You are not alone, I am 8weeks ( almost 9)pregant at 38. I already have an 11yr old, that I have raised alone and really did not think I would have another child. I knew the FOB for years and we ended hooking up. He is still legally married but has been separated for 3yrs. I did not start anything with him until he was gone for over 1yr. He seemed like a great guy and I really liked him, we have been together for over a year, but I knew this relationship was going downhill. We never offically dated or was considered a couple, more like friends with benefits. I had trouble dealing with this, because I started to care for him, so I have tried to end it a few times. He would always call or come back, so i figured he must care a little bit. Fastfoward to 3weeks ago, I found out i was pregnant and he wants me to have an abortion. I almost did, but realized I couldn't do that. As soon as he realized my decision changed, he has not talked to me, unless it is to ask if I changed my mind. I have alot of friends and family, but the one I need support from the most is not there. Boy did he fool me, because this behavior proves he is not a very nice person and I feel like a fool. So don't think you are to blame for what has happened, you are doing the right thing, but you have to face the fact that any man that can abandon a pregnant woman, is not a very nice person. Goodluck

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hello
hope you're doin great...
great you'll keep the baby...and im glad as you have the support of your family and friends and that's a great relief.
Once you see the baby and once you hold the baby...I think all the hate will fade away... In the future, you will be able to meet somebody right for you and the baby.

For now, just relax, listen to some good music and smile

Hi, I hope I am replying to this the right way. I too am a single pregnant mom to be. I met a guy almost 4 months ago and started what I thought was a wonderful relationship. In July I went on an antibiotic and low and behold my birth control wasn't effective any longer. When it came time for my period my boyfriend made comments about thinking I was pregnant and even joked about it. Needless to say, I am. After telling him he first went into denial mode than into self pity mode and than what I thought was acceptance. We talked of names and future plans. Than this past weekend everything went straight to hell. He decided our relationship was messed up and he didn't want to be in a relationship with me any longer. So we broke up on Friday, than on Saturday he came over and stayed. I assumed everything was ok and he had just had another freak out session but to my surprise I was wrong. He informed me on Sunday he has no intentions of being with me but does act as though he will be there for the baby. I'm confused, hurt, angry and shocked at this point! If you need to talk I would love to. I am actually oddly surprised at the amount of woman who are in a very similar situation.

if this is his first child maybe he is scared and really wanting the child and to be in your life. sometime when the father sees that there family is involved then he will come around. i was int he same situation in january of this year but my childs father had left completely. i did nt speak to him for 3 weeks, i was depressed all the time crying all the time. but my family and his family and my co-workers were always chering me up, they would say he is going to come around and call. i had a miscarriage in february from stress and worrying. One after noon when i got home he was waitng at my door he then was ready to accept the baby and me. what mad me so confused was my frist doctor visit where they confermed my pregnancy he was right there and left a couple days after that. Just saying i know it is hard and frustrating but you will be okay it wint happen all in one day but eventaully it will come, hard to say but dont stress alot. Teh more you talk about it the better you will feel.

Congrats I became pregnant at 15 and the father wanted me to have an abortion too but I didn't I now have a wonderful little girl(6) and her father has seen her twice she is one of the best things in my life (along with my other daughter 3) If he breached an order of protection are you sure you want him in your childs life especily if he doesn't want to be there

i am not understanding what you mean he never breached an order of protection. i was saying that we talk to each other every day but we cant get along when we are together. i talked him to today for a long time.he is concerned about the baby he wants me to have the baby and his family i am the one that doesnt want the baby. which makes us argue all the time.
dont know what to do?


now my first pregnancy back in january was a problem pregnancy and baby daddy we fought all the time. and he left me. we dont speak to each other and because of everything that was going on i had a miscarriage and we were still fussing. now he is locked up, he gets out in november and he writes every 2 weeks wanting to start all over when he gets out. confused!

i'm 20 years old, 5 weeks pregnant, and the father wants me to have an abortion. Since i was 16 years old i have always told myself that i could never have an abortion, although i am pro-choice. I found out i was pregnant and told the father and he will not talk to me unless i agree to have the abortion. This is OUR body, this is OUR life, and we can raise this child. Its not the ideal situation but its not the end of the world either. Its our choice whether we have the child or not, and it's his choice whether he wants to be the deadbeat dad or an active part in this child's life. Stay strong, it's the hardest thing we will ever have to do but it will be ok.

I'm 21 yrs old and 15 weeks pregnant. also, a single mom 2 be! i'm kinda glad to see that i'm not the only one. I've come to realize that boys don't grow up, and really we're better off without them. Mine also wanted me to have an abortion. So I moved back in with my mother and told him "fine, i can do it myself". now the only thing i'm worried about is him actually coming around after i've already come to terms with him NOT being around.

