this has happened several times in our experience as a new couple .....he will ask me if it is hard??? how is that happening? Is it even possible he would not know?guys......I am worried ...he avoids the question and dependent on what I tell him gets to it.he prefers I concentrate on the head when giving oral and never gets or stays really hard ...I have wormed out of him that its on going and nothing new to him and all his woman have cheated on him .......I have a clue why..........I am not complaining now...And I am no quitter...we are engaged and we are gonna get thru this but give me a clue cause he won't ....I know of a motorcycle wreck in his past possibly while in his first marriage as it has been a problem that long ....yes groin was injured and its contents....now also he was in a rock and roll band into his twenties early thirtys....some hearing loss from those days ...yes ......and drinker on and off in seasons currently not a drinker??????????thank you wazzywoman