Need Others' Point of Views . am i insane or is she crazy ? Posted: 08-12-07 16:45pm
okay so i dated this girl for about 3
months. she broke up with me, i was fine,
it hurt for a few days, then completely
over her, whatever, no big deal. clean
break, no arguing or anything. untill.....
okay i left a few things over at her
house. worth about $50 (one priceless to
me). she was really friendly, saying "hey
bud, come get your stuff you left over
here!" i was busy and she lives out of my
way, so i waited 5-6 days and when i tried
to come get it, she kept making up excuses
of why i couldnt come over. then a few
days later she tells me that she already
threw it all away!!! we had a fine break
up! it was a freaking pair of shorts,
necklace and a hat. she couldnt keep it
for a few extra days?? no room in her
mansion? (parents are super rich) so i
asked her why, and she gets super pissed
saying that im cheap and she hates me, and
i shoulda came and got it. oh and by the
way, i baught her a gift right before we
broke up, and i still gave it to her AFTER
we broke up.
she thinks she is totally right and at no
fault. im so piissssssssssseddd off! am i
insane or is this girl freaking
CRAAAZZYYYY??? why would she do this????
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entices1
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Joined: 25 Apr 2007 Posts: 120 Location: North Florida, USA
One Point of View Posted: 08-12-07 18:25pm
Hi, SlimJim87:
I can provide one point of view from "the
other side" (I'm 50 and have gone through
my share of heartbreaks).
Why did she do it? Because if she's as
super rich as you say she is, very little
holds any value for her. Including people
and their feelings. She probably sees you
as little more than a pebble on a beach,
one out of many to be picked up, carried
along for awhile, then skipped into the
water to see how many times you'll
bounce.
I was lucky--in my first breakup I got
everything I gave back (it wasn't much but
it was priceless to me). That could be
because I was there when he broke it off.
All totaled it probably wasn't worth more
than a few bucks (this was back in 1980)
but it meant everything in the world to
me.
Why in heaven's name would you give her
something after you broke up? You didn't
save the receipt? You certainly could
have returned it to the store and gotten a
credit to use at some time in the future.
People can be extremely heartless and I'm
sorry you were victimized by one so
uncaring. Mourn your loss (when you look
back after awhile you'll see that it was
waaay more her loss than yours) and move
on with your life. There are some
questions that will never be answered and
many of them have to do with
relationships.
Good luck and do keep posting.
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dj12
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2006 Posts: 31 Location: , New Zealand
Posted: 08-15-07 09:47am
shes crazy. shes probably just wants the
drama
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SlimJim87
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Aug 2007 Posts: 8
Re: One Point of View Posted: 09-03-07 14:31pm
entices1
wrote:
Hi, SlimJim87:
I can provide one point of view from "the
other side" (I'm 50 and have gone through
my share of heartbreaks).
Why did she do it? Because if she's as
super rich as you say she is, very little
holds any value for her. Including people
and their feelings. She probably sees you
as little more than a pebble on a beach,
one out of many to be picked up, carried
along for awhile, then skipped into the
water to see how many times you'll
bounce.
I was lucky--in my first breakup I got
everything I gave back (it wasn't much but
it was priceless to me). That could be
because I was there when he broke it off.
All totaled it probably wasn't worth more
than a few bucks (this was back in 1980)
but it meant everything in the world to
me.
Why in heaven's name would you give her
something after you broke up? You didn't
save the receipt? You certainly could
have returned it to the store and gotten a
credit to use at some time in the future.
People can be extremely heartless and I'm
sorry you were victimized by one so
uncaring. Mourn your loss (when you look
back after awhile you'll see that it was
waaay more her loss than yours) and move
on with your life. There are some
questions that will never be answered and
many of them have to do with
relationships.
Good luck and do keep
posting.
i dont give a crap about the relationship,
im just mad about my stuff! and i still
gave her the gift cause i bought it off
ebay so couldnt return it, but she didnt
know that (yea the main reason she broke
up with me was cause i was "cheap"
hahahah). its a month later and im still
mad.
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lonestarguy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 585 Location: , Hoosierland, USA
Thanks: 9
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Good Riddance Posted: 09-03-07 15:26pm
No, you're not crazy. She's the one who
threw your stuff away. It doesn't matter
how much it's worth, it's still yours and
she shouldn't have thrown it out.
The gift was a gesture on your part, as
far as she knew, to show there were no
hard feelings. Tell me, who is not going
to look cheap to a rich girl? Answer: A
rich guy.
You have the right to be mad.
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entices1
Supporter
Joined: 25 Apr 2007 Posts: 120 Location: North Florida, USA
Re: Good Riddance Posted: 09-04-07 18:47pm
Of course you have every right to be upset
about the way this one turned out but
after you've mourned your loss (however
you do it) you need to move on. Everyone
heals at different rates so don't
necessarily listen to those people who
tell you to snap out of it (unless they're
your good friends).
She is
, no doubt about that and you may be able
to take comfort in the fact that she is a
very lonely person with a hollow core.
All the money, jewels, stock options,
whatever won't fill up her void.
Unfortunately you won't get your stuff
back and you have a right to stomp around
for awhile but all the stomping won't
bring it back. You will, however, find
other treasures that, although they won't
be able to take the place of the stuff
that's gone, will hold special memories
for you.
Lonestarguy is on the mark about her, as
are the other posters.
Please keep posting--you need to get this
out of your system and on to more healthy
things.
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