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Baby Shower Help Anyone? Posted: 08-13-07 01:04am


well my baby shower is going to be in September, and i have gone to one baby shower before so i know the just of games and goodies and such, but i want to make my baby shower different. most of my friends i'd be inviting are ranging from 17 to 20 because im a younger mom not a weirdo who has no friends (i am a teen pregnancy) and i want to make the shower more of a baby party, less games and more of something but i dont know what, or some way to spice up the games to make them more intresting to my friends. im also letting my boyfriend (the babys daddy) have a "game day" in the basement with all his guy friends, so he doesn't feel so weird with all those giggling girls. its going to be all teh girls upstairs with moms and grandmoms talking about babys, and playing games, and talking for a few hours, wile the guys play games in the basement. then then its gifts time they'd all come to the living room with cameras and such, the way a normal shower is. my mother hates this idea, thinks men shouldn't come to a shower. and the day is all about me. But this is 2007, and my friends are not used to babys and such, so the games would boar them, and i want everyone to have a good time. is this wrong and i should have a normal babys shower? or should i modernize it for my friends and family? and if anyone ahs any ideas i would love to hear it!!

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Posted: 08-13-07 02:01am


well i am throwing my own baby shower :] my mom says that someone else usually throws one fot ya but im doing mine myself im 16 yrs old so i know what your going through lol im haveing mine in october at a really nice park since we are expecting between 80-100 people and yes we are having all of travis friends come...his uncles and all is family both men and women the park idea is cool though because there is a covered picnic area for us girls to sit and chat and do all the girly stuff and then theres a BBQ pit and everything so we will have a big BBQ and then theres a playground and a pool for all of the kids to play and go swimming :]

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Posted: 08-13-07 07:45am


100 people at a baby shower?

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Posted: 08-13-07 09:27am

arcadia wrote:

100 people at a baby shower?

travis has a HUGE family..and then i have my whole family...my mom has 5 sisters and then all my cousins and my stepdads family as well.
and a few freinds... Very
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the_girlfreind wrote:

well i am throwing my own baby shower :] my mom says that someone else usually throws one fot ya but im doing mine myself
im 16 yrs old so i know what your going through lol

im haveing mine in october at a really nice park since we are expecting between 80-100 people
and yes we are having all of travis friends come...his uncles and all is family both men and women
the park idea is cool though because there is a covered picnic area for us girls to sit and chat and do all the girly stuff
and then theres a BBQ pit and everything so we will have a big BBQ
and then theres a playground and a pool for all of the kids to play and go swimming
:]

throwing your own shower.....sounds like your begging for gifts Laughing

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Posted: 08-13-07 09:51am

chase4 wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

throwing your own shower.....sounds like your begging for gifts Laughing

lol
well i think i have bad OCD or something because travis aunt tried to throw me one and she sent me and e mail saying she was going to throw it at her house and all this...and i started freaking out? i duuno why? but im a very orgnized person and i cant stand haveing others in control
so thats when i saud im doing it myself
of course im not paying for the food or anything
travis aunt and mom is paying for all that
but i picked the place and im doinfg all or most of the planning
hopefully it will go well because i dont know what the heck im doing

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Posted: 08-13-07 10:01am


I don't want to sound rude or anything, but that seems a little insulting. They tried to throw one for you & do something nice & you told them no, you wanted to do it yourself? I didn't like where my aunts' threw mine, but I was so incredibly grateful they threw me one.. It's not about where it is, or the food, or the activities.. It's about the people that care enough to do these things for you & actually show up.

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Posted: 08-13-07 10:01am


Wow, I thought that I was breaking etiquette protocol whenever I allowed my mom to throw me a shower. I think that someone not related to you is supposed to throw it. However, in my situation I allowed my mom to throw my baby and bridal shower because our family is so scattered and most of my aunts wouldn't come unless they knew the person throwing it. Also, I thought that I had allot of people at my bridal shower. I had about 60 -70 people there and I was amazed. My dad had 11 siblings though and my mom has 4, plus with all my cousins it came out to being that many people.

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Posted: 08-13-07 10:08am

arcadia wrote:

I don't want to sound rude or anything, but that seems a little insulting. They tried to throw one for you & do something nice & you told them no, you wanted to do it yourself? Confused

I didn't like where my aunts' threw mine, but I was so incredibly grateful they threw me one.. It's not about where it is, or the food, or the activities.. It's about the people that care enough to do these things for you & actually show up.

yeah i know i felt bad at fist
but you have NO idea how these people are
they have a problem shopping i guess and since im haveing a girl and no one on travis side of the family ahs a baby girl (all boys) everyone is overwhelmingly exited
i literally dont know what anyone is going to be able to buy for my baby shower because everything has already been bought...some of it twice Confused

plus she didnt mind that i wanted to do it myself
i just feel better that way
i hate excepting things from people. it makes me freak out and i get uncomfortable. i dunno...maybe its just me?
the whole family total comes to 76 people. not ALL of them will come but most of them probably will.
thats travis moms family,his dads family,my moms family,my dads family and my stepdads family.
then we still have to make up the list of family freinds and frends we want to come. which wont be that big...maybe 20 people?
but my church congregation is all comming. well not all of them but i come from a small church that i gre up going to and we have alot of freinds there who are comming too

blah
i need to finish my list

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Posted: 08-13-07 10:18am


I did not know atheists had church congregations. Interesting. And I agree with the other ladies. And if you already have everything, and some things twice, why don't you just have a family get together, let everyone plan it, and ask people not to bring a gift? That would be a little less greedy imo

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Posted: 08-13-07 10:35am


I think its great for your guy to be there, there is nothing wrong with that. You may find that you don't want to play games i went to one last wee the girl was 17 it was great, we got there and visited, then ate, and visited some more then opened gifts and then had desert it was very nicely done and there were no games played.

