Have you dated before u married?
if she is older than 50 she may have some changes in sexual life, but completely asexual???


anyway:
buy her a sexy dress , light candles, open a champaign, tell that she is the one ..etc and enjoy the evening.....

a lack of appreciation can lead to a bulimia, she needs to be loved in the first place, after u have accomplished your task, if u do love her!!!, u may take her to doctors.(u can share but not disclaim responsibility)


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i think that she should try to fight her ED first before she can even begin to tackle the issue of her asexuality. The reason i say this is because if she feels disgusted in herself and her appearance and body she is less likely to want to have sex. It is hard to explain how deep feelings of insecurity may go, and therefore i think she should try to tackle these first, the minute she feels happier in herself and with herself her confidence may grow and she may be more open to intamacy. With intamacy comes trust and becasue of her ED it may be hard for her to trust another person so much that she is able to reveal what she sees as her faults without the security of her ED. ED's can affect the chemicals in your brain causing sex drive to dissolve. This could be true for your wife especially if she has a low weight.talk to her. Reassure her that you love her and are there for her. Don' t talk to much about her lack of sex drive as it may make her feel as if she is letting you down. The fact that you have come on here shows that you care for her and that you want her better.

[quote="la belle et la bete"]i think that she should try to fight her ED first before she can even begin to tackle the issue of her asexuality.

La belle,

I agree a lot with you, but i can not imagine how she can fight it herself, if she is in a need of help she should get it. a self cure is very hard. furthermore, if she understands that her husband is uncomfortable with their intimacy, she receives additional pressure.

I think that in this case a husband who cares and it is obvious that he cares, otherwise he would not have been in the forum, is a very valuable key to her releaf. Giving her love on the first place will give her power to overcome the ED.

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