How long have you two been together?

And has this ever happened before?

hmm
im sorry jaime
i dont know what to really say
how are the twins doing? i hope you guys are able to work things out for the best.
you deserve to be happy and treated with respect

good luck whatever happens

I don't really know what to say about going back but you should do what you feel is best for your children and the kind of example you want to set for them as women.

Will he really change? Is he willing to go to counseling? Can You truly trust him? Are you happy where you are(keep in mind, it has only been a short while since you have left. Only you can decide what will make you happy and know that I am here for you with whatever decision you make!
I wish you all the best with your decision!

only you can make this hard choice hun im sorry but if it ws me id be like !@#$ no! if he loved me sooo much then he wouldnt of cheated on me in the first place.

I'm sure he realizes what a loss losing you and the girls is. I would be afraid that he'd do it again. It's easy to "forgive" that type of thing, but not so easy to forget it. I know if it were me, I'd always be suspicious and thinking the worst. That wouldn't be healthy for you or your reationship.

Personally I think, once a cheat always a cheat.

At the end of the day you have to do what is right for you, and like someone else said what kind of example you want to set for the girls.

well said

i think well i dont know what to do in that situation really. But he has to be willing to change and show you he wants to to even consider it, my dad told me mom he would change when she left. So she came back and it ended up being the same crap, then my mom cheated and my dad fell in love with her again and now the same crap, so i dunno, maybe give him one last chance and if he messes it up your gone for good, but he has to go tocounseling etc.

It takes a strong woman not to go back.

well i thought he was cheating but he swears he has not cheated. he just says he left me cause i ran my mouth too much and would not drop things.which is true but hell i did not get the clue when he was telling me to shut the f up. i am use to being talked to like that so i did not think anything of it.

I think what you should ask yourself is: is this something I can live with? Whether he cheated or not (like any man, EVER in the history of men EVER admits that? Right. And monkeys might fly out my but-t), do you want to have a relationship like you had? Because, and trust me on this, it won't change. Oh, it will change for a couple months, but then it will be right back to what ever it was that made you leave.

So you only left because you thought he cheated? What made you think that?

well
what made you think he was cheating in the first place?

how are the girls doing?

There was obviously something in his actions that made you not trust him so you might want to think on that subject adn try to figure out why it caused you distress.

And also, why are you so used to being spoken to and told to shut the f up? No one should be treated that way at any point in there lives.

no i left cause he left me with the house which i could not afford and i had no family there. so i came here to tenn where i have a friend.
only reason i thought he cheated was cause i heard a girl in the backround when i was trying to talk to him one night. he said it was his friends girlfriend.

Girls are fine.


all my life i have always been talked to like that.either it be my father or brothrs or a b/f or husband.
but i dont talk to my family anymore .

So not true.

I thought you were the one who was going to leave him first? You said you were going to pack up your stuff, drain the bank account and leave. Maybe I have misread something along the way... but this doesn't sound healthy at all. Whether you were going to leave him or he left you - either way, you two have some serious work to do.

i left town and drained the accound after he already moved back to his grandma's.

i think i am going to go back and see if we can work it out.

these people i am staying with are probably going to be mad.

What are you going to do if he decides to leave you again?