My brother told me last night that he is planning on proposing to his girlfriend, but he is undecided on what to do about the ring. Apparently, they've had all the conversations and she knows he is going to propose and he knows she will say yes. He wants the proposal to be a big public statement, like a proposal in the middle of a baseball game.

Unfortunately, he also wants to make sure that she will have the exact ring she wants to wear for the rest of her life. He doesn't want to go ring shopping with her before the proposal, and wants advice on whether he can do a big public proposal without a ring. He doesn't want her to be dissappointed with the proposal because there wasn't a ring, but he also doesn't want her to be dissappointed with the ring.

My dh and I went shopping together to pick out my ring. We ended up getting something that was a bit different than what either one of us individually would have selected, but it is the perfect ring. It was informative, too, because a lot of rings were uncomfortable or weren't a good look for my hands.

My brother told me that I am more practical than his fiance to be and he doesn't know whether she will appreciate the opportunity to pick out her own engagement ring more than she would appreciate having a ring at the proposal.

Any thoughts or advice for my brother?