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Q: Problem With Erection ! Help!

asked by: groza on August 10th, 2007

New User

hey guys, my problem began after 4 months of dating with my gf. We were sexually active for maybe 6-7 times a week ( 20 years of age) i never had a problem getting it up or anything like it. until recently we had huge fights,for a week or so , almost broke up. Just a couple of days we got back together and wanted to have sex and i had problem to get it up. I still felt frustrated about our fight recently and coudnt concentrate on sex. My gf got upset and thought that i am no longer attractive to her which is not true. Yesterday she came over my house and i felt relaxed and again i had problem getting it up after making out with her and touching. it took us a few minutes for me to get it hard which i felt was embarrassing. Now i feel insecure about myself is there something wrong with me ? this never happened to me before please give me advice. ( and i am attracted to my gf, i just dont feel horny and secure about myself after what happened)

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HealthySex

replied on August 10th, 2007

Experienced User

Sounds like it's stress related. There are tons of thread on this board with advice for your problem. Give it a search.

groza

replied on August 10th, 2007

New User

HealthySex wrote:

Sounds like it's stress related. There are tons of thread on this board with advice for your problem. Give it a search.

yea i think so too, because i dont have a problem getting it up, lets say if i look at porn its goes up no problem. but once i get intimate with my gf one thing that i noticed 1st of all is that i am not horny at all. i want to have sex but i get all stressed out about not being able to get it up again and all the thought about sex is not in my brain anymore. i really hope its nothing medical but even today the thought of having sex with her got me so stressed out that i knew 100% that i wount get it up lost my confidence

P.S i searched this website for advices havent seen anything yet, but getting drunk and trying it or relaxing thats all

HealthySex

replied on August 10th, 2007

Experienced User

Talking to the girl, letting her know it's not her, that you may just be stressed, and such is a good start. If it doesn't come up, don't make a bid deal out of it, it will happen soon enough. Just have fun.

Also, just concentrate on her. Don't think about you, your erections, getting hard or anything like that. Just work on pleasing her in any way that you and her like, that doesn't involve your penis. It may do two things for you. One, you still had sex and are fulfilling a relationship need even if it didn't involve penetrative intercourse. Two, hopefully it will automatically relax you because you're not in your worrying mind and the act being sexual will give you an erection.

Just don't make the act about getting an erection. If you get one, good. If you don't, you still had a good time and there's always next time.

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