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Posted: 08-13-07 10:54am


when i had my baby shower for my first son i was expecting about 150 people since i was only a senior in high school and only about 50 people showed up... but the godmother of the baby (if catholic) is supposed to throw the baby shower. so the godmother of my son threw mine and i was kind of upset that she didnt want me to have anything to do with it because i wanted to help decorate and things like that but i just didn't say anything because i was just grateful to be having a baby shower but when the day came for the baby shower they ended up needing my help decorating anywayz. This time i wasn't expecting to have a baby shower since your only supposed to have one but i had plans to go out with my sister and mom for lunch on friday and when we showed up at my mom's house there were a few people there and it was a surprise baby shower for me... i definitely wasn't expecting it.

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Posted: 08-13-07 11:21am


To the orignal poster, having the guys there sounds great. But, really, they will get sick of watching you open gifts after they see approximately 200 tiny little outfits, rattles, swings, diapers, etc. Men don't have the same ooh and ahh feeling that women do. But they are your friends, and it is totally up to you what you have go on at your baby shower. If you want a game day shower, great. If you don't want to play games, that is great too.

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Posted: 08-13-07 14:33pm


now adays its do what you want so id just do what ever you wanted and have fun after all its all about you and that seet lil one.

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Posted: 08-13-07 15:07pm


Mike attended my shower with me. He was the photographer. He says he wouldn't have missed it. We had such a good time. Mike's mom and sister's threw my shower. I felt guilty even giving them names and numbers of my friends/family, because I didn't want to seem needy/greedy. I couldn't imagine actually throwing my own party. That kind of does seem a bit odd. Oh well to each their own.

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Posted: 08-13-07 15:29pm


my mom wanted to throw me one, basically she invited people she worked with that knew me. since i had no friends in fla lol. and my gma and cousin came by. But i eneded up doign the decorating and getting the food and everything and paying for all of it myself. My mom sucks at organizing anything, iw ould never throw my own shower, i didnt even have one with jordynne, but thats cuz i didnt know anyone here really, when my friend had her son i got her a gift and her son a gift and she did the same for me. If i knew guys i woulda invited them, if they wanted to come that is lol. my brother was there when i had mine but he stayed in his room. he didnt wnana be involved, i think nowadays you can get away with doing what you want at a babyshower.

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Re: Baby Shower Help Anyone?
Posted: 08-13-07 15:44pm

Saido wrote:

well my baby shower is going to be in September, and i have gone to one baby shower before so i know the just of games and goodies and such, but i want to make my baby shower different.

most of my friends i'd be inviting are ranging from 17 to 20 because im a younger mom not a weirdo who has no friends (i am a teen pregnancy) and i want to make the shower more of a baby party, less games and more of something but i dont know what, or some way to spice up the games to make them more intresting to my friends.

im also letting my boyfriend (the babys daddy) have a "game day" in the basement with all his guy friends, so he doesn't feel so weird with all those giggling girls. its going to be all teh girls upstairs with moms and grandmoms talking about babys, and playing games, and talking for a few hours, wile the guys play games in the basement. then then its gifts time they'd all come to the living room with cameras and such, the way a normal shower is.

my mother hates this idea, thinks men shouldn't come to a shower. and the day is all about me. But this is 2007, and my friends are not used to babys and such, so the games would boar them, and i want everyone to have a good time.

is this wrong and i should have a normal babys shower?
or should i modernize it for my friends and family?

and if anyone ahs any ideas i would love to hear it!!

In my community, and in my circle of friends, having guys at the shower for a baby has been pretty commonplace. In my opinion, NOT having guys at the shower seems to refer back to the time when guys weren't allowed in the delivery room, either. I guess if we expect fathers to be involved in childbirth and raising children, then we ought to include them in the shower too.

We did not play any games at either of my showers, but some fun ones I have played at other showers included "guess the baby food flavor" and "guess the baby picture". We also had little "Advice for parents" cards that people could write advice on and then someone read them aloud and you had to guess who wrote it. But, I know you don't have to have cheezy games to have an enjoyable shower.

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Posted: 08-13-07 15:46pm

the_girlfreind wrote:

well i am throwing my own baby shower :] my mom says that someone else usually throws one fot ya but im doing mine myself
im 16 yrs old so i know what your going through lol

What the...I...Uh.... Shocked

I would be 100% insulted and would NOT attend a shower thrown by the person themselves. I think that's really tacky.

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Posted: 08-13-07 15:50pm

sillyakchick wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

well i am throwing my own baby shower :] my mom says that someone else usually throws one fot ya but im doing mine myself
im 16 yrs old so i know what your going through lol

What the...I...Uh.... Shocked

I would be 100% insulted and would NOT attend a shower thrown by the person themselves. I think that's really tacky.

i agree.

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Posted: 08-13-07 16:34pm


It seems just really immature & silly to throw it yourself, ya know? It's like, "HEY! LOOK AT ME! I'M PREGNANT! I WANT STUFF!" I don't know. I wanted a baby shower REALLY bad, but if nobody was going to throw me one, I sure as hell wasn't going to do it myself. I don't know. I just think it seems juvenile.