It'll all work out! Just keep your head high, and worry about nothing more than you and YOUR baby.

hi, i know how some people feel about their partners. I have total moran for my baby's father. he ignores me when i feel happy or positive. he brings me down like a ton of bricks. i am already hormonal and depressed. i cannot say that he makes it easy for me. further he shouts when i call him for just basic emotional support! why do we ever get pregnant!!!!!!

I'm 19 and 15 weeks pregnant myself
and the father of the child walked out on me as soon as I found out I was pregnant pretty much
we talked for a week after I found out and tried to work things out so that he's going to be in my baby's life
but then he went back to drugs and alcohol

who wants that in their child's life?

so I left him and now he's saying he's going to keep me in the state til I have the baby
just so he can have a dna test when it's born
even though he wants nothing to do with the child

I am to be married in about 3 weeks times
and I believe he is just out to ruin the amazing relationship I have with my fiance
because he knows who he is
and knew how much I loved this man even when I was dating my ex
[I think he's just jealous]

it's nice to know I wasn't alone for awhile
seeing as other women are going thru it
but it's still hard to accept that the father doesn't want to be there
and creates a sense of a broken home
which is saddening

Wow this sounds a lot like my situation LOL...Last year i was pregnant @ 20 and i was turning 21 in November and My Beautiful Baby girl was due in April (Fools day to be exact)...And it was kind of the same situation as yours but he did want something to do with us(but i really didnt want anything to do with him)...i did decide i would give him a chance to be there for My little sweety....My daughter is almost 7 months old he has seen her twice, once when we were getting the paternity test and the second time for a brief 5 minutes....I have ultimately come to the decision that he is not the greatest person in the world....I am very very deeply saddened by his decisions considering this beautiful child that means more to me then anything i have ever known means nothing to him.....I was very scared about having a child by myself and now i couldnt see myself any other way....I honestly think everything happens for a reason...and who knows chick he may see Your beautiful Baby and fall deeply in love with he/she on the other hand he might not.....The only thing you need to worry about is YOU AND YOUR BABY......because, and soon you will realize that your baby is you......And as long as you have support of your family and friends GIRL YOU CAN DO ANYTHING....thats for sure...we are strong ......So goodluck to YOU ...You will do great with or without hunni... No Worries!

I HOPE THIS STORY IS THE TRUE ONE, YOU SURE SEEM TO HAVE QUITE A FEW VERSIONS!!

i am 39 years old divorced with two great kids 21 son and 16 girl my baby father is 42 with two kids 16 and 13 boys i was told twice in my life ill never have children again well behold almost 40 and i am 13 weeks he moved to co for a great job retired army cw3 now contractor begged me to abort then said he will stick behind me well he been gone only thing he been doing is getting drunk calling me telling me he loves someone else and wants to raise her kids he said how can you have a child from a man that doesnt love you then he says your so lonely cant you find a man he gets so drunk then calls me to abuse me he said he would send me a few hundred this month but said unexpected bill came in the guy makes 90k a year 42k army retirement just got 5k sign on bonus and he living with a friend till he buys a house i dont want to slam him in court i dont want to hate him but its like he pushing me to hate him

if he's that deterimned not to want the baby then screw him!! i know plenty of single moms that are doing it alone and are alot better than having a "dead beat" as a baby's daddy. just think of the poor child...its really going to hurt it!

good luck

its amazing how many women are in the same situation as myself-its amazing how many men are such low lifes!-i to am 20 yrs and pregnant with my first child! i am absolutly thrilled to meet my baby! The father wanted me to get an abortion as well and kill my child-when i refused-he disappeared..i have no intention on stressing over it-and neither should you-just be happy that your baby is healthy and focus on being the best mother you can possibly be-father or no father

I am in the same situation, however much older. I am 32 and was told at 28 I could not have children. I started talking to a man, we started dating and BAM - the first time we had sex I got pregnant. A huge shocker to me, and him as well. Now, he is trying to force me into an abortion however I can not pick up the call to schedule that appointment. I am a smart woman, I know how hard it will be to raise a child alone. However, since I was told I could not have children and now I am pregnant - I think it is a miracle. I find myself rubbing my belly and wondering who this beautiful person is growing inside me. I still am torn, not sure what to do... But I don't think I can give up on myself and my baby. Today, I am seven weeks along...

I am 22 going to be 23 and 9 weeks preggers an exciting time for a couple, or in my case a single mother with a father very wet behind the ears. He does want to be apart of the child's life but but he is really only seeing the changes its making to his life, and tells me what he thinks is best and what I should do. I feel now I have done it. the ultimate stupid on forehead stamp. I got into it with a guy that never really was interested in me for the reasons called love. I have a hard time accepting that this was the way it was meant to be. I am pro life but have never felt more alone . and will I be alone .. will a man ever find me available to love?