Problem With Erection ! Help! Posted: 08-10-07 12:36pm
hey guys, my problem began after 4 months
of dating with my gf. We were sexually
active for maybe 6-7 times a week ( 20
years of age) i never had a problem
getting it up or anything like it. until
recently we had huge fights,for a week or
so , almost broke up. Just a couple of
days we got back together and wanted to
have sex and i had problem to get it up. I
still felt frustrated about our fight
recently and coudnt concentrate on sex. My
gf got upset and thought that i am no
longer attractive to her which is not
true. Yesterday she came over my house and
i felt relaxed and again i had problem
getting it up after making out with her
and touching. it took us a few minutes for
me to get it hard which i felt was
embarrassing. Now i feel insecure about
myself is there something wrong with me ?
this never happened to me before please
give me advice. ( and i am attracted to my
gf, i just dont feel horny and secure
about myself after what happened)
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HealthySex
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 414
Posted: 08-10-07 17:02pm
Sounds like it's stress related. There are
tons of thread on this board with advice
for your problem. Give it a search.
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groza
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Aug 2007 Posts: 2 Location: ny
Posted: 08-10-07 18:39pm
HealthySex
wrote:
Sounds like it's stress
related. There are tons of thread on this
board with advice for your problem. Give
it a search.
yea i think so too, because i dont have a
problem getting it up, lets say if i look
at porn its goes up no problem. but once i
get intimate with my gf one thing that i
noticed 1st of all is that i am not horny
at all. i want to have sex but i get all
stressed out about not being able to get
it up again and all the thought about sex
is not in my brain anymore. i really hope
its nothing medical but even today the
thought of having sex with her got me so
stressed out that i knew 100% that i wount
get it up lost my confidence
P.S i searched this website for advices
havent seen anything yet, but getting
drunk and trying it or relaxing thats all
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HealthySex
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 414
Posted: 08-10-07 19:30pm
Talking to the girl, letting her know it's
not her, that you may just be stressed,
and such is a good start. If it doesn't
come up, don't make a bid deal out of it,
it will happen soon enough. Just have
fun.
Also, just concentrate on her. Don't think
about you, your erections, getting hard or
anything like that. Just work on pleasing
her in any way that you and her like, that
doesn't involve your penis. It may do two
things for you. One, you still had sex and
are fulfilling a relationship need even if
it didn't involve penetrative intercourse.
Two, hopefully it will automatically relax
you because you're not in your worrying
mind and the act being sexual will give
you an erection.
Just don't make the act about getting an
erection. If you get one, good. If you
don't, you still had a good time and
there's always next time.
