i am in a new relationship after coming out of a 19 year celibate marriage during which i had a hysterectomy.i think i may have healed incorrectly.we were both in pain after intercourse until he stopped entering me completely. we have about 1 1/2 inches after he hits the cervix. he says as long as im happy he's satisfied and i am but still worried how do we apply attention to his base? we need a spacer like on a bolt thats too long, what is appropriate for this situation. any ideas out there when i used a vibrator during my marriage i could use around 7 inches quite well so im thinking hes 8 1/2 to 9 but havent pulled out a ruler as i want to focus on the friendship and romance aspect of this love. he is also really gentle and lets me decide when im ready he just asks that i not expect him to be able to ejaculate on a timetable more often than every 12 hours as hes not that young anymore, but he is able to perform on an almost constant basis (well every 2-4 hours). and i've been taking him up on the offer pretty constantly for about 1 month. will i stretch if i wait longer between couplings?