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Q: I don't feel anything while having sex !
asked by: S4star on August 12th, 2007
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Im 18 yrs old and bin havin sex for nearly a year and a half now but i feel nothing. If i get sexually aroused it doesn't last vry long, definatly not long enough for sex. I dont get sexually aroused often durin foreplay or rly ny sexual contact what so ever. im sick of faking that it even feels good 2 my bf. Wev spokn abot it but i havnt told him that iv faked it every single time. i dnt c how a guy can do so much wrong over and over again that i feel nothing. Ny ideas people wud b much appreciated. Smile
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Tylanas
replied on August 12th, 2007
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Hi... it seems like this is the answer I give every girl but... do you masturbate? Knowing what makes you feel good by yourself can help you tell your boyfriend what to do.

If you think it might be something more serious than that, you should go to a counselor. They can help you!
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HealthySex
replied on August 12th, 2007
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Haha, and this feels like the answer I give every girl, not because I think it's their problem, but because I think it's a very unknown aspect of female arousal and orgasm that has shown to be true, and I'd hate for someone never to find the missing piece to the puzzle.

Histamine levels play a role in your arousal and ability to achieve orgasm. High levels make it easy, low levels make it hard. Same for men. L-Histidine, an amino acid would increase it, L-Methionine would decrease it.

You can talk to your doctor about your concerns and if you're curious about what I mention, you can have your Histamine levels checked.

-Histidine is involved in the function of the thalamus and hypothalamus glands, and orgasm is triggered when histamine is released from the mast cells in the genitals. Histamine also causes the sexual flush that occurs during arousal. Many women fail to achieve sexual pleasure and orgasm, and often other treatments including psychotherapy may be unsuccessful. This problem may be a result of a biochemical imbalance, since sufficient histamine must be present in order to trigger an orgasm. Deficiencies of L-Histidine will effect histamine levels.

-Supplementing with L-Histidine will increase histamine levels as proved by Carl Pfeiffer, M.D., and Ph.D. in his research on non-orgasmic women. He administered doses of 500mg. of L-Histidine (1) before each meal (for a total of 3 per day) restoring sexual pleasure in women. (He also helped women who had irregular periods become regular by giving doses of 4g. per day).
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Georgia59
replied on August 13th, 2007
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Yeah, masturbate!!! Figure out what feels good, and figure out how to simulate it during sex!

Also, if you are on hormonal birth control, it can lower/extinguish your sexual desire. Many girls don't know this. If you suspect this is the case, switch to a different pill or whatever.
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almondjoy
replied on September 9th, 2007
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Your Not Alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hear ya, I have never had a orgasm with intercourse, I'm 27 years old. I have faked every orgasm. I have no problem having one while masturbating, or with oral sex. If my husband knew that I have been faking all this time he would have a heart attack. We have been together for 10 years.
Sorry, enough about me. I'm sure that it is of no concern, but I would tell your boyfriend. I'm sure he would love to take on the challenge ha ha.
If your still worried I would go to your gyno. If I have any advice at all, it is take care of it now. There are so many things out there anymore. That how I ended up here, I'm not waiting any longer I want help. Smile
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Staocheb
replied on September 11th, 2007
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Re: I Don't Feel Anything While Having Sex !
S4star wrote:
Im 18 yrs old and bin havin sex for nearly a year and a half now but i feel nothing. If i get sexually aroused it doesn't last vry long, definatly not long enough for sex. I dont get sexually aroused often durin foreplay or rly ny sexual contact what so ever. im sick of faking that it even feels good 2 my bf. Wev spokn abot it but i havnt told him that iv faked it every single time. i dnt c how a guy can do so much wrong over and over again that i feel nothing. Ny ideas people wud b much appreciated. Smile


WOW It's typical... And normal. You have problems with sex drive. Try Sentia pills for women to increase it. Or find something else. I know about and use only Sentia, it's effective.
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AmandaRae123
replied on September 13th, 2007
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where can you buy Sentenia?

and is not feeling anything during sexual intercourse a very uncommon problem?? i've been researching this issue for a while and get the same info more lube, and try masterbation. it has to be a better solution to this problem
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Georgia59
replied on September 13th, 2007
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If you get aroused but can't feel the pleasure, it's a problem of not knowing how to pleasure yourself, not a lack of sex drive.

Masturbation really is important. Because if you can't figure out how to make anything feel good, a guy will NEVER figure it out. Play around with EVERYTHING and see what feels good. And do it for a long time without expecting an orgasm, just see what feels best for you. And not just the vagina, but definitely the clit, and labia and the whole genital area.

If you really think you have an abnormally low sex drive (you never or rarely desire sex in the first place) than you need to see a doctor. If you feel that you are actually lacking feeling, you need to see a doctor.

