he's just jealous]

it's nice to know I wasn't alone for awhile
seeing as other women are going thru it
but it's still hard to accept that the father doesn't want to be there
and creates a sense of a broken home
which is saddening

Wow this sounds a lot like my situation LOL...Last year i was pregnant @ 20 and i was turning 21 in November and My Beautiful Baby girl was due in April (Fools day to be exact)...And it was kind of the same situation as yours but he did want something to do with us(but i really didnt want anything to do with him)...i did decide i would give him a chance to be there for My little sweety....My daughter is almost 7 months old he has seen her twice, once when we were getting the paternity test and the second time for a brief 5 minutes....I have ultimately come to the decision that he is not the greatest person in the world....I am very very deeply saddened by his decisions considering this beautiful child that means more to me then anything i have ever known means nothing to him.....I was very scared about having a child by myself and now i couldnt see myself any other way....I honestly think everything happens for a reason...and who knows chick he may see Your beautiful Baby and fall deeply in love with he/she on the other hand he might not.....The only thing you need to worry about is YOU AND YOUR BABY......because, and soon you will realize that your baby is you......And as long as you have support of your family and friends GIRL YOU CAN DO ANYTHING....thats for sure...we are strong ......So goodluck to YOU ...You will do great with or without hunni... No Worries!