But if not, just keep playing around!!! It's stress relieving, anyway. Wink
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AmandaRae123
replied on September 13th, 2007
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i feel everyting with my clit.

but when it comes to putting a dildo or having a guy's penis inside of me..nothing is happening in there. not the slightest hint of pleasure is going on.
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Georgia59
replied on September 13th, 2007
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Like I said in your post, it's normal. You just gotta figure out how to make it work for you.
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AmandaRae123
replied on September 13th, 2007
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okay. i'll give it another try
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Georgia59
replied on September 13th, 2007
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Good luck! Wink
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Tylanas
replied on September 13th, 2007
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AmandaRae123 wrote:
i feel everyting with my clit.

but when it comes to putting a dildo or having a guy's penis inside of me..nothing is happening in there. not the slightest hint of pleasure is going on.


Oh! Wow, yes, that's normal XD I'm there too. I don't have a completely lack of pleasure but I can't vaginally orgasm.
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teagz
replied on September 14th, 2007
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WOW, i have the same problem 2 so dont worry your not alone. i was also worried about it. i would like to where can you buy Sentenia?
Does any1 know?
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Tylanas
replied on September 14th, 2007
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teagz wrote:
WOW, i have the same problem 2 so dont worry your not alone. i was also worried about it. i would like to where can you buy Sentenia?
Does any1 know?

There's no need for sentenia, which is what we're trying to tell the OP. If you have a strong sex drive and you get aroused just fine, then you don't have a libido issue!! You are simply like most other women on the planet.

The clitoris evolved for sexual pleasure, not the vagina.
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AmandaRae123
replied on September 15th, 2007
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Eiri wrote:
AmandaRae123 wrote:
i feel everyting with my clit.

but when it comes to putting a dildo or having a guy's penis inside of me..nothing is happening in there. not the slightest hint of pleasure is going on.


Oh! Wow, yes, that's normal XD I'm there too. I don't have a completely lack of pleasure but I can't vaginally orgasm.


see at least you do feel something in there. i don't. how is not feeling anything normal though??
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Tylanas
replied on September 15th, 2007
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AmandaRae123 wrote:
Eiri wrote:
AmandaRae123 wrote:
i feel everyting with my clit.

but when it comes to putting a dildo or having a guy's penis inside of me..nothing is happening in there. not the slightest hint of pleasure is going on.


Oh! Wow, yes, that's normal XD I'm there too. I don't have a completely lack of pleasure but I can't vaginally orgasm.


see at least you do feel something in there. i don't. how is not feeling anything normal though??

Because every woman is different. Some women enjoy vaginal penetration - Most actually, I'd say - though most can't orgasm from it. Other women don't enjoy it and get nothing from it. But it can be a mental thing too. The feeling of being "filled" can be erotic. And then feeling that object move against the outer parts feels good too, like the labia and clitoris.
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AmandaRae123
replied on September 16th, 2007
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Because every woman is different. Some women enjoy vaginal penetration - Most actually, I'd say - though most can't orgasm from it. Other women don't enjoy it and get nothing from it. But it can be a mental thing too. The feeling of being "filled" can be erotic. And then feeling that object move against the outer parts feels good too, like the labia and clitoris.


I feel like an outcast to not be one of the many women who enjoy intercourse. Especially in society where sexual intercouse is made out to be the end all be all of lovemaking. I don't know how to deal with this.
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Tylanas
replied on September 16th, 2007
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AmandaRae123 wrote:
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Because every woman is different. Some women enjoy vaginal penetration - Most actually, I'd say - though most can't orgasm from it. Other women don't enjoy it and get nothing from it. But it can be a mental thing too. The feeling of being "filled" can be erotic. And then feeling that object move against the outer parts feels good too, like the labia and clitoris.


I feel like an outcast to not be one of the many women who enjoy intercourse. Especially in society where sexual intercouse is made out to be the end all be all of lovemaking. I don't know how to deal with this.

Deal with it by coming in to the real world of sex for females. Ignore the media. For real women, vaginal orgasm isn't a simple "insert part a into part b" thing. It's not always pleasurable. It's not always enjoyable. It takes a caring male (or female) partner to actually care about a female who doesn't gush and scream out orgasms from two seconds of intercourse.

Like I said on another topic, clitoral stimulation during vagina intercourse is very very normal. I would never orgasm unless I did it.
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AmandaRae123
replied on September 16th, 2007
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Having an orgasm isn't my primary issue..being able to feel pleasure while bieng penetrated it. I guess an orgasm would come secondary. But for now, I don't feel any pleasure. I want it to at least feel good.
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